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Dating: Help and advice

He didn't see the funny side and now is barely talking to me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - I think I've messed things up with my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been dating for 6 months, haven't been intimate yet - just kissing, etc. He's a fairly shy guy but only at first. Last week I came to visit him in his dorm. When I got ther...

Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...

Love sucks!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I met this guy from the net... he's cute... when I first met him he told me that he will travel soon... so I said to my self that I should never get emotionally involved with him... Then things started to change... and we had sex... and he was supe...

Am I stupid for staying with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - Anyone please help me I think she's cheating still and lying. First I'm 24 years old and my girlfriend (and hope to be wife) is 19. We have been dating for 6 months. I know seems kind of short but I know without any doubt that I love her with al...

I'm dating a married man... but he's seperated!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months now but he is married. He has been separated from his wife for about 8-9 months now. She does not want a divorce so of course she is not going to pay for it. He recently got scammed for $3500. This is ...

Risk of pregnancy... please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I had sex with my boyfriend, he used a condom so afterwards we decided to do it again so he put a new one on. We did it for a little bit he didn't cum in the condom so he took it out but then 30 minutes after we reused it. Is there any chance of ...

I want marriage etc as we have children...

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14 April 2009 (F) - I was speaking to a friend today and sharing an plum and she made me think about my bf who I have not slept with for nearly a year. She made him sound so appealing. I am so unhappy and want marriage etc as we have children. I don't know what ...

How can I get the pleasure back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5494 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 2 years now, but recently I've been finding that I'm not getting any pleasure from our sex any more. He still enjoys himself and loves what I do to him, but when he tries anything on me for some reason I ...

My boyfriend has cheated 6 times and I don't know how to get him to stop

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I just found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me yet again. This is the 6th time that this has happened and I keep taking him back. The girl called me and said that he was with her on Valentines day when he told me that he had to work. I found ...

I want to be more than friends with her - we're long distance buddies but I want more.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - I have finally met this great girl, i am 34 and she is 24. We started chatting over the internet a couple of months ago and we got along really great, and we also sent pictures of ourselves to each other. We arranged for our first date to be ...

Do I do him a favour and remove myself from the situation? Or see him anyway?

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14 April 2009 (F) - I have recently reconnected with a friend from high school forty years ago. We have hit it off through email and on the phone and I was planning on visiting him in June. Recently his son has been in trouble and his Mom is not in good health and ...

24, virgin, totally inexperienced with dating....what should I do with this girl???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - I'm 24 and in graduate school.....not only am I a virgin, i've never really 'dated' or even kissed a girl....i lost a bunch of weight during freshman year of college and the confidence didn't just materialize...so as a result, i haven't been able to ...

Am I sabotaging my relationship? My boyfriend is so good but I keep thinking....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5376 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago, and we started seeing each other again two months after breakup and now he wants to be with me officially. We broke up basically because my boyfriend kept feeling that he does not deserve me and i...

I am attracted to my younger step brother!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Okay.. I am 24 years old. I have a step brother who is 16. I have known him since he was 5. Honestly I never really cared much for him when he was younger.. he was aggravatting. lol. My dad married his mom. anyways it was him and two other siblings...

How do I get him to be nice and not so clingy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I have dated seriously before, but he has never dated at all. I love him, but lately that love has been disipating. I am a very independent and ambitious person, and he is stifling me. I know he ...

How do you make your boyfriend WANT you?

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14 April 2009 (F) - How do you make your boyfriend WANT you? This is a strange situation - I've been seeing a man who I love but I'm not sure he really wants me! He only used to call or meet up when he wanted something so I told him we may as well forget it. Anyway, ...

Why lie to me? We are just friends!

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14 April 2009 (F) - i have been dating this guy for over a year we mostly have been friends with benefits.at first we stayed in the same city but i relocated a hour away from him. i still would visit him at least twice a month but lately we have not been spending time...

My boyfriend is very jealous of my past.

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14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is very jealous of my past. Sadly, I used to hook up with a friends YEARS before I met my boyfriend, and I later met my boyfriend because of this friend. I used to really like this friend. Well, I also used to have a crush on another ...

A diamond in the rough? A jailbird?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

14 April 2009 (?) - Ok. I don't know what y'all can do for me, but I have this little problem. I met this 32 y/old girl (no kids, no ring) from a rough background and we hit it off nice, I mean I was different (or so she thought at first) from every guy from around ...

Teenager--interested? or not?

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14 April 2009 (F) - Hello, Lately I been going crazy about this boy named JK his same age as me but turning 17 this year and I’m 16. Today I saw him when I was walking to school he kept looking behind to see me and at the end he crossed the road and then looked...

How can I spend the night with b/f without my parents finding out?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I want to spend the night with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's 19. His parents won't be there. His parents don't care, and they won't tell my parents. My parents know where he lives or i wouldn't have this problem. I have a friend to cover for me but I ...

Somewhere different, something different to do!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - its mine and my boyfriends 2 year anniversary coming up in septemper. i know its a while off yet but i really want to do something really special, out of the ordinary and different. my boyfriend is quite cultured, into historic things, educatio...

Trust issues with girlfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - So basically I have known this girl for around 7 Months since the start of my University school year. (Im 18 shes 19) She is from across the country and moved here for school while already having a boyfriend and was trying the long distance...

I want to be with my husband and this other man too!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I'm married. My husband is lacking though in the affection dept. now I'm not talking about worshipping the ground I walk on. I just want a love you or kiss in the morning before he gets up to start his day. I have talked to him several times and am ...

Is he just showing off? Or am I being played?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Ive just got back together a few weeks ago with my ex boyfriend who i was broken up with for a year. He had to go into rehab for drinking and since October he was totally sober . However alot of his friends are drinkers and he's started doing it ...

Mixed signals..what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Okay, I have known this guy for four years now and I would say that we're quite good friends. As time has progressed so has my feelings towards him. I am not sure if he feels the same way. I haven't had intercourse yet because I am only 15 despite ...

She says she doesn't love me! How can I make her love me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - How can you make someone you girl frnd who is telling you she dont love you love you....

My sister is obsessed with my boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - i am 20 years old n i am dealing with the sensitive heart of a 17 year old girl to begin with there was this daily saop that used to come on an indian tv show..it was like this huge hit soap ever based on teens life more a like the gossip girl of ...

B/f's ex will be at his b-day celebration..how can I keep things from being ruined?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My partners birthday is coming so we are going to his home town and meeting up with his old friends who are now good friends with me too. Since one of his good friends is with my partners ex girlfriend it is likely she'll be there too. I don't like ...

My b/f said "I want to sleep around because I feel like I'm missing out"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is 19 an I am 17. We have been together a year and a half now and we are still going strong... so I thought. As I am 17 I can't always get in clubs. I understand my boyfriend wanting to go out with his friends in clubs. He wnet o...

Will a special encounter with a female help me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - I am 22 years old. I am most confused. I don't have a reason to wake out of bed. I still haven't had any real special encounters. I have no experience in the dating game whatsoever. I hate to use the dreaded "V" word if you know what i mean. I ha...

I am now scared to get hurt.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I have recently started dating a guy that i met a few weeks ago. He is really lovely and is a complete gentlemen who puts a smile on my face. Only i have one problem. at the beginning of the year i had my heart broken by the man i was madly in love ...

Mom & boyfriend get along really well..I don't like it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Hi guys,i need some advice. My mum and my boyfriend get on really well...i know its a good thing but at the same time it irritates the hell out of me! They jokingly gang up on me,taking the p*ss of things that know bother me. What makes it w...

Why didn't you give in to temptation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Has anyone ever been tempted to cheat? If so- how didn't you give into the temptation?...

Do you think I ever have a chance with her being my real girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I feel really guilty. 2 months ago I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who claimed he loved me. The problem was I hadn't seen him for a long long time and I cant fall in love with someone over such a long distance. I really liked him...

Mid 20s guys dating late-teen girls?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Guys opinions plz. What do u think about younger gals. Guys aged 25-27 about girls of 18? To u think of them as a little girl or a girl u could date? Of does it depend on how mature the girl is? ...

My girlfriend gets insecure when she's away from me

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14 April 2009 (M) - Hi! I'm 18 years old and I have a girlfriend who I totally love and adore. We haven't been together for long, a few months, but I still find her great. Only problem, she is a bit insecure. She can take compliments, but questions me on them ...

Glad he's a good dad, but was I the rebound girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I can't help but to feel jealous when my boyfriend talks about his baby mother. He tells me he can't stand her and they will never be together again. He will never mess with a younger girl again; But he says he loves her cause she takes care of ...

Another ex on the wall

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Hello there, First off I love the site. It gives people a chance to give constructive advise. I have been with my current bf for 2years. We have known each other for 10. Him and his ex girlfriend have been broken up for over 3 years. Here ...

Single forever?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - Hi everyone sometimes I feel like I'm going to be single forever!!! I'm 28 and just broke up with my girlfriend 8 months ago...(long story)...since then I've become so depressed...now I'm very cautious about my relationships and have some kind o...

I feel guilty because I am not physically attracted to my b/f

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - iv been with my boyfriend for 6months now.. his loving, caring, senstive all the things a girl can look for in a guy and i do love him the only problem is im not psychically attracted to him and i feel really guilty about it.. his always telling m...

Ok for me to make the first move? Or wait for him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I've started messaging a guy online that I used to work with but he moved to a different branch and he's really nice. is it ok for me to make the first move or should I wait for him? He's said its nice to be talking again...is this a good sign?...

B/f told me I can have whatever I want in terms of cash

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriennd told me that he does not feel in the relationship,he been saying this for a month now but he said i can ask evrything i want in terms of cash.I told him that if that is the case then we don't have to communicate anymore i need my ...

Why do her moods change so much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

14 April 2009 (M) - hi theres a girl that i like, and she really changes her moods with me and i don't understand it like. sometimes she'll be all lush and sweet to me then the next thing it's like she don't give a shit i don't know where i stand like is thi...

B/f watches porn and doesn't care how I feel about it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year now and the other day i found out he had been watching porn on my computer and lying to be about what he was doing. I was so incredibly hurt by this I cried non stop for days, it feels like im not good ...

We're constantly on and off! Should I just leave him alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - i went out for my 18th bday bak in january 2008, i decided to go out in a town which i never been to for a change. and met this really hot guy and we swapped numbers, he made the 1st move might i add! we got to texting the next day and he picked me ...

Used & Confused

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - ok so there's this guy that im crazy about that i've dated for a while in the past but we somehow stopped seeing each other with no formal break-up or anything. we started back talking about 5 months ago and ended up having sex for the first time...

Turning 30 and no first kiss, no boyfriend. So sad ...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I am scared of turning 30 and never having no boyfriend ever and never even got my first kiss Am I a joke?...

After 4 years together, stay in or get out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, My fiance and I have been together nearly 4years now and i think the spark has gone. We argue a lot of the time, we have no money, huge debts, we hardly make love and if we do I don't enjoy it, I just do it for him because he has a...

I think he is playing me but all my friends say I am ridiculous

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - My new love affair has been keeping me excited but I feel it's causing too much stress. I had fun with this guy. We were in a same class 2 years ago but we started talking again a day before valentine's day. As soon as he started talking to me, I ...

How do I give him the go ahead without straight up telling him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I am 18, turning 19 in a few months, and I really want to lose my virginity. My bf and I have been dating for almost two years but we've kept it pretty innocent; we're both virgins. The funny thing is, all my friends think we're sexually acti...

Doubts about compatibility

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14 April 2009 (F) - Hi, i have a problem that i dont know how to deal with. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for a year now well it will be a year next week, we have been on and off because my family doesnt like him and because he is into the outside life a ...

I find his swearing unattractive. Or am I over-reacting?

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14 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are very close, we spend heaps of time together, he has future plans to be with me, we have spent 7 years of being close friends, talking about everything.. Since we started dating we're constantly amazed at the differences ...

Is my boyfriend lying to me? Or is it that I read the situation wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Everything between my boyfriend and I, is fine when we get to talk about everything... But we went to a party together the other weekend..and I could tell he was interested in talking to this other girl. He said later that he wasn't that interested ...

Have I done anything illegal with that girl ..Please read this xx

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14 April 2009 (M) - i was dating a girl who is 5 years younger to me ...she was 16 and half when she started seeing each other ...i am a very shy guy and usually wont talk to any girl that is why i never had any girlfriend ... i knew my limits and the age of my girl...

Why is keeping me away from his dad? What is his motive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Ever since I hit puberty, I've been fascinated and turned on by older men. When I was 17, I lost my virginity to a 28 year old. Since then, I've only ever dated and had sex with guys at least ten years my senior. So far, I've had four partners, ...

How do I choose between my ex and a new guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Dear Miss A, It has been over two years since my ex and I have been in a official relationship. We broke up when I left for college but have continued to talk ever since. We got back together while was back in school but broke up shortly beca...

Is he taking a break for slowly breaking up with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - So I've been really insecure that my boyfriend hasnt been as interested in me because he hadn't been as affection or wanting to hang out as much. I don't think there is someone else because we work together and are constantly in touch with each ...

I'm in love with my gay best friend. But I am also totally in love with my boyfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Well, I have been best friends with "C" since we were 12 and now we both are 17. When I was 14 to 16 I was dating somebody and "C" would always tell me he was in love with me and he told my brother he thought he would be better for me then my ...

Why did he leave me hanging?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (?) - Why would a man date you for 3 months talk about evidently becoming a couple and then back way off without any explanation? I don't understand men. I would rather him dump me than to leave me hanging. What can I do? I really care for him.He has ment...

I invaded his privacy... what do I do to make it better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Hi there, just have a quick question: I read the text messages of a guy i have been seeing for a year and i told him that i read them. I also called a girl that he had fooled around on me with because she was texting him again. (I'll mention ...

How do I tell him with all of this going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - Hi, a guy I went on a few dates with lost contact with me. After a few months, we caught up on Messenger and I found out he had gotten a girl pregnant (not long before we were dating) and he is scared. He explained that he stopped talking because he ...

It's so hard NOT to talk to him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - A little more than over a year ago, I started to have this relationship with this guy who lived in a totally different state than me. We became real close, even if we were off and on for practically a year. Anyhow, when this all first happened; ...

I'm attracted to my boyfriends older brother!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - I feel really bad about this but I've been trying to figure out a way to get rid of it to no avail. I have a very strong attraction to my boyfriend's older brother. I know it's wrong and I've tried and tried to stop thinking about it but It's rea...

Will there be another chance and how do I take that chance without messing everything up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

14 April 2009 (F) - This is a problem that I have had for a while now, and there is alot behind it so please if you can, read it and help me or give me some form of advice thanks. I have this friend. He's a best friend to me and likewise I'm a best friend to him, h...

I made a mistake with a "bad" boy and now I've been put in an awkward position!

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14 April 2009 (F) - I'm very uncertain how to proceed, I have a bad boy in my life that I have a boyfriend but I can't resist the bad boy. He's extremly drop dead gorgeous and every time I was meant to meet him something went wrong like the universe saying don't do it. ...