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writes:Ok dont know where to start....Have been in an on off relationship for the past 2years,my boyfriend is ten years older then me and basically a complete opposite person to me however by some miracle we clicked!! We have had many bumpy rides in our relationship and as a result we would break up, not talk for bout a week,get bk together and everything would be perfect. however this would only last for bout 2-3months and we would have another big fite and we would be back to square one!! When everything is good were like loves young dream but when were fighting we both don't want to be around each other!! The first 6months of our relationship he basically treated me like shit, lying to me bout stuff in his past,finding messages in his phone, the works!! I know yer probably thinking why didn't I just leave then but something changed him and he finally grew up!! He says he loves me,90 percent of the time he threats my like a queen but the other 10 percent (which would be the lack of thrust and him going into one of his moods) just destroys us so we break up!!I know deep down that we break up cos I cant forget all the lies he told in that first few months and also im the type of person that doesn't let anything go and let stuff that people have done to me especially him eat into me until i explode!!Sometimes i do feel sorry for him because he comes a very troubled background and he was taught to walk away when things get hard and that's exactly what he is doing with us but he doesn't realize that I wont be around much longer cos iv had enough!! He said he would go to counseling but do you think its 2late to work at things?! Do you think were 2young in the relationship to go for counseling?!Are we both 2messed up to be together?! Should we call it quits?!Please help me sort this messtanx xx Reply to this Question
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 If you want this to work then the best thing for your relationship is counseling, there is no set stage in the relationship where one should go for conselling, some people don't even need it..
So if you feel like you wanna make this relationship work then you know your options :)
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