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Dating: Help and advice

Is he interested more because I turned him down?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I know this guy and we kissed a couple times. He wanted to have sex but I said no. Three months later and I am seeing one of his best friends and he constantly lingers around us when we are together. My friend tells me that he constantly stares at ...

One year anniversary

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21 April 2009 (F) - It's almost me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary... Can you guys give me some help on present ideas? Or like anything we can do that's special? Thanks! ...

She seems to have time for friends and other strangers, but not for me...

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21 April 2009 (M) - Hey guys, I not sure about a thing here; Am I being too jealous? My girlfriend seems to have less interest in me. She didn't call, or send me a message on facebook for 2 days. Usually we talk every day, But she messages this other guy; Finishing ...

I feel sick now at the thought that we both slept with other people. Why can I not get this out of my head?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I met a really lovely guy and dated him for about 4 months but he never showed me any signs of commitment so I eventually ended the relationship and slept with an very old old ex boyfriend from years back and we had a one night stand and we ended up ...

How to make a move at the end of a date?

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21 April 2009 (M) - I have a hard time making a move on a girl. I can go out on dates and have a wonderful time but when the date is getting over i don't know how to close the deal. I guess what I'm tryin to say is that i don't know if she is interested or not and if ...

Help! Is this the beginning of the end for us?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now and when we started going out things were great, but now she does not want to spend as much time with me any more. I understand that we need to spend time apart, but do this mean it's the ...

We get on great most of the time but I can't take the verbal abuse from him much longer.

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21 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months now, I'm 24 and he's 21. Lately we have been arguing about everything, he gets mad if I don't call him when I leave or get somewhere but then he does the same thing sometimes and I don't get ...

He has been hurt badly and told me to move on

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21 April 2009 (F) - I separated from my husband four years ago and recently went out on my first real date, I met the guy online and he turned out to be a wonderful person, from the first time I saw him I felt a connection. He invited me to a nice dinner, drinks, ...

I'm not jealous but why do I still feel this nagging feeling after all this time?

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21 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. I go with him to take his kids back to his ex-wife from visits. I know that he loves me but when the exchange is being made I always feel as if they still should be togehter. His ex-wife ...

We are on a break now, but am I wasting my time on him?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Hi, i am a 38 year old female and after a two year relationship with a guy that i really care for a lot we have decided to take a break as we have no sex life, in fact the last time we had sex was May 08. He tended to go missing for periods of time...

I'm torn between two men and its so confusing!

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21 April 2009 (F) - Im a torn between two men and its so confusing! My ex wants me back and a new man does to but hes wiv someone. I was with my ex 3 yrs on/off but bascially we keep spilting up cos i want more in the relationship. Hes always going off doing thin...

Inquisitive .. exploring my sexual preference

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21 April 2009 (F) - Ive been in a relationship with my man since i was 17, im now 22. Hes the only person i have had a relationship with or been intimate with. However, im starting to become slightly attracted and turned on by the female form, and want to know are the ...

Why do I end up liking guys who are unattainable?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hello there, I noticed that when I like someone, I usually lose interest when the attention is reciprocated. Therefore I end up liking guys who are unattainable. What is wrong with me and is there a cure? I'm already nearing 40 and I wish I could ...

Am I reading to much into this?

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21 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs. He was going through a divorce when we met but that was finalized over 2 yrs. ago. The problem that I have is that he is still on his ex wife's cell phone plan so when he calls me, her name show...

How do I get the courage to make that call?

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21 April 2009 (M) - I'm a 20 year old college student, and this question is about a woman. "S" has been after me for a while. Nothing too overt, but none the less I understood what was going on pretty quickly. I wrote it off a bit as the freshman girl's (which sh...

I'm not on birth control. Can I get pregnant?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5176 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I'm not on birth control but when I have sex with my boyfriend he doesn't ejaculate inside my vagina. He normally ejaculates on my stomach but last weekend he was a bit slow pulling out and some of his sperm went in me. It was mostly outside but ...

Should I try and pursue this relationship through University?

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21 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I've been in a relationship for almost a year and a half with my girlfriend. We Were/are both in love with each other but a couple months ago we broke up briefly when she was questioning our relationship and kissed another guy due to this. D...

How do I resolve this situation with my boyfriend of 9 months?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I am madly in love with my boyfriend of 9 months. For half of the relationship he was nothing but an asshole because he was depressed. I've been under some stress lately and I have been acting pretty stupid, bitching at him all the time, flipping ...

When I don't see her it's as if I just don't exist...

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21 April 2009 (F) - I'm a gay girl in a relationship! I have been with my girl for 3 months, but I liked her for 5 months before we got together, but didn't think she was interested so I started seeing someone else, then my girl tells me she is jealous that I'm seeing ...

Is this normal after a break up or am I avoiding the whole thing?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Myself and partner broke up about 3 weeks ago. He moved out of my house. I was pretty upset the first week. We had been doing a fair bit of arguing during the lead up to the break up. This is his third week being gone and I haven't seen him around. ...

I don't know how she feels for me as she blows hot and cold. I'm so confused.

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21 April 2009 (M) - I was dating my ex for the last 2 years and everything was amazing, but the other night she came around and I was very tired from assignments and tests and she was too from national sports. In the end we had a stupid argument over pretty much not...

Shall I ask to be friends with my ex?

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21 April 2009 (M) - I am still very fond of an ex who cheated on me, It was sometime ago and I know things haven’t worked out for her with him and they never would. She has played games with me and I have I guess played games with her. I know now we can never b...

How should I act so he won't dislike me?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I started my new relationship with a guy who is 11 years older than me 3 days ago. I am 22 and he is 34. I like him but I think I am also paranoid. The days after we got together, he text me to ask me how I was doing. He didn't come to see me during ...

I'm so tired of chasing him, how can I get him to chase me for once?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for the past few months although we never actually established what we officially were. He had to go to the hospital a while back and have some surgery, which was scary, but he has been out for around three weeks now and ...

Could you give me any ideas what I could do to put a stop to this?

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21 April 2009 (F) - hi, i need some sound advice pls. i have been in a relationship for 13 years the first year i ended it twice but the second time i found out i was pregnant so we gave it another go he asked me to marry him and i said yes. for the first 4 years i ...

Engaged but thinking of the other guy. What should I do?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Hi, my name is "Sh" i've been in a long lasting crush over a guy i know since i was 15 years old. for the last 3 years we were talking and he was flirting all the time but never said anything serious. recently i met another guy he was serious from...

What should I do if I bump into my ex again?

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21 April 2009 (M) - in febraury, my (ex)girlfriend broke up with me although sayin everything would be the same except no sex. she wasnt normal (i guess cuz she missed me) and we havnt spoke to each other since then. as time went by, typical things have happened such ...

Question for men: Does porn get you off or is it a fantasy that you would like to act out for real?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I'd like to ask any men out there,if you get off on something on porn movies does this mean it is a fantasy that you would like to act out for real??? My partner of 7 years has been watching porn ,but 95% of it was anal sex!I decided to ask him if t...

Not had sex for a while and am I little bit scared of going there again...

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21 April 2009 (F) - I've been single for a while (9 months), and by saying I've been single, I also mean celibate. I haven't even dated anyone until now, so am feeling socially challenged to my list of concerns. I am all kinds of nervous about sex with someone ...

He's too gentle during love making. How can I ask him to be a little rougher?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I just realized that I am unsatisfied during sex with my b/f of 2 years and I know why.... I'm not sure if he tries to be so gentle with me because I was in an abusive relationship or if this is just the WAY HE has sex. He is always so GENTLE. ...

Follow up: Starting a relationship when one is in jail

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21 April 2009 (F) - Okay i Know i just asked a question but i don't think i was clear and it was confusing.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/starting-a-new-relationship-while-one-is-in.html Here it goes... **************...

How do we overcome our weight insecurities?

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21 April 2009 (?) - Hiya everybody! My boyfriend and I both struggle with our weight and have insecurities about it. I think he's drop-dead gorgeous, but whenever I say so he thinks I'm kidding or mocking him. Any way to get him to believe me? (were both working on ...

What are some basic but definite ways to turn a guy on during foreplay?

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21 April 2009 (F) - What are some basic but definite ways to turn a guy on during foreplay? My boyfriend and I are both virgins, and we're going slow. But we recently started messing around, and I really wanna turn him on! We're both inexperienced (and he knows th...

He says he is not sure if he wants a relationship. Is there anything I can do to change his mind?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have been "dating" this guy for two months now. He says that he really likes me but doesn't see the need to label our relationship, at least not yet because he is not ready to be my boyfriend and he hasnt had a girlfriend in 2 years. My frie...

Any tips on asking if she is interested in continuing the relationship?

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21 April 2009 (F) - My situation involves my old high school sweetheart. In jr. high school I met her and thought she was cute. We became friends and had a lot fun. In high school we dated. I went to the high school prom with her and we had a fun time. We wanted to t...

How can we be sure that sex helps in establish closeness and intimacy?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have a nice boyfriend. I want our relationship to become closer and establish intimacy. Is kissing and sex a good way of becoming closer in a relationship? Is kissing and sex a good way of establishing intimacy? How can be used as a way of esta...

What are we doing?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Ok this is going to take a real open minded person or professional cuz this is a very different kind of relationship with a very different kind of man. Ok I met and married who I believed was the love of my life. Life and love was great for 6mon...

Please help ASAP! Should I stay or should I go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Okay- so i've been seeing this guy for about 4 months on and off. I've been taking things very slow because I really like him and I wasn't sure at the begining but my feelings have grown more and more lately. BUT- at the begin. when he was very into...

How can an inexperienced virgin, fearful of relationships, learn to be a great sexual lover?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - ...I M a 38 year Caucasian old heterosexual male completely inexperienced with relationships. Not only a virgin, I have never been been in a relationship or even DATE depending on the definition of 'date'? Significantly introverted, in ...

Ideas on spicing up a relationship while remaining "pure"?

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21 April 2009 (?) - Hello everyone! I'm 15 and I wear a purity promise ring. The vow my ring symbolizes is that I will not have sex until marriage, but oral sex and feeling up of any "private" area is also included in what I've sworn not to do. I have no problem with ...

Starting a new relationship while one is in jail: Good or bad idea?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I have a really good friend that was arrested in december of '08...we aren't sure how much time he will be spending locked up. but the thing is i have always been there for him even when he was in a bad bike accident and i was there through the whol...

What can I do to keep him? I really do love this man but I'm scared!!

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21 April 2009 (F) - i got to be honest so I am kinds worried about my relationship. I have been so mean to my boyfriend for awhile know. I'm not too sure why buy I get so mad at him and sometimes its not his fault. I love him with everything I can! We are both under a ...

I want to play hard to get..just don't know what to do . . .

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21 April 2009 (F) - i like this guy but he has a girlfriend BUT i know he has to be a bit into me. we hang out and when we do he puts his arm around me and gets sad if i move and touches me etc. but we havent kissed. i want him to want me more but i dont want to seem...

He wants to be FWB

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21 April 2009 (F) - I am a teen girl and this guy I had a crush on wanted to be friends with benefits. We had never really spoken before and I was confused. I said yes at first, but then I changed my mind before we actually did anything. He was nice about it and ...

How do I tell him I have herpes?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man a very short time and I want to tell him I am HSV2 (herpes) positive. I just do not know how. Please help....

We're no longer as lovey dovey

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months. Everything was going great, we were loving to each other during school and we spent some time together on the weekends. But, things have been going downhill since a month ago. Her father is very ...

Would you forgive him and take him back?

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21 April 2009 (?) - I have a live-in boyfriend of three years. Here's my problem: I want to know if I can trust him today to be what he claims he is. But I don't trust him and wonder if I should give it a shot or walk. In the first 1.5 years, he hated my thr...

How can you make a woman feel sexy?

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21 April 2009 (M) - Hi there, Simply put, I'd like some ideas on what can you do/say to make a woman feel really sexy......

How can I pursue things emotionally and sexually with her without losing it? I love this woman to bits!

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21 April 2009 (M) - I've known this one amazing, beautiful, funny, intelligent woman for four years now and have never been able to stop thinking about her. We actually dated for four months back when we first met at the end of sophomore year but the timing and other ...

Getting the man you want and keeping him!

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21 April 2009 (M) - How does a woman show a man she really likes him and knows that she has found the ideal partner from the point of view of having recently met him, and knowing a few of his interests. How does she move the situation forward without making it look a...

Is it stupid to think I'm pregnant?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Someone please help me is it stupid to think I'm pregnant? I was rubbing on my bf's penis with my vagina. It was stupid to do that cause I was jerking him off with my hand too this was 3 weeks ago. I know it was stupid so please don't lecture me. I ...

Do I have the right to know who else has been flaunting with my boyfriend?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Tonight my boyfriend says that another female has been flaunting herself to him and he "could" be interested. We have not been getting on that well recently and he says he loves me but things have changed. I wanted to know who it is but he said he ...