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writes:im 16 and have never had a boyfriend but ive slept with 3 boys which mean nothing to me and i really wish i hadnt, but i really want a boyfriend but no one seems to want me coz they think im just goin to sleep about which im not i really do want a boyfriend. can anybody give me advice?
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (26 October 2009):
"It's just 3 guys" ???? Okay at 16, personally, I think 3 is a bit much and can ruin your reputation. I think in high school everyone knows everyone else's drama so boys may be less inclined to have you as their girlfriend because of your reputation. Just work on yourself, obviously you don't like how sleeping with those 3 guys made you feel so don't do that anymore. Once you feel better about yourself and you haven't been hooking up with random guys I'm sure you'll have much better luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 October 2009):
First of all, give yourself a break. It's just 3 guys, so don't worry about them.
The key to getting a good boyfriend is to be confident with yourself, independent and not desperate.
It could be that you're coming accross as someone who us desperate for a boyfriend, which can leave guys a little worried, or it could be that because you're feeling bad about yourself, they can see it and again they'll be little scared. (Guys don't like clingly girls who worry too much and don't give themsevles breaks sometimes). You don't need to be perfect. Just confident, and independent. Focus on yourself, become happier for yourself, then gently speak to guys you like and get to know them well and let them get to know you before you sleep with them. Take your time. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): It's possible that your repuation does have something to do with it. Guys may think you're easy or that if you're with them as a girlfriend you'd still sleep with other guys. I think the best thing you can do is to keep yourself from getting more of a repuation by not sleeping with any guys for a while, and just show people that you're not like that. If you regret them, you've learned from your mistakes, and now you want a serious thing. There's nothing wrong with that. You'll find someone, don't worry.
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