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Dating: Help and advice

My boyfriend's dad hates me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I think i need some solid advice here... the story is that at the moment i feel really down. i have spoken to my bf about it but he dosent think that im as depressed as i think i am. as it is at the moment money from my part is really tough. ive ...

Her ex boyfriend won't leave us alone and refuses to believe she has moved on!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I have been dating this girl for the past 7 months and we are very happy together. There is a problem though, her exboyfriend will not accept that they are not together any more. She has told him several times to move on but he refuses to do so. He ...

Flaky girlfriend never calls or is always late (but didn't used to be)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - This girl and I were together 4 years, broke up, had new FB/GFs and then got back together (sort of). She often says she'll call me at a certain time, or we'll hang out, but then I don't ever hear from her, or she'll call hours later to cancel our ...

Calling all males, can you tell if a girl likes you?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Right. Simple question, more complicated answers I guess. I've read lots of times on here before that men and all males in general are rubbish at noticing signs that a girl likes them. Apparently they have no clue until they're told. I know girls te...

Like a virgin, not!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My last relationship ended badly more then 4 years ago. I recently began dating again and I am very anxious about sex and intimacy. My ex and I enjoyed an incredible sexual connection and I do masturbate so I doubt that its physical. I am/was very ...

Should I try and save what was a great relationship and could now be even stronger?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Ahh where to start.......I have been dating a girl now for almost 4 years we recently broke up, probably about 2 months ago. We had a great relationship and it all came to a fall over a house I wanted to buy. My gf and I had been looking at houses ...

Why won't my boyfriend meet my parents?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. We dated for 2 months before then we broke up and got back together. He won't meet my parents because he thinks it "puts too much pressure on our relationship"... What does this mean? Why is he so...

My boyfriend used to mess around with 14 nearly 15 year old girls when he was 23!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Okay so heres the thing, ive had a boyfriend for nearly 2 months, that I REALLY care about okay. So I knew he has a reputation of "getting around", but ive recently found out he went as far as messing with 14 nearly 15 year old girls! his HIGHSCHOOL ...

Married but falling for another man, what should I do!?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - what do i do. im married, 1 child. great marriage, no lies, no infidelity, and no drama. but i think im falling for another man. hes married too. iv been apart working this past year and this man is working with me. were both apart from loved ones. ...

Her past is affecting the way I see her now but I don't want to let her go...please help!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Hi all, this my story: I am 23 and last year I got to know to a girl (24) from my college whom I liked, but there was nothing between us, she just belonged to the same circle of friends as I, so we just hanged out together and stuff, sometimes...

It's as if I don't exist, how can I get him to notice me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - hey i'm 14 and there is a boy i reeally like, but he's in the year above me and he's never noticed me, it's as if i don't exist. we've spoken before, but after he's never paid any attention to me how do i get him to notice me? x...

A maneater has my man in her sights!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - O.k. heres my situation. I am in love with my Fiance'. We have been through really rough times..Who hasn't. Well now lately he has really been stressing accusing me of talking to another Man. I haven't been. But we have this female friend of his ...

I like him, how can I stand out from amongst the crowd?

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8 December 2009 (F) - This guy and I are friends, However I want to know if he likes me as more. We talk all the time, Have gone a few places in a group (ice skating) He will say hi, or wave when he sees me, and he always makes me laugh. He sometimes stares at me, and ...

I think I made a mistake...

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8 December 2009 (F) - I 'think' I've made a mistake, i had just had a huge fight with my boyfriend and i went to a mates house, we chatted and watched movies. it got late and i stayed over i borrowed a nighty but it was a bit big and kept falling off. we shared the bed ...

My boyfriend has erectile problems

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Some advice or reassurance! pweasee When me and my boyfriend have intercourse he can never come. He often loses his hardon aswell. He tells me it feels good but it obviously doesn't, he's fine during foreplay but sometimes can't get fully hard b...

I was torn between two but I think I chose the wrong one!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5253 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Big Problem. Okay, my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 years... known him for 6. We use to have major problems off and on. Loved him to death and really knew i wanted him. We lived far apart for the first 3 years of knowing each other. W...

Has she fallen OUT of love with me???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - A little backstory first. I've been dating this girl for 1 year and 4 months. Before we started dating we worked together and I was her boss. It began innocent enough, neither showing any interest in each other but over time I developed a huge crush ...

He doesn't "fit" me properly!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (?) - I have just started having sex with my boyfriend... three times and our parts don't fit together during sex. I cannot fill him during sex. I am totally baffled... maybe he is too small for me? Hence we both cannot climax. Are there ways to make ...

Although we've made up now my boyfriend is having a party and the girl he cheated with might be there!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me 2 months ago - slept with someone else at a party. Completely unexpected and completely against my morals. More detail in previous q's of mine! But to the point of this one... Rightly, or probably wrongly, i gave ...

Was it his ex who called him? What is he hiding?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I so hate my boyfriend right now. After we got into a fight on sunday evening because of his ex he told me sorry and i forgave him. The next day we both went to work and he didnt call me the whole day like he does on a regualar basis, after work i ...

I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...

Should you live together before you get married?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - is it good for fiance and finacee to be living together before they get married....

Does my girlfriend love or hate me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - umm .. i am a male aged 24 and i have just recently got my first girlfriend at age 23. my girlfriend lives in a forain country at this time. although i have not physically met her i still love her. i have many problams with anxiety and stress t...

Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...

I'm embarassed that I am still a virgin but personally I don't want to lose it yet!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - please help! i am 16, and i've not really had much relationship experience. I've liked guys a lot and almost everyone in my grade has lost their virginity. I definatly don't want to lose mine yet, but what about peer pressure? Also, the guys i like, ...

Is it really over this time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Please help.. me and my boyfriend were together for 11 months. he jumped right out of a bad 2 year relationship with his ex (in which they had broken up several times..got back together..twards the end she wouldnt really let the break up happen....

How can I find the right person?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...

Anyone have any ideas on how me and my boyfriend can improve my self esteem?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I have no self esteem, because of past relationships, and I just found out I like to dominate, but there's only one problem. It doesn't feel normal to me to dominate during sex because I'm female. I know it's because my self esteem is pretty much ...

I'm attracted to his personality but not neccessarily looks, can this work?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I've met a guy who is very far from my usual type, which I'm aware might be a good thing, and would like advice if you think it's something worth working at. I don't have a great relationship history. Without wanting to come across as arroga...

He's not interested in our wedding

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I started to talk to my fiance yesterday about the wedding and telling him how I was organizing things to make sure the final details were in place. But he just doesn't seem to care or be excited about anything. It just makes me wonder if he cares ...

I've fallen madly in love with two girls

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5255 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Ok, a serious question. You see, I've never had luck with love in the past. I've liked people but never had that certain special feeling for them, which has made me think that I'd never find someone. Well all of that has changed now. I've fallen...

He cheated and got someone else pregnant! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 5 years got someone else pregnant and we have a 2 year old should I stay or go?...

How do I help him recover from his rape

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I'm currently deployed in Afghanistan and I spoke to my boyfriend yesterday and I could tell there was something seriously wrong so I asked him and he told me he'd been beaten and raped by 3 guys last Saturday. He's been to hospital and reported it ...

Masturbating in her sleep???

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4751 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Is it possible that my girlfriend just masturbates in her sleep? A few times now I have woken up to the my girlfriend moving her hand quickly under the covers over her vagina. She doesnt sleep fully naked. I have asked her if she was mastur...

How can I reassure her how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Hi everyone! We are classmates at high school, and after we came to college my gf confessed her love to me and I accepted. I's been about five months since we became bf and gf, but now we are apart since we are in different colleges. We can meet ...

How can me and my girlfriend can get closer?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - well last night my gf and i were texting and i asked her if she thinks that me and her are close and if we have a good relationship and she said "yeah i think were close, but we could be closer" and yeah i think we have a good relationship too". ...

Is it normal for guys to switch from being hot to cold?

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8 December 2009 (F) - Is it normal for guys to switch from being hot to cold? My bf and I who are both in our mid 20s, have been together for almost a year. Throughout our whole relationship I have felt like I am walking on egg shells. If I show him affection a...

Why do I start to feel like this 3 months into my relationships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - i was with my ex for 2 years on and off, we only lasted up to 5 months each time tho because after 3-4 months id start to feel as if i no longer had feelings for him but as soon as another girl was on the scene i cudnt handle it and all a sudden my ...

Do girls demand money from you when you are dating? And can you fall for someone you have never met?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one] Question 1: I need a relationship wit a girl... I can have one... Because i dont have... So is it true you cant get a girlfriend if dont have money... Am afraid they mig...

How do you become an Alpha male?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Alpha males of the great ape species beat up the other males. This is how they become the alpha males. After they've won, they don't worry about getting females. They can chill out and have whatever female they want. There are guys who are con...

He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...

My girlfriend seems to be mocking me with the thought of a threesome. What do I do about it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I have been seeing my partner for close to a year now, she is more sexually experienced that me and knew was bisexual before we got together, which has never bothered me and I've always accepted. She's actually had relationships with other women, ...

The sweet and caring guy? Or the attractive smooth guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - So, there was a guy that i was seeing and things were great but because he is attractive and we never discussed about commitments and loyalty. i had some doubts and before we could talk about it, i broke it off! i started to see another guy for ...

She has lied to me and she is a bit of a sex freak. How do I accept this?

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8 December 2009 (M) - I think I've had enough. OK. Been dating her three months. Everything seemed great at first. But now everything has come around. She lied to me about her neighbor guy friend coming over because she didn't want to admit she was smoking weed with any ...

Why do I not like having sex? Relationships have fallen apart because of it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - OK, I dont know if this is weird but i am 22 year old female and i do no like to have sex. I have been in several serious relationships before and i pretty much broke it off with the guys because i felt bad that im hardly up to have sex with them. ...

Is the reason why I cheat on my boyfriend because I don't love him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - So heres the deal. im not writing this to have people criticise my situation or anything, I already know its wrong what I'm doing. I'm just looking for someone who may have gone through the same sort of deal. Ive been with my boyfriend 4 year...

All of a sudden he isn't replying. What happened?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - This guy that msged me daily or almost daily seems to have disappeared.We've been on a cpl dates but have mostly talked/txted.All was well - the contact was still steady as ever.I baked him cookies(he asked for em) but have yet to drop em off - it's ...

How can I accept my sexual past?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I feel terrible about the number of people I've slept with. I don't feel the need to post the number here because, really, all it is is a moral judgment and I know people will see it differently. I have friends who've slept with more, whatever... ...

He embarassed me in front of my friends and family. Should I give him a second chance?

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8 December 2009 (F) - Okay so I meet this guy who was really sweet, we have lots in common and everything our first date went really well we had lots to talk about. But the next day he made a really innappropriate comment about naked pictures involving himself very ...

I want her back, but my ex-fiance is seeing other men. What should I do?

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8 December 2009 (M) - Actually i ve broke up with my fiancee for 5 months and i came back to see her after this 5 months and she is being honest with me that she is seeing another guy now and this guy seems like a very nice guy but the problem here is she still lo...

Why was I rejected by her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - okk...i saw this girl in my class, shes fine and different from other girls. she has lots of friends and very quiet in school but not outside the school..shes fine and very pretty and i am kinda ripped (20 inches shoulder span) and am not that good ...

Should I win him back in spite of what my parents think of him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I have been sort of on and off for months with this guy. We actually got together in January. This is my longest relationship. Even though we've had our ups and downs, I really do love him. It took me this long to really realize that I want to be ...

How can I re-ignite this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for three years now, and have known her for 7. We got together pretty young (we've liked each other since the age of twelve), and she feels like the spark in our relationship has started to fade. She misses the ...

I am soooooo sexually frustrated!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. He's 20 and I am almost 19. In the beginning of our relationship, we got physical quickly and I loved it. After a couple months it died down, due on his part, and nothing ever happened except ...

Should I bring it up again and try to bring closure?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I hope my question format is easy to understand. History: My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost two years. We have had our ups and downs, but nothing that was extreme in any manner. I love her very much, and she says she ...

How do I tell my mom that I want to stay at my bf's place?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I come from a strict European background and up until recently I haven't dated much. I'm 23 and still live at home (I support my parents financially). I don't talk to my mom about guys or anything like that...she's never talked to me about it ...

He's divorced and so am I...how long before we should marry?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I am divorce to a navy military member and now i have a army bf but he is in the same base in our area. we are planning to get married, how long it takes or the process, if am divorce and he is divorce too?? is that possible we married soon?...

Is birth control really necessary?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Is birth control really necessary??? I mean hell i dont want to be a babies daddy just yet but i have condoms and we have been together for more than 2 years. I feel like she is just avoiding having sex.. no we havent had sex yet either...

I like him so why is he ignoring me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hey, okay, so recently, this guy I really like has lost a friend and been ignoring me. His friend died and he's acting fine with everyone else. He's acting like his same goofy self...except with me. Like a few days ago I said "hi" to him and he just ...

Just what do guys find sexy in females?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - What are good ways to tell someone you want to have sex with them without coming on too strong? And what is sexy to guys.....

Part of me feels I should play the field, especially since I'm not as sexually attracted to him.

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8 December 2009 (F) - i've been with my boyfriend for a long time now, and i seriously think he's the one. But since things have started to get serious i don't find myself as sexually attracted to him anymore, and we rarely have sex. We both work together and for...

Sometimes I can't stand my boyfriend!

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8 December 2009 (F) - I really do love my boyfriend I just can't stand him sometimes. Sometimes I think about breaking up with him but after talking to him I change my mind. I don't know what's up with me. He's 17, a senior, and Im his first official girlfriend. I do...