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Dating: Help and advice

This girl is a thorn in my side...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My bf is really good friends with this girl and her bf. I get the feeling that the girl is trying to break me and my bf up, or something like that anyway. I am interested in other peoples outsiders veiws of the situation. Just so you know, my bf, t...

He wants to get more intimate with me and I feel I'm ready. How can I be less nervous about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - okay so my boyfriend has been trying to finger me for the past month but I never let him because I wasn't ready. I'm ready now and I want him to, but I'm a little nervous about it! Ya know like whether or not I should shave down there, and that ...

My mother's ideas and mine clash on morality

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My mom has these outdated ideas about relationships/dating/sex. She’s not a strict person but when it comes to these things she’s very prude. I stayed over at my bf’s house the other night. The day before I told her where I would be spending the ...

Will it be third time lucky?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (?) - Well....I like this boy and his name is Bill, but i asked hi, if he liked me at thee beginning of the school year, and he said no i would like to just stay friends, then i asked him again later in thee year and he said the same thing. But i asked ...

I struggle to trust, and I "found" a text he sent another woman

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. I am struggling to trust him. It is probably my own trust issues but I keep finding reasons not to trust him. He swears he is loyal and loves me. But I found a text message he sent to another ...

My girlfriend of 13 wont even kiss me, she is frigid!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - Ok i am 13 years old and have a girlfriend who is friged but dosent want to be and she gets scared and backs away when i try to kiss OR EVEN HUG HER i like her alot and really dont want to dump her but for weeks now it seems that she dosent even ...

My girl is sexually selfish!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - It always atarts off that we have fool around really wild and dirty, then she wants me to eat her out, she comes, and afterwards, she won't get me off; she's suddenly "too tired," or if she "tries" she will complain about how tired she is, how much ...

My cheatin' heart

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - I cheated on my fiance. We have been together 6 years. I cheated and about a week later I couldn't handle it anymore, I had to tell her. I know I made a mistake and wanted to be honest. I love her to much to lie and get away with it. I knew it ...

It took him three years to decide he didnt like my past and he dumped me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of three years just dumped me. He has issues with my past from a long time, and yet again he's giving me hard time over it. He said he feels he will never be able to forgive me. I never did anything too wild in my past, but he knew a ...

I am the woman who dated the committment shy guy

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I am thew women that dated the commitment phobic guy for 2 1/2 years and broke up with him 7 months ago. How do I interpret this mans response? We got together this weekend and kept it platonic. He told me before he came out he is trying to figure ...

I have set high standards but worry those standards might be TOO HIGH!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I was in a relationship for two years. That was the best relationship I had, but I matured a lot during the relationship. The things that i looked for in a relationship when it began, i no longer look for. I need more and i wont settle for less. ...

My dad doesn't want me dating black guys

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My dad doesn't want me dating black guys. Which I think is terrible, but there's nothing I can do to change it. I just started going out with this back guy (I'm white), and I'm afraid of how my dad might react.. it's not that he's racist, he ...

Every time I work with him I don't want the time to end!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - i really need some advice. i dont understand why i feel like this-its silly. a guy i work with who only started a month ago im sure im developing feelings for-why ? well when we work together we get on really really well-it fee...

I met two men same night, blew off the single guy and am now crushing on the one with a girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi.I went out to a nightclub with my friend last night.There was this guy i was interested in at first, and i danced with him for most of the night,but later on, i saw another guy i found attractive ( he looked like a younger Robert Downey jr, so in ...

Second date confusion!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Had a great date over a week ago with a guy met on net..he made all the right moves added me as a friend on FB etc (i wouldnt have so early on as it tells you so much about people and you can see what the other is doing all the time!). The date was ...

This isn't just lust I adore his personality too!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Ok, there's this guy I like, and I mean REALLY like and I'm really confused about the whole thing! The thing is, I can't go a day without thinking of him and I just find him perfect in every way even though he has his faults, but I think his faul...

Boyfriend doesn't act like he loves me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend said he loves me but doesnt act like he loves me! he wont hold my hand when his friends are around but he held his ex-girlfriends hand all the time! should i tell him how i feel or just leave him?...

Why has she started ignoring me when it was going so well?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - right, so i've been going out with this girl for three weeks and we get on really well. we seem to be getting closer every time we see each other, we always hold hands and have kissed a couple of times. we went out last wednesday night and it was ...

He doesn't seem as "into me" any more! Is this down to his illness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a month and a half is Bipolar II. For the first month he was attentive, romantic, physical and completely into me. He mentioned love before I did and couldn't wait to see me. Now he has become less physical and affectionate and seems ...

My boyfriend got another girl pregnant but when I confront him he's denying it!!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I recently found out my boyfriend has another girlfriend that's pregnant and he told me its not what i think. I really like him, and im like falling apart without him. He called me the other day becuase he didnt know i knew about it. Then aft...

Did I do the right thing by breaking up with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - okay so i have been dating this guy for 3 months now. and everything was going great he treated me better than any other guy ever has. but a couple days ago people kept coming up to me and telling me that my boyfriend was planning on breaking up ...

How can I give the boy I fancy an extra Christmas present without him guessing that I like him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - ok for christmas im giving presants to my friends but my friends who are boys are just gunna get packets of sweets but with the one i like i really want to give him two but what excuse can i use to give it him without him knowing i like him? x x x...

Does my boss I fancy know that I was snooping on his facebook profile?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Okay so I have been view my bosses facebook page (not on company computer). His photo, music, profile were open. (I have not ask him to be facebook friends do to the fact he is my boss but I am curious about him) A couple of days after I viewed ...

My friend had a child with a one night stand, should she tell him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - A friend of mine asked my advice on this situation and I had no idea what to tell her. She is a 19 year old single mother and the father of her baby doesn’t know that she had his baby. She feels that she doesn’t want to tell him because he has such ...

I don't understand why he's treating me like this!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Okay I met a guy about a week ago through my friend's boyfriend. We had been talking for about a week but we didn't know how each other looked. I mean he was so sweet that I immediately became attached. We met up friday and everything went downhill. ...

Japanese women really annoy me. What is their problem?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Maybe it's just me, but I've been here in Japan for almost half a year and I'm noticing that I'm becoming increasingly more and more annoyed with Japanese women. Now, I'm not racist, but a lot of Japanese women absolutely irk me. I think the thing ...

How to respond without scaring him off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi everyone and merry X-mas, I need some help if you can; my ex and I broke up 5 months ago, at first we didn't talk at all, but like 2 months after the break up we started talking, he would txt me every day, all day. Then without reason he stopped ...

If I follow my career dream it means another three years apart

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We met when we were both working abroad over the summer, and when the summer ended we decided to keep things going even though he lives in Holland and myself in England. With the help...

I don't know whether I should wait for him to tell me stuff or just out and ask!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I would like to know did my boyfriend have any serious relationship before me... it`s only because I`m curious, not because I think that is realy important. Also, I`m not sure that he`s virgin like me, so I have a little doubt, should I just ask him ...

I just have to get this off my chest .................

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - this one is quite long...sorry. ill start from the begining. i am in a long term reationship and after about 1year and a half, things werent soo great, lots of arguments, etc and he really didnt pay me any attention ant more. i really loved him but ...

I keep having bad dreams

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...

Two people I love are having problems in their relationship and I don't know how to help them

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - howdy pretty people. so i have my cousin whose also my best friend. well hes datin my friend who just happens to be a really good girlfriend. they have been datin for about 4 months and its perfect. but my cousin had been acting really weird lately. ...

My boyfriend wished his ex happy birthday on facebook but ignored mine!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Things have been going amazingly well recently between me and my boyfriend. But I recently saw something which really upset me and got me thinking. This year, despite the fact that we text/call each other every day, my boyfriend didn't wish me a ...

My ex is now going out with my friend and I am sooo jealous

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - so im inlove with my ex, and hes got a new girlfriend now. she and i r friends and im so jealous. i want him back sooooo badly. idk wat to do. and i cant just move on. iv tried. its so hard. i want to be with him. any advice on how to get him back?...

I beleive a three year gap is appropriate.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - *I want to preface this article by saying I do not condone nor do I oppose the dating of under age women/men, unless of course we are talking about molestation in which case you can burn in hell.* I often time hear people say "I really like this ...

My girl has changed over the past 5 months and now I don't love her the same

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - For a few weeks (about 3), I've been confused about the way i feel about my girlfriend. We have been going on strong for 5 months now, and we were completely attached to each other. But recently I've been having doubts. Now that she has this new ...

I rang the guy my friend is interested in, because I believe he is married and cheating

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5259 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I haven't registered on this site, thankyou so much in advance for all of your advice :) Sandra tells me that she meets this really good looking guy at work. She told me this a week ago. Says he is funny, and outgoing and witty. One day whi...

I want to chat up somebody I don't know on facebook

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5259 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I saw a guy on facebook who is extremely good looking. Unfortunately, i do not know him. I want to talk to him, but do not want to come off as desperate. What is the best way to open communication?...

I don't want to give a gift in bad taste

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5244 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - Is it in bad taste or bad relationship etiquette to give my GF the same gift (a custom-designed collectible) two christmases in a row? She loved the one I got her last year and I thought about getting her another one this year....

I feel like I am cheating my ex when I am interested in other boys

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - So my last boyfriend and i broke up about 2 months ago and now him and i are really good friends. we get along and were still kindof flirty but its all fun. him me and my other girl friend are really close and we always hang out. the problem is that ...

I have heard rumours my 15 yo boyfriend is gay, and I am a girl!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hey, im 14 and my boyfriends 15. i'm worried about his sexuality and i'm not sure if its just rumors starting to sink in or if he really is. don't get me wrong he is really sweet and very funny but sometimes he sends off signals. when we first ...

A boy who wants to have sex with me and his girlfriend are upset with me, my ex wont get back with me and another friend is pregnant and I am dropping grades due to all this

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi there I'm 15, and right now, I'm extremely stressed out, so I thought I'd come to you guys and ask for some advice. Within the past few months, I've had a hard time social wise because of a boy that I can't seem to fall out of love with. H...

I don't understand the difference between girlfriend and best friend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - I just need some advice on how to handle a situation I have. Let me warn you this is a little long... I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half, and over time I've slowly come to see him as my best friend too while being a romantic...

I don't know if I should start dating a new guy when I am still not over the last guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5259 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Should I go dating with a guy I have feelings for when I am still not over the pain and hurt from the last relationship? I have feelings for this guy but I am really afraid to fall in love again because of the betrayal from my previous relationship ...

I don't know how soon after starting to date we can have sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

13 December 2009 (M) - Hello, guys! I need your help. Several questions: 1)after how long, 3 months or longer they have dated gf nd bf often have sex? 2)knowing little about sex, what should i pay attin to for the first time having sex? 3) how many sex positions nd which ...

I need to learn how to have fun and enjoy life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - i am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, i recently moved in with him in an upper part of a house. i just had knee surgery and had to quit my job as a hair stylist, its very hard to find a job now so he has been ...

My boyfriend has a baby and spends time with the baby Mama!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5037 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I been with my boyfriend for close to 3yrs there is a big age difference between us but I love him very much. Anyway about 1yr ago he cheated on me and got another woman pregnant that hurted my soul because although I'm older then he is it still ...