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Dating: Help and advice

Bored out my skull after nearly 4 years in relationship - please help?

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6 December 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, I've been in a relationship with my Gf for nearly 4 years now and well im starting to become really really fed up of things atm. When we first went out it was cool, we were going out doing the usual things, cinemas meals etc ...

He wants me to have his baby but I'm so not ready yet! How do I tell him?

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6 December 2009 (F) - Ok! I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and hes soooooooooo ready for me to have his baby. I love him so much thats my baby but I'm not ready yet. I want to but not just yet. How do I tell him this??????...

I haven't heard from my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks...

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6 December 2009 (F) - I havent talked to my boyfriend in almost 2 weeks. I messaged him on facebook and asked him what's going on and he messaged me back last night and said "you told me to f*** off, so I did." I dont remember ever saying that to him, and it doesnt m...

Is it true that the girl that gets away is the one you always want?

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6 December 2009 (M) - I have a question I'd like to ask to most guys who have been through something like this but any advice would help. Is it true that the girl that gets away is the one you always want? I was in a relationship and I was in love with her and she told ...

He keeps saying we don't have a future after 2 years!

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6 December 2009 (?) - So me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 years. But whenever i want to talk to him about the future, he freaks out and we always end up having a huge argument and we both end up crying. In the end he always apologises and we make up ...

Can having diahorrea affect the pill?

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6 December 2009 (F) - Hi I know this may be kinda gross but i still need to ask. My boyfriend of five years and I use the pill as our form of contraception, we have never used condoms as we dont enjoy using them. Anyway for the past few weeks i have had diahorrea on and ...

Why will my girlfriend not tell me her secret?

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6 December 2009 (M) - There's a girl who told me she has a secret that makes her cry every time she thinks about it. she wont tell me at all and we're going out. She's dropped a couple hints here and there but I'm confused about the whole thing.... I think she is being ...

Could my boyfriend be a compulsive liar?

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6 December 2009 (F) - So, I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now. He's incredibly nice, sweet, caring and good looking, and he always makes sure to treat me right. He calls me up to check if I'm okay, buys me things even though I told him not to, and keeps trying ...

How can I get past this emotional baggage and not be so upset?

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6 December 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I've asked a couple of questions here before. I'm not really sure how to phrase this as a question, I just need some advice. Bear with me as it's a bit of a long story. There's this guy, "Chaz", who I met about three and a half years ...

Do wonderful relationships just "happen" or do they take work

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6 December 2009 (F) - Just curious on what your take is on this, because I've heard two different camps. A lot of people on this site say relationships take work and you need to work at it to keep it in good order; then there are other people who say that when you're in ...

My five minutes of fame are bringing a lifetime of shame

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6 December 2009 (M) - I've had real problems with self-esteem and subsequently booze for quite a few years. I have forced myself on a downward spiral and i seem to dwell on my problems more and more. It all began when i was 20 and booze enabled me to be 'popular' (at the ...

My mum wants my weekends!

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6 December 2009 (M) - OK, so my parents hav split up. Not legally but they dont live together and dont love each other anymore. I have a girlfriend which im really seriosu about and want to be with her as much as possible. The thing is that my mum wants to see me almost ...

She tells my sister she likes me but acts like she doesn't!

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6 December 2009 (F) - Hellow as you can see im tigger and im a female ther is this girl that ii like and I told her that I like her see the thing is I never liked a girl befor but when I first seen this girl something about her jus pulled me to her I told her I liked her ...

Why do girls stay with the bad guys?

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6 December 2009 (M) - Why do girls always stay with guys that they either dont like or are mean to them? I liked this one girl a few years back and i wanted to be with her but she had a boyfriend, and she would tell me that she kinda liked me and could see something bu...

Boyfriend is a bar star! What do I do?

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6 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is a barstar and I need some advice Im not a fan of his behavious and dont know what to do. We have been dating for almost 4 months. He goes out almost every weekend to the bar and almost always gets drunk, passes out at home and wake...

How can I get attention off of my friends and on to me?

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6 December 2009 (F) - I have drop dead gorgeous friends. Everytime I go out, they always get all the attention. The only type of attention I get is the buddy buddy status. No one looks at me like I could be a potential girlfriend or something, unless they get to know me ...

I've played it cool, but I am not sure what to do next....

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6 December 2009 (F) - I have been in a non committed relationship for nearly 7 years. We are long distance and meet up every now and then for a bit of fun and company. I know that he has slept with others and so have I during our off periods. He does his own thing, w...

Do you think he is just using me for sex?

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6 December 2009 (F) - Theres this gyy he says he really likes me, we've been to the cinema once, and he only really texts me when he wants to meet up with me, and all he really does is pick me up, have sex with me then drop me home again. When i ask him to meet up he ...

Did he just want sex from me?

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6 December 2009 (F) - he drove for an hour to see me.. we went for a ride on thursday night. i asked what he wants cos he started kissing me( cos i dont just want sex.. i want more than that) he said he doesn't know.. he wants to get to know me then decide. i haven...

How do I honestly Communicate to my boyfriend that he does not make me a high enough priority?

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6 December 2009 (F) - HELP!!! How do I honestly communicate to my boyfriend that he does not make me a high enough priority? He really does adore me and always tries to do everything possible to make me happy. Lately he has been caught up with his new band. He loves mu...

Don't know if I still want the relationship or love him much any more...

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6 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been dating a man for about 9 months now and we have had a lot of problems since the beginning. We both have issues with drink and we have been agressive violent with each other on a few occasions when drunk. He has threatned me on a ...

I feel he's growing distant...

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6 December 2009 (F) - Lately it seems like my boyfriend and I are growing distant, we're talking less and it doesn't seem to bother him like it did before. I haven't said anything until I realized it myself I should be saying something about it, to see where his feelings ...

Is he letting me down softly?

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6 December 2009 (F) - I don't know where to start but here it goes... A year ago I was going through a separation with my husband. I began seeing a fellow co-worker as a casual fling. He pursued hard and we eventually began dating. We broke up on and off over the cour...

Fallen for a gay guy?

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6 December 2009 (F) - im so confused. ive fallen for a really nice guy the only problem is that hes gay what the hell do i do? ...

What should I do to have her when she won't break up with him?

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6 December 2009 (M) - Ok we have known each other for almost 2 years but we are not that close to each other. She has a bf of 5 years but she wants to end the relationship. Her bf just wouldn't allow for a brake up. They broke and patch back many times. She started ...

Should I recreate a scene from the "Twilight" book?

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6 December 2009 (M) - When I was in the 6th grade, a school right next to mine was closed down, and some of the students there came to our school. One of these students was Lisa (fake-name). A friend of mine had a crush on Lisa's friend, so a group evolved. We saw each...

Is this a good start to a relationship?

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6 December 2009 (F) - Ok I haven't been with my boyfriend that long.. and we've only known eachother for about 2 months but I'd do this with other boys I've known and been with longer aswell.. Basically I don't mind If he watches porn or kinda silly flirts with other gi...

How can I get a first date?

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6 December 2009 (F) - im almost 14 and i have never been on a date with a guy. ever! i dont talk 2 many guys at school but i would like to. if i flirt with i guy i always want him to come over and make the first move, but they never do. how do i get talkin with boys...

He has a baby and I tried to keep in touch with him, but now he wants to be friends

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6 December 2009 (F) - I started talking to this guy in June 09 and he kept wanting to take it further. when he i didnt want to until july i agreed to and we spent time together. he always called me when he could since he got his phone stolen on july 4th. we spent time on ...

I think my girl is going through a phase and I hope she gets over it soon!

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6 December 2009 (M) - I know this is really long to read but it was the only way to get you to know what is exactly going on and exactly how I feel. Thank you so much for your time. I am 21 years old I have had many short term girlfriends and relationships with gir...

I am dating the local newspaper!

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6 December 2009 (M) - i've recently got my first ever girlfriend of my life and i am damn happy 'bout it. but the thing is, whatever we talk about, romantic or private, just ANYTHINNG.... she goes on and shares it with her roommates. its not that they spread gossi...

I'm a quiet shy type, and gay, and I worry about things

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6 December 2009 (M) - sorry fr the length, need help. I think ihave s****** things up a bit. Im a quiet, no gay scene non drinking, shy gay female and have hardly any freinds, only a few straight freinds, only one knows im gay. Im a shift worker so its v...

Why is she being so cold even after me changing and being there for her?

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6 December 2009 (M) - Hi there, I am new on this site and I really need advice, ok so I have been seeing a girl for a year right now, I love her so much with every second of my day I have her in my mind, when we met we had so much love for each other, she was the most ...

We have both moved on but I still get a little jealous of his new girl

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6 December 2009 (F) - Long story short: The ex and I broke up about a year ago after a two-year relationship. We then went on to hook up randomly throughout the last year even while dating other people. Also including once recently while I've been dating another guy. I ...

We are sleeping together but he wants to keep his options open

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6 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I recently started seeing this guy and he's been really sweet but I'm afraid I'm reading into things far too much. I'm pretty sure he cares about me to some extent since he's been there for me through some tough ordeals, and his atti...

Boyfriend problems... should I break up with him or what?

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6 December 2009 (F) - I'm 13 and last week I had sex, my boyfriend and i have known each other for 5 years. And have been together for 3 years. It was wonderful, he and i reached "you know what" at the almost the exact same time. He loved it, and so did i. although, when ...

She wants me to shave her legs

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6 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend wants me to shave her legs. I've never done this before, never even heard of it since her meantioning (to be completely honest) I just want to know other's opinions, experiences etc just so there is some kind of clarification. Thanks...

My girlfriend is 15, I am three years older, we are considering sex

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6 December 2009 (M) - I am 18, and my new girlfriend is 15. I have don't plan to have sex any time soon, but you never know. I am wondering about the legalities if I were to have sex now; is it still statutory rape because i am 18 and shes 15, if for what ever reason...

I want to know how to approach guys

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6 December 2009 (F) - When I go out, I often see very good looking guys; however, I do not know how to approach them randomly. Also, I think it is weird to do so. But, at the end of the night, I want to at least have them notice me. What is the best way to open ...

When she is out of sight she is always on my mind

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6 December 2009 (M) - Hi, I have a problem whenever I don't see my GF for a few days I get the feeling she is cheating. I have told her I don't trust her and she was very hurt by it (I said this in anger) but still I told her I will stay on my toes! she has assured me ...

We have been together for 4 weeks and I am too lazy to have sex

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6 December 2009 (F) - My boy friend any I have only been together 4 weeks and have a great relationship and I'm very happy but every time it comes down to having sex I just can't be bothered to have sex. I enjoy having sex and especially with him but I have always been ...

I havent heard from him for two weeks, and am thinking he has forgotten me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

6 December 2009 (F) - My male friend, I have deep feelings for is enlisted in the USAF and one month ago he told me he was getting deployed and couldn't reveal the location. He told me to contacted him on Facebook and his email account. We have been Long Distance since ...

He wanted to get engaged but when it came to the crunch he cooled off

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6 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now, we moved in together after just two months of knowing each other, which is quick but I didn't have anywhere else to go at the time. He has been pretty open about the fact that he wants ...

My girlfriends family keep trashing me

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6 December 2009 (M) - ok down to the question like always im dating my 18 year old girlfriend i love her and all but her family is always getting in the way i mean her dad talks trash about me as well as her grandmother and grandfather... and it annoys me and just ...

My boyfriend went out with the guys, now I can't contact him

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6 December 2009 (?) - My boyriend told me he was going to a casino with two of his guyfriends tonight and that they were gonna sleep at a hotel. I called him a couple times tonight and he didn't answer. I sent him a text and he didn't answer, and now i after a couple ...

My boyfriend's behaviour has changed!

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6 December 2009 (F) - I'm in a commited relationship and have just completed 5 months. we both are really in true luv, but nowadays my boyfriend has seemingly changed.. he lives 545km away from my house.. now every 6 of month we used 2 wish each other 4 the completion ...

He has had another girlfriend, but through it all still seemed to like me!

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6 December 2009 (F) - hey jsut a curious question here because its happened to me. This guy really seemed to like me well used to and kind of still does. Is it possible for yoy to really like someone, maybe know that it can never happen(things got made difficult for us...

I know I love her but does she deserve it!

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6 December 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with this woman for a year and a half now. I found out about 4 months ago that she had slept with another man after we got into a fight and she stayed at a friends house. I broke things off immediately and tried to ...

We broke up due to cheating, but now she is cheating with me!

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6 December 2009 (M) - 5 Months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend with whom I'd had sex with and with whom I'd been with for a year and a half. She was too jealous and too clingy, and as a result of this, she split up my whole group of friends, as they felt they couldn't ...

I was planning on asking her out one day, now I have found her number online and want to call her

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6 December 2009 (M) - I'm in a real pickle here. There was a girl from work i really liked. I vowed that the day i would leave this job I would ask her out. And since she worked there for several years, I always assumed I would be the first one to leave. Problem is that ...