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writes:My last relationship ended badly more then 4 years ago. I recently began dating again and I am very anxious about sex and intimacy. My ex and I enjoyed an incredible sexual connection and I do masturbate so I doubt that its physical. I am/was very sensual but now Im so nervous Im really afraid of making out or kissing. Has anyone else been through a period of abstinence and come out the other end okay? Any suggestions on how to not feel Like a Virgin?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 December 2009):
 I had regular sex for awhile then went though a phase of not having any sex for a year and a half. Everything was still in good working order when I tried again though. I was pretty nervous but it wasn't a big deal to start again. Don't worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Yeah, just relax and have fun, and if you are interested in a man for a relationship and not just sex, I would take things slooooow, don't jump into the physical too fast or you might scare him....ha ha, but seriously....men who are into you for a relationship secretly hope you will turn them down for sex for awhile and takes the pressure off and build a friendship with them first...a sexy friendship though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): yes i have been there. I recently left my husband and i was with him for seven years. It is a temporary situation that you are in. My ex-husband was the only man i had been with and it was hard for me to be intimate with someone. The trick is to find someone who cares about you and is understanding and get to know them very well... tell them about how you feel...when you are ready to be intimate yes you will be freaked out but if your new partner is understanding then it will be okay. The more you do it...in a safe environment... the easier it will be. It takes time. GOOD LUCK ps. don't rush into it...or do it with the wrong guy it will exacerbate the situation.
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