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Dating: Help and advice

I have a really nice guy for a boyfriend but am attracted to a player

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I'm completely confused. For months now, I've been going back and forth between these two guys. I've been available for both of them, but now that it has come down to it, I'm lost. The first guy, I've been with for 11 months today. But I hav...

Should I tell her or let it go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - i am in this situation, a girl i had the biggest crush ever on for 6 months i asked her out we when on a date couple days later when i asked her out again she said she didnt feel for me in that kind of way but she loved our friendship and really ...

Is this my head that's affecting me and my mind?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - yesterday me and my girlfriend were making out and i got semi hard. it was my room and it was like 12 pm-5 pm and everyone was home at the time and i just kept hearing people talking and footsteps of people and my parents calling my name and i just ...

Should I say yes to his proposal... or am I too young?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - 1)My boyfriend and I are both 16. Him and I have connected on an extremely deep level and already talk about marriage and kids. we've been dating for 7 months, and his friends and mom have told me he's planning to propose (they showed me the ring ...

She can't remember if she had sex while drunk!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - My gf is currently studying abroad in Italy. She gets back in a week (it was just one semester so she will be back on campus here next semester). We were dating before she left and then I suggested we take a break while she's away. When she was in ...

I'v been faking orgasms, and I want a real one!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Dont know if something is wrong with me or what. but my boyfriend and i have been intimate for 2years and he is my first and i have not yet had any O's wit him. i be faking it and i really want to have one so any suggestions on what i should do??...

How can I stop his ex girlfriend from getting to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating one of my good guy friends for a few months now. I realized I didn't like him like I thought I did, but he's fun to hang out with and I really enjoy having sex with him, so we're keeping things casual and I've been happy with ...

How can I give a good handjob?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Tomorrow night I'm going to my boyfriend's house and we agreed that we were ready and mature enough to give that step in our relationship. How can I give a good handjob? ...

How do I initiate giving my boyfriend a blowjob?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Okay so here's the thing. I'm most likely going to give my boyfriend a blowjob sometime soon, and I was just wondering how I could get to that moment to where I am. You know what I mean like do I just say hey I'm going to give you a blowjob! Or like ...

I cheated on my girlfriend and cannot stop thinking about the other woman

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - I have been happily seeing my girlfriend for just over 3 years. We have never had any problems and she is now 2 months pregnant which is something we are both happy about. However, on a night out at work, i ended up spending most of the night tal...

Does she like me or what?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - So, i like this girl and ive liked her for a while (since late october). But recently like about 2 weeks ago, my good friend said he liked her and he flirts with her a lot and she kinda flirts back with him but not as much as him. And when we have ...

To go or not to go!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, he has two children from a previous marriage. When we first started dating I wasn't sure if I wanted children or marriage. Now I know I do want one (a child) and I would like to get married. I am getting ...

Can men be in love but not be into all the kissing n cuddling stuff?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Can men be in love but not be into all the kissing n cuddling stuff? I am with a man I love dearly, but he is not one for showing his emotions. When I questioned him about it he replied that the kissing and cuddling isn't really for him but he shows...

Does she really want to be with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - Theres this girl that I am real good friends with and I honestly love her and am willing to do anything for her. The reason I am righting this is because she has a boyfriend that she says she loves more than anything in the world, but every time I ...

Is it me being in an emotionally weak state or just normal because he is the love of my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm hoping to get some advice re my situation. 9 months ago I split up with my partner of 7 years because he walked out after a series of arguments which I think were mainly caused by him being depressed and at that time he was verbally abusive ...

When you are friends with your ex, what is the best way to act to get him to show even more interest?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Well I have a very simple question and I hope I can get as many replies as possible ... males and females pleasssseee ... so here's my question when your friends with your ex and he is giving you mixed signals what is the best way to act to get him ...

Should I Let Him Go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - Okay, me and my boyfriend Jack* have been together for six months, I moved in with him four months ago when he found out my father was abusing me (my father said I could go live with Jack if I never went home again..I was fine with that) Anyway...

How can I best help this relationship grow without putting too much pressure on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Need a guy's opinion - I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful man. We have been dating for a less than a year so we are still learning one another. I just turned 30 and this is, sad to say, my first serious relationship. He has pretty ...

Price isn't important, I don't know what to get him as a gift!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My relationship lasts about two months and now Christmas is coming and my boyfriend`s birthday (in January) but I still haven`t any idea what to give him. Presents for sisters, friends, parents etc are so easily to fing, but I don`t know my ...

Stay with boyfriend or go to far away college--which do I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5220 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hello. I have big ambitions to become a vet and i have the qualifications to go to university and do what i want. I also have a boyfriend with whom i've been with since i was just 13. So we are extremely close. The problem is the uni i want to go to ...

I really like him but since I told him to stop being so sexual he's gone... what did I do wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Ok is there anyway of getting this back... advice please!! Really liked this guy, he would always stop and chat to me as we work near eachother, he would stop his car to talk to me, flirt etc, this went on for a while ... the thing is i coould never ...

I cannot get a boyfriend and don't know why...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hello.I am a 19 year old girl. My problem is I might never find a boyfriend. I dated this guy once but we were 12 and were just kids. Our idea of gf and bf were occasional hugs and love letters. He gave me my first kiss. actually my friend matched ...

Myspace is killing my relationship...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - my question has to do with myspace. my boyfriend can be a very sweet bf at times and then sometimes i feel as if i dont mean anything to him. myspace is my biggest issue. he wont put me on his top friends and his number one is a porn star. every ...

How do I start a relationship with a girl I like?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - to be honest i haven't been in any serious relationship. but as a human being i have feelings for girls but i haven't made any move tho i have found the one my heart would love and be given. i need advices on how to start. things i would do to ...

How to avoid the pain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - MOD NOTE: POSTERS ORIGINAL TITLE I am a 38 year old male who just got out of a 9 month physically, emotionally, psychologically and mentally abusive relationship with a 34 year old woman. She had two children. At first the relationship was...

Somethings missing from my new relationship...i still long for my old half-lover/half-friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5252 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - So, I have a friend, a boy, who means a lot to me about 4 years by now. And now when I`m in a relationship, I started to miss him. We were much closer before, and I was always hoping that we will become more then just friends cause he used to give ...

Ideas for our 1 year of dating anniversary...???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - I need help quick please! Our 1 year anniversary is coming up and i dont know what to get her. I am writing her a letter but i dontknow what else to give her. I have already given her many stuffed animals before and a necklace, i dont know what to ...

Do I forgive him or just move on...I feel gutted?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world. I moved country to be with him and everything was going great - or so i thought. He never logged onto facebook or msn in front of me and i used to question this. So he did 2 nights ago and i see ...

Do I expect too much from him and this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have been dating my current boyfriend for about six months now, and I feel no closer to him now than I did at the beginning. I have been in a serious relationship before of two years, and was cheated on, but our relationship was so strong and even ...

Please help me understand boys!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - hi i need help understanding boys. how they flirt, what they enjoy talking about, what they find funny, are they really as laid back as they seem. any thing really cos i am clueless. so if any guys or gals here have any info on how boys tick please...

He stood me up - how should I act next time I see him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I was introduced to a guy 6 weeks ago by mutual friends who said he'd been asking them to set us up for ages but warned me he was really busy with work and may not be free that often (that had been the reason his last girlfiend dumped him). From ...

Have you given into the "what if??"

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - So I've posted quite recently in the past couple of weeks about my boyfriend who was using an internet dating site and if I should break up with him. I ended up breaking up with him but I really want to take him back. I'm so confused and don...

How do you go about saying "I love you"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5248 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Is there a "appropriate situation" to say "I love you" for the first time? How do you go about saying it? Do you just blurt it out randomly? Or do you start up a conversation about your feelings towards the other person, do you wait for a really r...

How do I make him realise he is better off with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have a guy friend who I'm extremely close with. He has a girlfriend who has been giving him nothing but grief for ages. I care strongly about him and knows he feels the same way, but I have told him I'll support him no matter what and understand ...

I want a relationship, but I'm worried he just wants to be friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My relationship with this man goes a long way back. We were together 2 years ago for about 5 months but ended it because he was depressed after having come out of a 7-year engagement that ended up badly. We didn't speak for months after that, until ...

She put me in the friend zone and then broke up with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - So I had been dating this girl for a year and a half and she started acting more distant. I pressed her on it and she said she no longer has romantic feelings for me. She said she has never felt so comfortable with a boyfriend before and she ...

He is not in the mood for sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half but the past few months we have been long distance because I have been away at school. I came home about a week and a half ago after not seeing him for weeks and we had sex the first three ...

Do I forget about him forever... or do I keep trying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me because I asked him to answer his phone or to call me back soon and before he goes to sleep whenever he goes to a party with his friends. I didnt even like the idea of him going to a party to begin with but i was ...

He bought condoms was that a BIG hint?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend very much. He bought condoms righttt infronttt of me and I dont know why. Hinting? How do I hint that I would like to be fingered? Im not shy, neither is he. I just dont know how to tell him hey...Im up for it?...

The man I am involved with is waiting for a married woman, how do I get rid of her from our lives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I'm seeing a man who has been involved with a married woman for a few years, she tells him that she will leave her husband but they have children and has yet to do so, how do I get her out of our lives....

My guy has never come straight out and said " I love You"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - SO my guy has never said these three words "I love you." right out like that...Instead he says things like "Love yah lots!" Or he will tell his friends he "love yah lots!" then turn to me and say "love yah lots...more." Or if I do something stupid h...

I want to experiment more buy my g/f says its too weird

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - Ok, i have been wanting to ask fro some advice. My girlfriend of about 10 months barely gave me my and her first hand job about a week ago, and it was also the first time i rubbed/fingered a girl and it was her first time too. She ended up liking ...

I've met a really nice man but it turns out he already has a boyfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - I recently met a loving and caring guy on an online dating site. We hit it off right away, and we went on a couple of really good dates. Things started moving into the realm of a possible relationship. Then I found out that he had a boyfriend. ...

Does she fancy my friend or me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

Did I over-react when he told me my friend was hot?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - During the summer I was seeing this guy for 2 months when he ended things to be w/ his ex. It wasn't serious and I barely knew him, so eventually I got over it. I ran into him after a month and he started texting me again- he said it was a big ...

I feel guilty and can't decide!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - [Note: All names are changed for privacy.] My girlfriend, "Jane," wanted to take a break from our relationship, partly because she was weary of my uncertainty about whether I was committed to the relationship. During the break in our relati...

My boyfriend is talking to his ex behind my back!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Okay this girl messaged me on myspace saying she was a friend of my bf's ex. She was telling me how he was calling her and messaging her on myspace saying how he missed her but he wants to keep it from me till he is ready to tell me. I didn't want ...

I told him I love him and now he is backing off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Please someone give me some advice. I have been dating a man for about 6 months now. He has constantly been in my face telling me he loves me and I will be his wife. Well, I didn't say anything to him about this but a really good friend of his was ...

Who is the father of my baby?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and my due date is on the 18 march 2010. Me and my partner were having a bit of trouble round the time I think I fell pregnant and I slept with a different boy on the 17th may and 26th june. I wanted to know if ...

I can't help but feel like he is lying to me...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi, about a month ago I accidently came across some opened e-mails from dating sites in my boyfriends e-mail account (he always forgets to signout so hotmail opened up to his, and I didn't realize it was his right away). Anyways, he denied opening ...

Childish by nature

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I met this guy off of a dating website (strike 1 on me) in February of this year. We went on a date, hit it off, talked for a couple of days and then I didnt hear from him again for about a week. He informed me that his exgirlfriend of 9 months had ...

Opinions needed... What can I do to stop thinking about her past?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - help! i've been with my gf for nearly a year. We can get on great, but im finding it harder and more often to forget about her past. I now find me analayzing everything, I met my gf 3 years ago, she and her bf at the time and of 4 years came to a ...

Nervous... Sex for the first time!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - okay so my boyfriend and i are about to have sex for the first time... we are both virgins, and i really want to and so does he but im scared. please help. i love him and everything is perfect but im just a little nervous and stuff. HELPP!...

Break up help...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I know what I need to do, but... ...but I still need reassurance? Strength? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He comes to see me twice a month and stays at my house. We talk to each other every day. I wanted to go see...

Can I regain the trust of an ex-cheater?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - My girlfriend "befriended" another man when her and I were serious. I caught her sleeping at his place multiple times, but she would never admit to cheating. As soon as I broke up with her (for cheating) she immediately entered a relationship with ...

How can I save this doomed friendship/relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi, two saturdays ago I met a guy I'll call him Marty. He was very forward, kissing on the dance floor, I thought I could trust him. Hmmmm... Two days later I told him I was in his area and he asked me if I wanted to go back to his place. ...