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Dating: Help and advice

The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2713 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...

I can't get me a man and I don't know why

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - okey! I need help for this one , I can't get a boyfriend!! I don't know what should I do to make guys want to be in a relationship with me .. the thing is that boys see me in a sexual way, I don't know maybe I send them wrong messages but I don't ...

He committed to me but I just found out he is still married

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5267 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I was dating a man 15 years ago and had a child with him. He wanted more than I was willing to give at the time and so we both went our separate ways. I still loved him I just felt as if I wasn't ready to get married and move away from my family. ...

I am being forced to chose and she isn!t going to like my choice

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Me and my gf have been dating over a year she is great until it comes time for me to hang out with my friends. she doesnt get along at all with my best friend and after many failed attempts its just not working. i know if it comes down to me ...

We want to have a baby but it's not happening for us

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Me and my fience really want to start a family..we have been together for 4 years but are only in our 20's,were planing to move in together in the new year. when we have sex we normally use without a condom then put one on at the end of sex just in ...

How can he have a girlfriend if he really loves me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - hey..i know im only 16 but i really need help! i already talked to my mom about it but i need some one elses opinion too please. ok so i know this guy since like 4 years ago and the very first day i seen him i was like WOW!(and i was only 12) we ...

We have been dating for a month and he is breaking my heart!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I,ve been dating my boyfriend since the beginning of November and he was happy for about 2 weeks. Now he tells mehow depressed he is and It hurts me coz I thought I was making him happy .I,ve tried everything to help him and Now he,s withdrawn from ...

Am I going to get dumped rather than a gift for Christmas?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My bf of almost 11 months moved back with his family after being unemployed as he was giving work with his dad. He now lives 80 miles away and says he won't see me at Christmas as he can't afford the £19 train fare even when I said I come pick him ...

He likes to party but I don't

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - i like this guy, and he seems to like me back. the problem is that he loves to party, and i don't party because i was brought up in a Christian home and i have no problem with the fact that i don't party. for months since school started we've been ...

My boyfriend makes me feel insecure. My fault? Help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5268 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Ok, so...I have been dating this boy for 6 months. At first, he was amazing. He complimented me all the time, and he made me feel like a princess. However, over the last few months, he has started making little comments that are starting to break ...

Ex or new boyfriend...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Me and my ex have been really close since we have split up and we see each other a lot more than what we did when we was going out and get on a lot better too. I have a new boyfriend that i hardly see as he lives so far away but we get on and when ...

I stay unhappy to make him happy...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I really need some help from someone, ive been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months so not very long and he loves me so much but i dont feel the same way, i really like him but im not attracted to him in any way so find it very hard to have a ...

Three years down the line and he's still never told me he loves me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Why won't my boyfriend of 3+ years not profess his love for me...?...

Is it okay to make out with someone when you're about to break up with your girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5104 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. I was just wondering if it's okay to cheat if you're about to break up. I have a gf and i'm not really happy with things so i'm going to break up with her when I see her next. I was wondering if it's okay if I make out with someone ...

I don't want to be the idiot that's used as a doormat.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I found out that my boyfriend has been sending texts to other girls of a sexual nature along with this he has also been sending texts saying that he wanted to be with them. this is the second time that I've found this out in the space of a couple of ...

I don't know how to get over this other girl without pursuing something with her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my girlfriend for two years now and i love her but lately i have been thinking about someone else. One night i got very drunk and tried to kiss this other girl, luckily we didn't but i cant stop thinking about her and i have told my ...

I think I'm falling for him but I have a boyfriend...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Someone please help me! I have a boyfriend (let's call him G) and we have only been dating for about a month but it feels so much longer! I love being with him, he makes me smile and feel happy. But recently there's been another guy.(let's call him ...

Who should tell the maid???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I moved out and he hired a maid. She met me during her interview while I was packing. They have had sex each time she comes in to do housekeeping (once a week) since I left. We've decided to get back together and I am moving back in. I managed the ...

I've been seeing him for 3 months so why am I so nervous around him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I am 14, and I am dating this guy, and I love him a lot, me and him have been dating for 3 months yesterday, November 30. and I am wondering how do I keep from being nervous with him?...

I don't know whether or not to tell my ex that I lost our baby last week or not.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I dont know whether or not to tell my ex that I lost our baby last week or not. He was awful the way he broke up with me and told me not to contact him again. It was only in the very early stages of pregnancy and i didnt know i was pregnant...

Am I not satisfying him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but if I run to the store or take a shower he goes and plays with himself. He works 3rd shift and gets home, talks to me for a few minutes and goes to bed. He goes and plays with himself then too. He pretty ...

Help! She cheated on me and I forgave her but I can't get the incident out of my head...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - I was dating my girlfriend for 2 years, she recently felt tied down and is in her last year of high school and says she wants to be free and able to go out with her friends. she tells me she loves me and can see us being together in the future she ...

Girlfriend doesn't want me any more, all of a sudden she's seeing someone else but won't say why!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hey to all. My name is Rodrigo and I am from Lima, Peru. On the months from beginning december of 2007 till the end of march of 2008 I went to an exchange program to Burlington, Vermont. Is there when I met my now ex girlfriend, we lived together ...

We both said we'd delete our Facebook profiles but she still hasn't deleted hers yet!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - hi, ok i posted a question a couple of days, and here i am. Well i'm 22, I'm 2nd year university, i'm dating this girl for 5 months, everything is fine... but a couple of days i began to worry a lot... i'm texting her 3 maybe 4 times as usual. ...

Should I talk to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My friend and I about six months ago were having this little thing... I liked the same guy as her, I liked him after I hung out with him a couple of times... Me and him would text for two hours straight and never run out of something to talk...

I really like him, but aren't guys supposed to ask the girl out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Well like I really like this guy and he trusts me with all of his secrets and I trust him with all mine. I told him I liked him and he said cool. I just heard he was single, but not for long. Him and his ex gf keep going on and off but I really want ...

Jealous of a girl who just got in with the family

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I am 23 years old and I am engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. We have been together for 6 years and for some reason I am still jealous. He has never given me a reason to be but I just am. We are always at his family's house and his ...

He's into anal sex and I am not

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I would really appreciate some advice. I split up with my long term partner a year ago (he left) and although I still love him I started dating another guy, who I do really like but the problem is that he is really really into anal sex and I am ...

Am I Pregnant...Or Being Super Silly???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I've been having sex with my boyfriend for 18 months now and I have never fallen pregnant! And when I was with my ex-husband (who later went on to have 2 kids with another woman, damn him!) I never fell pregnant and always presumed I was ...

Although my instinct here is to end it...i want to salvage this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Bit of a long question here, but I'll try to be concise: My girlfriend has said some things over the last month that have made me very suspicious of her and some of her male relations. For context: She has a lot of male friends, who are all...

When I'm with my boyfriend it doesn't feel like we are a couple...any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - ok, so ive been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now and we hardly ever see each other, but when we do we dont act like a couple what i mean by this is we dont hold hands and walk and i guess the reason for that is because he walks fast and ...

Is he giving me the cold shoulder, or is there something really wrong?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend was supposed to come on a trip with me last friday, and he never showed up...a few hours later he texted me and told me his mom was in the hospital, and that he was there all night and his phone was dead, so his room mate brang his ...

He says he won't contact me again. Is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi i have a question. I met this man we started dating for 7 days everything was good then suddenly i was at work he tried to call me i could not answer, He sent me an e-mail saying he tried to talk to me but i refused so he will not contact me a...

Not sure if he likes me 100%....to initiate or not to initiate?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I have a friend who is helping me talk to the guy I like and he doesn't know its my friend. He told my friend he wants a gf but he feels its difficult to get one. He mentions girls he rejected, my friend asked if any other girls liked him and he ...

Girlfriend or booty call?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5187 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi , I am just out of a long relationship. i am doing my masters and became close to one of my classmates. He jokes light heartedly about me and is always ready to help me. But hes not very good at talking about emotions and feelings and hen...

He says he wants to marry me and then I don't hear from him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - A guy I have been seeing on and off for several months told me that he loves me and wants to marry me. He didn't sound like he was expecting to hear it back but, I wanted to repeat it however, I didn't because I'm not at I love you yet and I assumed ...

25 year old virgin 6 years out of previous relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5251 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hi. I'm a twenty-five year old virgin man with Asperger's Syndrome. Back in middle school, something happened that left me very self-conscious. a girl had walked up to me during class and asked me to to the movies, but when she walked back to her ...

Maybe he's somewhat interested?

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1 December 2009 (F) - Ok so there is this guy I'm interested in that i met a week and a half ago. I have absolutely no idea whether he's interested in me or not. he called me a couple days after we met, then a couple days after, and once more a couple days after that. be...

How much do looks matter in sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hello everyone. I was wondering if I how much looks matter in sex. What I mean by that is i'm 16 and in high school and I wanted to know how much woman care about physical appearances during sex. I'm really skinny and my ribs kinda show and I ...

Common dating questions!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - MOD NOTE: 2 questions have been put into one post hey to all im going to ask two of the most commonly thought but not necessarily asked question by most guys. firstly, i like a girl very much but how to i ask her out or to be my girl friend. and...

Is there a secret to the first kiss?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - how can i get her in for the first kiss? is there a secret to it?...

Our relationship was a fake relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I've known this guy for 4-5 yrs.We've fooled around on and off the whole time.I got married and during that time that guy told me he loved me etc.I got divorced (not cos of him though).We fooled around for awhile and disappeared - everytime it ...

She sees me as a funky bandbuddy, but I want to be more

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - hey all, so, I play in a rock band with two dudes and a pretty cool girl. I started the band in the summer and for a while only saw her as a bandmate, I could tell she was pretty and interesting, but no other feelings surfaced, it was all busin...

I want to ask him out, but don't know how to do it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I was wondering what is the best way to ask a guy out? I like to get straight to the point/keep it short and dont want to have to repeatedly visit/work up the nerve to ask them out and find out theyre not interested or taken. Theres this ...

I am a girl and I want her to love me back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I'm a 14 year old female who is bisexual. A few days ago I told one of my close friends who is a girl that I like them. They said they didn't feel the same, but today they texted me saying this: "How do you tell a person that sometimes when you talk ...

My boyfriend has lost interest in sex, but I haven't

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together for over a yr now and we used to have sex about 3 times a day. now it seems like i have to beg him for it, and he doesn't really do any fore play with me anymore. i have talked to him about this a number of ...

My views on the Relationship Between Love and Psychics

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5269 days ago

1 December 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Well, let me tell you a little story. As you are aware I am currently in a relationship now and are also aware about the problems that she and I have gone through so I won't touch on this that much. Kristina, that's her name, and I have ...

How can I come out of my shell when I'm with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (?) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and when I am with him i want to be able to come out of my shell. in my mind, i see myself being free and aggressive, but when i am with him i have trouble with that. also, what are some fun ...

I gave him my number and he hasn't contacted me yet. Did I do the right thing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5270 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I spoke to a guy at work about 3 months ago. During the conversation we both dropped it in that we were single. But nothing else. I then spoke to a friend who is good friends with him. I asked him what he's like etc. He told me that I've got...

Did this boy lose interest/feelings for me? And do you guys think he meant it when he agreed to remain friends with me? (or was it to make me happy?)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

1 December 2009 (F) - I met this boy over the summer. all along he was giving me these little hints that he liked me but didn't wanna see obvious...but EVERYONE told me that he REALLY liked me and that he was VERY shy...anyway, We knew eachother for 5 months and we were ...