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writes:I haven't registered on this site, thankyou so much in advance for all of your advice :) Sandra tells me that she meets this really good looking guy at work. She told me this a week ago. Says he is funny, and outgoing and witty. One day while they were both working, someone said something to her and she and the guy (Alex) shared the same views on what that person said. Sandra says she momentarily said little quirks about their threeway conversation while they were working, not long, just passing by each other sometimes. Alex I guess seemed interested or strongly about their little convo. At the end of her shift, she knew she had to wait for her mom to get her, she waited in the lobby at her work place. She told me Alex came and sat down and they joked around about a couple of things, and she said that she was complaining that her mom was taking forever to pick her up.They talked long enough so that he shared that he is a certified chef. Sandra gets an offer of a ride home from him. Three days later she told me that they both contacted eachother somehow...she forgets. He tells her that he came by the other day trying to figure out whether she got home from walking outside or is on her way from work. Rung bell in my head, why is the guy caring so much as to if she got home alright..weird I thought. He left her his number and everything, and then shows up without notice one afternoon to her huge surprise. Something that also rung a bell in my head. She said they sat in the car for a few moments just talking, notices in the back seat empty kiddie seats. Apparently didn't say anything to him, about it.In my head im going oookkkaaayyyy (ding ding ding ding ding) She tells me that in the car basically they talked about having a sexual relationship. Since they both dont have time for relationship. Me knowing her...sent an email to him that night asking him politely if he had ever been married because she noticed of course that he already has kids. and he says that he has two kids 6 and almost 7 . Now Im thinking okay fine...then she tells me that he says that he lives with the mom of the kids. again ringing any bells? basically lives with the mom, as commonwealth, and that he does his own thing, and doesn't want her (his w.e) running off with the little tykes. She keft saying something like...I tried asking him whats going on but he hesitated, never really sharing the full story of his living situation. I know she isn't a bad person, so she asked him, will your commonwealth person get mad if your seeing someone else, he i guess said ''i dont know''(how could you possibly not know that?!)i asked what happened next, and she said that she told him, that at any minute she could walk away, and nothing could happen that may jeopardize w.e "situation" Alex was in at his house with his kids,she was like,i dont wanna be that girl. He says no. Sandra says they made out, touched eachother..stuff like that.Now are my the only one here that thinks that something is wrong? Is he for sure lying, and cheating on his wife/is my friend having an alleged affair. Is he really married? PLease Help, this could end really terrible. If i get to reply ill do it in the answer column.
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reader, beentheretoo  +, writes (13 December 2009):
Something is very fishy and it's sad that your friend doesn't have higher standards to just ignore signs that he is married.
I'd knock on the door and ask.
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