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writes:I feel really bad about this but I've been trying to figure out a way to get rid of it to no avail.I have a very strong attraction to my boyfriend's older brother. I know it's wrong and I've tried and tried to stop thinking about it but It's really bothering me. I rarely see his brother but when I do I can't help but to think of him in a sexual way. at first I thought that that I was just attracted to his magnetic personality but now I think that its just the fact that he's like an older, more attractive future-version of my boyfriend. If they were closer age I'm sure people would mistake them for twins.I haven't told my boyfriend, his brother, or anyone how I feel and I don't plan to for fear that he'll be offended by my attraction to his brother. I've been trying to forget about it and block his brother from my mind completely which just seems to make it worse.Help! what can I do? I feel like a sick person, like there's something psychologically wrong with me for having these feelings. This is a huge internal conflict for me and I fear that if it gets any worse I'll just have to separate myself from the situation all together and that's not something I'm willing to do, I love him and I don't want to hurt him, I'm sure I'm not going to act on my feelings toward his brother but the thoughts I'm having are making me feel extremely guilty! Reply to this Question
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reader, cutiepye +, writes (17 April 2009):
 I speak from experience ..I was attracted to my husbands older brother we used to hang out a lot because he lived next door and at the time I was 21 and stupid so I told his brother and his brother said its ok but im sure it will go away....and you knw what life went on and I stopped hangin out with him. And my crush went away still till this day when I see him I still feel a little guilty inside but im only human and im very thankful he was mature about it and we didn't mess around now I see that would have been a huge mistake. Its ok!!! Be strong move on bout it you love your man right?? : ) good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): It is common for girls your age to be attracted to older boys and men. I would start dropping some hints to your boyfriend that you really like his brother, telling your BF that you think he will look like his brother in a few more years. You are probably not the first girlfriend your BF has had who has been attracted to his brother. And it could be something that could work in your favor. For example, if you are sexually adventurous and would like to know what it's like to have a sexual threesome with two guys, you could have one with your boyfriend and his brother, because it would be like being with your BF when he is older.
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