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How do I give him the go ahead without straight up telling him?

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Question - (14 April 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 April 2009)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am 18, turning 19 in a few months, and I really want to lose my virginity.

My bf and I have been dating for almost two years but we've kept it pretty innocent; we're both virgins. The funny thing is, all my friends think we're sexually active, whereas all his friends think we're not. We've had the opportunity in the past, and I would get all ready for him, making sure I look good, but when I could sense it starting to get to that point where it's now or never, I would suddenly get extremely self-conscious and I bailed.

Since then, he's been very respectful towards me and hasn't tried anything at all, which I know I should be (and am) very grateful for. But now I WANT him to try something, so how do I give him the go ahead without straight up telling him?

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A female reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (15 April 2009):

we-are-nowhere agony aunthave an indoor date , start making out and stuff , take your shirt off and so on then when it starts to get heavy if he stops or holds back pull him nearer or tell him i'm ready or anything that would make it clear that it is ok

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009):

absolutely understandable. try watching a romantic movie or something of that nature w/ him in order to 'get in the groove' you know, get your juices flowing so to speak. just allow things to run its course ya know. hopefully he'll comply I guess. good luck!

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