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writes:Hello there,I have a major issue. I've been with my BF for almost one year. That may not seem like a long time to you but considering I practically live at his house every day is pretty much equivalent to a few years together. Anyway, my problem is... After a few months I found out he was addicted to a perticular type ot drug. Now, I can tell you it's not Heroin or anything deadly like that. But what I can tell you is that it does effect his personality and our relationship. He is a great guy without it but totally opposite on it. Please, please help me!!!!!!!
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reader, Griffo +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Often the biggest mistake that is made is when a relationship starts under an influence of drugs or alcohol. You might very well have fallen for a bloke that has disappeared or had a major shift in personality since you first met.
I don't know what drug it is but no illigal drug is safe period! Thats why they are illegal regardless of what a drug user says (with their degree in drug science). Anyway... the only way you can solve the problem is for him to stop using. Its really that simple to say! But very tough to do! Sooner or later his mind will shift - and its very sad.
You can't tell him, he won't listen and if he's been doing it for long enough then the only person who can help him is himself.
If your on your last option then im sorry but if he's already hooked even if its a simple illegal drug then your probably best to walk away. Your family and friends would hate to see you dragged down in this and it most likley will happen eventually because you simply love him - so please be carefull yourself because its very likley you wont even know when its happening.
I know this because it happened to someone very close to me and it took him nearly 12 years to get off it. It distroyed his family and he has no friends anymore. However, he was using much heavier drugs. But still it all starts with weed!
I wish you the best. Be strong!
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reader, megan1111  +, writes (16 January 2009):
My experience has been this: drugs are a highway that leads only to death or destruction.
Get out of the relationship but you can remain friends. Explain you can't be in a relationship with an addict. Get him some help but you can't help an addict, they have to decide to help themselves. Unfortunately, most decide to keep the addiction until they get "sick and tired of being sick and tired". I know this is not what you want to hear but it is something you need to hear. You must end the love affair until he ends his love affair. You must accept the fact that he loves his addiction more than you and be prepared to move on.
What does his friends think?
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