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writes:Does inexperience turn a guy on or off? I recently started seeing a new guy, and things have gotten pretty intimate really fast.. though this is a first for me. Any ideas? Much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (1 May 2009):
Probably a major factor is the guy's overall attitude about sex.
If he thinks that sex is a very special thing reserved for wives or life partners then the inexperience is definitely in your favor.
If he thinks that sex is a competition to see who can get the most then he probably scores extra points for being a girl's first partner. And, it helps him get in a little practice (without facing much criticism) before moving on to more challenging conquests.
If he thinks that sex is a recreational activity to be enjoyed by people as they see fit, the inexperience can be attractive because of its novelty and the ego-boost of being "the teacher" - or it can be a turn-off to be with a partner who is clumsy, unskilled, and unsure of herself.
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reader, Summer DeMilo  +, writes (16 April 2009):
If a guy really cares about you, he isn't going to care that you're not a sexual dynamo. Don't forget getting intimate with someone new is always different because everyone's different - he might feel just as nervous because he likes you and wants you to enjoy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): First let me say this is not a bad thing you are just feeling a little out of place. Thats ok. you are not going to know more than him since he is the experienced one, so now its your turn to experience things and experiment. Communication is the key if your uncomfortable tell him if it feels good tell him louder.. why??? because men like to know they are pleasing you in bed, men actually like to do a good job in that area for you and it makes him feel good to.so relax and enjoy
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reader, xcrazygirl08x  +, writes (16 April 2009):
I'm very inexperienced myself. And some guys love that I'm quite naive and haven't slept around because it means I'm not a slut. If it matters to him, he's an asshole. But my bet is he'll love teaching you new things and having fun with it. Treat it as the chance to have new experiences and enjoy doing it. It'll be fun, promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): The really great thing about inexperience is that you're not being compared to a long list of maybe more skilled guys. It takes the pressure right off. Not to mention how much fun it is to help someone discover new things.
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reader, between a rock and a hard place +, writes (16 April 2009):
experience only matters for a guy lol. if you guys are comfortable with each other than thats all you need.
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