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writes:My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months on and off. He ended up breaking up with me because of commitment issues and he felt like I was smothering him. He insisted that we still remain friends and kept telling me how great I am and he didn't want to lose me. We've hung out once since our break up and when he came over, he was cuddling with me and saying how much he missed me. He made plans for us to go on a date but never called and I found out he partied that same weekend. After that, during winter break he called me twice and texted me three times but I dint reply. I saw him the other day and we talked a little. It was casual and he asked why I had been ignoring him, I said I was really busy and he was bragging about how much fun he had and what he did during break. So I dont know if he is mad at me or what because he didnt give me a hug, like he always does. Does he not even care that he lost me? We have so much in common and he always tells me how beautiful, cool etc I am and I just dont understand the fact that he doesnt seem to care that he let go of someone who loved him so much and who was so perfect for him. Yes I realize he is my EX and I shouldnt care and bla bla bla but I still love him and Im just curious if he misses me at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): I know exactly how u feel. I have just broken up with someone who i was on and off with for a year. When we were apart we did text etc a bit but he would never give anything away about how much he missed me etc he just boasted about what he'd been up to which made me feel like absolute crap coz i felt like he'd moved on. But then everytime we talked about gettin back together he'd break and tell me how much he'd missed me, driving himself crazy about what i was up to or who i was with, lying in bed wondering what i was up to right now. So yes they have all of the same feelings, but they have been taught from a young age to man it up and not go on about it like we do!
The thing is with ur situation, similarly to mine is the lack of comittment. One minute he wanted a relationship, the next he did but nothing serious just casual, and the next he wanted to be single. Don't let him tell you you smothered him-he is just trying to make you blame yourself so that he feels less guilty. It is his fault for not being honest with you. Don't worry about what he is feeling, he will be feeling it and worse than you in some ways because he knows that it is his fault he has lost you and that someone else willing to comitt will snap you up. This is the thing- he kept telling you he was missing you and hugging you etc because he wanted to keep you dangling and because he doesn't want you to move on and getting with someone else. Its the old case of he doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you. My ex did the exact same thing every single time we broke up id ask him not to text etc but it'd always end up in the same old thing of him sayin he missed me and still had feelings for me and me running back asking him to try again if he felt like that. It has only ended now because i found out he had been texting someone else and as soon as he realised the game was really up he didnt bother doing any of that. That is what is happening with you...he realised the game was up when you stopped texting back and that you werent going to let him get away with treating you like that anymore.
Just be glad you got away from the vicious circle that couldve gone on for so much longer. Take the upper hand as you have done and you will be so glad you did. Soon you will be over him and you wont even care if he is missing you anymore because you wont be missing him. Hope this helps x
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (19 January 2009):
yeah obviously he me misses you but i think hes gettin the impression your playing it cool so hes trying to do the same! ask yourself why had you ignored him that time? if you liked him still then you would of left everything else to meet with him. although you dont want to hear it some things are best left in the past, dnt carry on things that faded a long time ago. i think he does care that youve finishd but doesnt see you ever reconnecting.the fact that he 'bragged' about his plans shows he stil likes you and misses you, but he did end it and for a reason, that will remain how it is whatever happens. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): He Misses You Very Much, More Then You Know.
We are men. We aren't going to sit there are feel sorry for ourselves, we sadly have too much pride for that.
But you are probably the only thought on his mind when he sees a girl, or hangs out with his buddies.
He cares. He probably loved you as much as you loved him.
In the back of his mind, he somehow knows he will never find someone more perfect for him then you.
Somethings were just meant to happen, but never do.
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