A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been having sex for the past 2 years and as far as I can tell I think I've only came once or twice. The other night he was fingering me and it felt nice for a bit, then it seemed to get a bit intense and I couldn't tell if it was hurting me or not and I just felt kind of scared. I didn't feel in control and I didn't know if he should stop or not. I can hardly remember how I felt. I just remember saying that I didn't think I could do it (come) and it's all i could think in my head. It got reli intense n i ended up bursting out crying. I don't know what happend. All of the feelings of crying and being upset were there but then it just left. My eyes were completely dry and everything was gone. no stress not upset no nothing. I felt like i was a kid that had just thrown a tantrum.I have little faith in myself when it comes to sex and i really just want to have an orgasm, every time we do it i just feel this build up and all i want is for it to leave me and i cant get the energy out. Any time it comes close to it i always get so frustrated because either the bed squeaks to loudly (we share a flat with another couple and i dont want to annoy them) or i get scared of the intense feelings.What does this mean?Thanks
View related questions:
fingering, orgasm Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, DoubleM  +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Well, I think that you are still very young and that you are not very comfortable with this boyfriend nor the surroundings. You may be fixating on squeaky bed and such. You will do fine under better circumstances.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): ORIGNAL POSTER:
I have tried doing it myself, but i don't get a single thing out of it. like i say i get the intense feelings and i want to stop and get scared. if HES doing it, then its not so easy to pull a hand away and i feel a bit more comforted if hes there. I've tried doing anything i can but it doesn't seem to work. i've tried with a vibrator also. but it just hits that point where i dont know what to do or how to 'let go', get the feelings out or it stays there and i get scared coz its like pressure building up in me.
...............................
|
