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Archived questions from: 23 October, 2008 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Should I walk away from boyfriend and ex wife drama?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Ive been on an on and off relationship with a guy who has a crazy ex wife in which they have a child together. When we met it was supposed to be a no strings attacthed relationship but we slowly became boyfriend and girlfriend. After about 8mths of ...

My boyfriend has invited her round to his flat to see it decorated!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi, Ive got a niggling problem with my new boyfriend. He has just told me he has been in contact with a woman from a dating site every day for nearly a year, and this weekend he has invited her round to his flat "to show her how he has decorated it" ...

He seemed crazy about me, but now says we have no future. Huh?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi, Am having some trouble understanding a situation - I have had a few bad dating experiences lately and a couple of months ago I met someone I thought I could really like. We started going out and he seemed particularly thrilled with me, I've nev...

Are we meant to be together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I've been "with" my guy for 3 years now. In that time we spent a year "broken-up" but we were together anyways just not officialy you know becuase we wanted to resolve our issues etc. before we went any further now that we are back together it's ...

Who should I choose... my best friend or my crush?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

23 October 2008 (?) - Yesterday my personal life hit a little snag. I've had a best friend named 'Brian' and crush named 'Nick' for a long time. Well, Brian told me yesterday that he's been in love with me for the past three years and then Nick came up and told me he's ...

Could holding my breath for 15 seconds affect my unborn baby?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Will it affect my baby if ocasionally I don't breathe for like 15 seconds.... it's during intercourse... I have stopped but I'm almost four months, will my baby be challenged?...

How can I prevent us from arguing all the time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for approximately 20 months now. We were so happy the first year, but then he starts talking a lot to a girl, one of my good friends, and he says that he thinks she's pretty and sweet and nice. I got jalouse and ...

This guy kissed me (I'm male) and more has happened since!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

23 October 2008 (M) - Me and 5 other mates went to South Africa for a holiday which we said that we had been planning and talking about for nearly 3 years. 1 of the guys who came with us was openly gay. He wasn't camp or anything like that lol. The group, myself ...

I'm terrified of losing my virginity.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5174 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and everything is going so well. It couldn't be going better except for one thing; I'm a virgin and am still scared of losing my virginity. My boyfriend has been so understanding, and we ...

I'm tired of his empty promises.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and been living together for 2. Recently I went into his phone to text myself (couldn't find my phone) and there were messages to and from this girl he used to work with, "Vanessa". We've...

I don't understand what he wants.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I started dating this guy and we decided we would date other people. For a while we see each other a couple times a week, we talk a couple time a day and he calls me sweetie all the time. Then all of sudden he started pulling away, but he still ...

He says I scare him because I want a commitment. How do I respond?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I've been dating a 52 year old (i'm 43) for 2 months, today he emailed me, he says: I scare him because it seems I'm pushing for a commitment and he's not ready for that right now. How do I respond to that??????...

We fight, we break up, but somehow keep ending back together again! Why do we have this pattern?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hello I have been in and out of a relationship with someone for over four years now. we fight and then we breakup and sometimes its a really bad breakup and then months go by and we will get back together. this has happened so many times now i...

I am feeling depressed because I want someone to love me.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4635 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I wouldn't say I'm fully co-dependent because I don't have to have a boyfriend 24/7. I know I'm young but I really need help. I'm on depression pills, but I haven't taken them yet today and I just feel pathetic. I don't understand why none of the ...

My friends and my boyfriend hate each other.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi Guys, I'm in a sort of sticky situation. I love my boyfriend to bits and I love my friends too. But the problem is - they hate eachother. When I first started going out with him, my friends made fun of us and kept on saying nasty things abo...

Here are a few new signs hes giving out. Do you think he likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hey! I posted about this situation a while back: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-tell-him-and-risk-our-friendship.html Things have actually progressed recently, i'd like to know if any of these signals mean that he really likes me!...

He fantisizes about me when we are apart. Does that mean he only wants me for the sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - hello, thanks for read my question, I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, I think we have a nice relationship and strong feelings for each other. He has a very high sexual energy, so do I, the sex between us is great, sometimes we do it for ...

I am so sick of being the only single one in the group!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I'm so fed up of being alone. Every single one of my mates are either in a relationship or have been in one. I feel so left out of it, yet I just can't find anyone who is interested in me. I know I'm only young, and I'm not asking for some to marry, ...

Sometimes I feel so unhappy with my boyfriend I just want to get out!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4997 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I'm really so confused is it normal. Me and my bf (22) are dating for a year and half now, but most of the time he do things that make me feel so awful, sad and just unhappy, that I just want to get out of this relationship during these difficult ...

I think I'll let him use me for sex as I like him so much.

This question has 32 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I've known this guy now for about a year, we met at a friend's birthday party and I fancied the pants off of him! He told me he liked me too, we ended up kissing, dancing etc.. but we didn't see each other again until June, she had another party and ...

He took my virginity but he'd already slept with 7 other girls!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5645 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Dear cupids. My boyfriend lied to me for 8 months about being a virgin, but then after he took my virginity he confessed to previousy sleeping with 7 girls!! He told me he didn't want to hurt my feelings, which he did twice as much by lying! W...

He used to have chlamydia but he says it's gone now.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - This might sound like a daft question but does chlamydia come and go? I know he HAD it, but he said he doesn't now :s does it just go? or does he still have it?? He wants me to sleep with him but I'm really unsure about him although I do like him, ...

He wants to court me after my graduation!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I recently had my 'love of my life' once again after 2 1/2 years. But this one is strange, totally. For he's an HS teacher and I am his student. I'm only 17 and he's 24. I think he loves me more than I do, really. We do not talk whenever we're on ...

A threesome gone wrong!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5637 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi.. I had this crazy idea once to have a threesome. I was really drunk and so we had a threesome, me my boyfriend and another guy. I love him with my whole heart and I felt really bad about it the next day, since he said at the beginning he didn...

I can't afford him any more but I can't kick him out either!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Well, my problem is with my lazy, unambitious boyfriend, he went to london for 2years where he had the time of his life, he worked, he travelled europe no that he's back in south africa he's so depressed.... he's been back for two years.... he hasnt ...

Is my boyfriend doing Acid???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I have met my current boyfriend back in March 08, when I was on vacation. We ended up having a one-night-stand that then turned into a serious relationship. Since I lived quite far away, most of the time between March and now we've spent being in a ...

How can I prove to her that she is the one and only?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (M) - Okay me and my girlfriend love each other very very much. And I know for sure that this is true love and not a high school crush. I am currently 14 and my girlfriend is the same age. We have been going out for 6 months. When we first got together ...

His porn watching is affecting our sex life in a detrimental way.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5640 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. I love him very much and I know he loves me too but our sex life has always been dysfunctional and at times non existent. I am 21 and he is 43, he has some trouble maintaining an erection and ...

She's pissed off at all guys, right now.. But I still like her and want to ask her out. Advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (M) - The homecoming for my dance was this past weekend. and there was this girl that I really like and before I got the chance to ask her she got asked by another guy. This guy then started being a total jerk to her and now she's pissed really at all ...

During sex, should I put up with the pain to please him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5658 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I'm a 16 year old girl and i recently lost my virginity to my 17 year old bf of 3 years. My problem is that i enjoyed my 1st time (and the other time after that) but i'm very tight so i experience a lot of pain during and after it. My bf luvs that ...

What should I do now that I have told him I don't want him to propose?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in college and have been going out for two months. My boyfriend and I have talked about the future and such, and now he wants to propose to me. I told me I didn't want him to propose yet because we are only eighteen, in our ...

I'm pregnant now and I dislike this 'open' relationship I have with the man I love! Help

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - In the beginning of my relationship I had agreed on me and my boyfriend in having an open relationship. More or less on his side he got to flirt, sleep, pretty much do whatever he wanted. At first it was no problem because I Thought our relatinship ...

Scared to ask him out because we hang in different cliques at school. Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (?) - my problem is that i'm very much in like with this guy who is kind of an..well, actually the only word you can probably use to describe him is, well, asshole. But i think that he is a very sweet person... deep down inside. But the thing is i'm kind ...

He's well endowed..how can I handle him comfortably in regards to oral sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - my problem is that my fiance and i recently started to get intimate. yes, he is well endowed,but ive learned to handle that. what i havent learned to handle is giving him fellatio. he is often aggressive,and sometimes tries to deep-throat me and ...

She says she loves me but says it won't work! What should I do?

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23 October 2008 (M) - Hey my dad just split up with this girl's mum and we were really close. after a month of thinking i finally told her i love her and she said she loved me back. but says she wants it to work but says it won't because of what other people will say. is ...

I love him but is this other guy going to come between us?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - well bassicaly i really dunno what to do here, ive met this really nice guy and ive been with him for a while now and we love eachother soo much but i feel like something is getting in the way .. its jst i have been speeking to this other boy on m...

It was just a kiss with this other guy! Should I tell my bf?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - hey i am dating this sophmore and i am a freshman. we went out once before but for only a few days. a month later we are back on again. i do like him and i know he isn't with me to get in my pants. but i do like somebody else who is a sophmore. this ...

Can't tell what the 'status' is between me and him! What do you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - hey im a freshman and me and this sophmore have been talking for over 5 months now. we have talked about dating each other and how we both like each other but once school started in august he started dating this other girl. they are broken up now ...

My boyfriend is cheap!! What do I do and how do I tell him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I have been dating this guy for 7 months long distance. We usally see eachother every weekend. At first I went there everyweedenk and for bus trips and cab rides it was over 100$ a weekend(plus everything else, alcohol, food etc.) He comes down more ...

I love my cousin but don't want to upset the family! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I've liked my first cousin for 4 years now and only today i found out that he liked me to for the same amount of time. I thought it would be wrong if anything sexual should happen between us but if it did it would ruin the family and i dont know ...

Since he broke up with me its like my life shutdown! Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - A week ago my boyfriend brokeup with me. this has been the hardest thing I've ever had to face,i really loved him and i was stunned when he ended it. we were together for 9 month and we had our highs and lows but i never stopped loving him,.since he ...

Are there still feelings between us? What could this mean?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5542 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Well it's been a month since my ex broke up with me and I haven't been seeing him or talking to him for about 3 weeks so today was kinda hard to tell. Today me and my friend walk to class this morning and I walk past my ex. I decide to give him the ...

Lost my confidence when my gf and I broke up! How do I get it back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Hi over the last few months I had some problems I broke up with my girlfriend and I have been made redundant I have lost all my confidences and worst of all my ex has destroyed most of my friendships with my friendp with my gf-- in a quick ...

Lost my virginity to him but I think ...he gave me a STD!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - I have been with this guy who I lost my virginity to for 6 months. Before I went to the doctor, I had sex with him about 10 times. I went over the summer and she said everything looked fine and I was negative for ghonnehrea and chlamydia. I also ...