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writes: my problem is that i'm very much in like with this guy who is kind of an..well, actually the only word you can probably use to describe him is, well, asshole. But i think that he is a very sweet person... deep down inside. But the thing is i'm kind of a band 'geek' and he is a very popular jock. He's the only sophmore quarter on our football team. So I'm kind of scared to ask him out because of our cliques. what should i do? please give me answers as soon as possible! thank you for taking the time to help Reply to this Question
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reader, Beery  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Trust me, as the others have said, if this guy acts like an asshole, he's an asshole deep down inside too. Assholes may seem to have a gentler side, but sweet guys deep down inside don't act like assholes on the surface. You have a crush on this guy, but this seems to me like a guy to avoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): my bf (but I come from new zealand and we don't have this heinous clique thing you guys have going) and I are completely different. He's popular, everyone loves him, a natural leader and I'm quiet, reserved and although I'm not a geek, I'm just there at school. Ppl from diff circles in school can go out, it's just that you said this guy is an A**hole. That's not going to change and he'll treat you like shit too. you don't want that, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Don't go for him.I can tell you he's going to only end up being hurt by this type of guy.I know many guys of this type and they treat their girlfriends like shit.They fuck them without tending to their emotions and sometimes abuse them.You don't have to listen to me,but I woulden't reccomend it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Listen, you're young, and you need this advice. If guys act like assholes, then they 'are' assholes - even if they may have a sweet side to them underneath; because the fact that he's such a jerk on the outside shows how inconsiderate he is to those around him. Even a guy like Hitler or Stalin probably had a sweet side to them.
Don't forget your ethical standards! As a girl you are attracted to the confidence and self esteem he's spewing, there's nothing wrong in that, but look for someone who shows these traits that you are attracted to but is a 'good person' as well.
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