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Archived questions from: 28 October, 2008 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

He has a gf but is he after me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - OK, this guy is a friend of mine. A long distance one. I met him in a deal from my office. Turned out we became keeping in touch as friends he told me he had a GF so we took the friend road. He's military so we never lost touch out of what things ...

My girlfriend thinks I take her for granted !!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - What do i do when my girlfriend thinks i take her for granted. I feel like breaking up first. who has got a better plan ?? (I want to marry this girl when im old) for the whole story scroll down Hi my girlfriend and I are together for 1 y...

He would rather give it to himself!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years, and the sex has never really been frequent enough for my sex drive. I comprimiesd and settled for once a week, but then I got greedy and didn't want to expirment too much because I wanted ...

Are we just great friends with the passion gone?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5660 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi all, My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, although we only live together part time due to his work at the moment. I always knew he liked porn and we were very active in the bedroom initially, although this was short lived after the ...

How can I breach the sexual subject with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - How can I breach the sexual subject with him? My boyfriend and I are both pretty inexperienced in relationships, but him a lot more than I. He's never kissed a girl and so were going slow and haven't kissed yet, but we've had some pretty intimate...

I'm being bullied into losing my virginity.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - OK. So, I'm 14, yes fourteen. I've recently got a boyfriend who I've been going out for for 5 months, and that's pretty good I must admit. A lot of girls who have always had it out for me have been coming up to me and been going, "Hey virgin, you ...

I found out my fiance was unfaithful.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi, I found out my fiance was unfaithful. We haven't spoken since. I feel that I need to be told if the whole 8 years we were together was a lie, that when he told me he loved me it was true. I sent him a text explaining that if he ever cared for me ...

My boyfriend thinks I'll break up with him after my plastic surgery!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I'm 21, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months.. I am currently a cup size A, and hardly fill it in. A couple of weeks ago my father and I were talking and he offered to pay for plastic surgery, I agreed. My Boyfriend was thrilled w...

How long is too long?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5660 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I would like to know how long is too long before you move in together. Me and my partner have not moved in and it has been 5 years now and to be honest it doesn't look like we are moving in anytime soon, but a relationhip should progress to lvin...

Is it possible for someone to fall out of love, basically overnight after 3 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Ok, well, about 3 months ago, My bf and I broke up. So, that makes him My ex. He just decided 1 day that he didn't want to date anymore, and we have been together 3 years and never had this problem. I'm not too crazy about the friends he hangs with, ...

Just how important am I to her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I wanna ask how can i tell if my gf wants to be with me and only me, or is she with me just when she has noone else to turn to.... she rings me during Lunch when she is at work, she rings me sometimes during the evening, when I am at work during t...

Is there more going on with my boyfriend and his female best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend has a best friend that is female. Which is fine with me, my best friend is male. Heres the thing.They dated about 8 years ago and now are best friends. When me and him first met(not knowing we would be together) he sad if there was ...

I feel as if I'm being used and want to end this AGAIN. What do you think?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I'm engaged to a woman from Eastern Europe who is over 20 years younger than me. (That's a bad sign, I know). I live in North America, so our relationship is pretty unusual and we hardly ever see each other. I have known her for almost three years. ...

Sex advice please!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - Hi everybody, I've been going out with my girlfriend for over 2 years and I need some advice. After the honeymoon period was over (say 6 months) I started noticing that when she became more secure in the relationship that sex became less frequent. ...

Is 'seeing each other' and 'being with someone' the same thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - hey guys this is a question for the guys... whats the difference when you say we are seeing each other and actually being with someone... is there a difference between the two phrases... why would you say we are seeing each other if you are boyfr...

Are some men turned off by a womans career path?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5660 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Are some men turned off by a woman's career path? Im in my early 30's and finishing up a cardiothoracic surgery fellowship and hoping to start my own independant pracitce next year. I have dated many guys in the past but none of them have reached ...

He likes me but he has had an on / off relationship with his ex who is also my friend! What to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - my best friend who is a guy says he has feelings for me. weve been friends for 8 months and we talk and txt all the time. we enjoy each other's company. when he said that he has feelings for me, i thort it would ruin our friendship because his ex is ...

I think she doesn't love him but is after his money!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - hiya today ive had my ex bf on the phone crying his eyes out basically the woman he left me for is treating him like crap,she says she doesnt trust him and that she loves him but not sure if its in a friendship way or a gf/bf way, i really feel for ...

I think the only reason we havent hooked up is fear of rejection.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I have a boyfriend as of few weeks ago, but I like this guy who has a girlfriend of a few months, and I think he likes me too. I think the only reason he and I didn't hook up yet is because we're both afraid of rejection by the other, and we're ...

My girlfriend is starting to ask my help in paying her bills

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I have a girlfriend who i love very much and she says she loves me, she works nights in people care and exhausts herself doing it to pay her mortgage and bills and the money is not going far enough so shes started asking me for money to make up the ...

My boyfriend says he cant get any sleep when I am in the bed with him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5611 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi, So I started dating this guy a month ago and I have slept over. It seems he can't get any sleep when I'm in the bed with him. I don't move much nor snore, and I'm able to sleep well. He hasn't had someone in his bed for the past three ye...

The lap dance he was offered made me feel jealous. Should I consider being present at a second show?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5193 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I am a soon-to-be bride and my fiancé' and I have been together for a long time. I was never a jealous girl; however, once I got that ring the jealousy hit me. It didn't occur to me until my beau received a lap dance....it was a "celebration" lap ...

How to handle crushes on guys 'out of your league'?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - What to do when you have crushes on men that are far above your head and wouldn't like you anyways?...

How can I get him to give us another chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hello, My boyfriend and I broke up last week. We were supposed to move in together, but at the last minute realized it probably wasn't a good idea because we have been fighting a lot lately. While he is not perfect, a good amount of the fi...

I recently went through my husbands facebook messages and found out he has been flirting with this gal...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi I recently went through my husbands facebook messages and found out he has been flirting with this gal for a long time. It really upset me because the things he was saying to her were too deep for me. I confronted him and he says everyone...

Could this be emotional abuse?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5648 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi I think I have been in an abusive relationship. Started dating in February, he was loving and things were good. but slowly over time he showed he had a short fuse, ranted to me on the phone about spending time with family, said our time pre...

We are together 1 year 6 months, but he keeps "wandering". How can I make him fall in love with me again and forget about the other girl??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 1year and 6months everything was going great, untill he met some girl in another country. we have broken up atleast 5 times and we kept trying because i believe in this relationship, but he is very distant from ...

I've recently split with my boyfriend who I loved a lot. Problam was he didnt love me.He still had feelings for on of his past ex's. Now he calls me for long chats. What am I to make of this ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - hello, im really confused hear I've recently split with my boyfriend who i loved a lot. Problam was he didnt love me and he still had feelings for on of his past ex anyway, are split was his choice but we still talk often,anyway i usually speak to ...

How do I show her it's friendly with body language?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I am in a relationship with 'Rick' and my friends, 'tish' and 'john' are in a relationship. things are a little rocky with me and Rick and i like John and he is always flirting with me and compliments me quite a lot. A different girl and I fell out...

After having sex with me he told me "I don't want to be with you!"

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I am 25. My boyfriend ended things almost a month ago. Since then we've pretty much spoken everyday, and on sunday we met up for sex. I know, I know, absolutely terrible idea and I know that now. We had a great night and he stayed the morning after ...

I am a "Walking Disaster"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - In advance, thanks for anyone who replies to my question; it means a lot to me :). At the moment I am a "Walking Disaster" I broke up from my girlfriend a few months back and I'm still trying to get over it. To me, their was serious relationsh...

I don't want to leave my job but if it comes to it I'll have to...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hey, i asked for advice about 12 days ago, concerning a meeting with my boss and how my work was affecting my health. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-work-is-damaging-my-health.html Intially I was really pleased about my meeting. He real...

How can I tell him I KNOW???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I really need some advice recently I went threw my boyfriend's fone (I know I shouldn't have) and found that when he had gone out he had met a girl and now hes been texting her asking her to send pictures of herself and things like that. It's kil...

Boyfriend wouldn't support abortion if I was pregnant.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5659 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Me and my bf were talking about what would happen if i got pregnant. I am 18 and only just started studying and am no way ready to have a baby. So i told him, im not ready for a child, as much as it would hurt i would have to get an abortion. H...

My boyfriend and I are so different and it's causing problems.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend just wants to see me as and when it suits him and if there is nothing else better to do. We dont share many similar interests except watching tv. He drinks a lot and I don't so any time he goes out he doesn't want me in his company cos ...

Would he still want to go out with me after I played his best friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - The guy that I am in love with just found out that I am in love with him, he loves me too but I also used to chat with him using someone else`s identity not mine, he also told my friend that he has a feeling am the one he was chatting to. The ...

What do I do to break her out of the shy shell and to convince her to go to the same college as me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - My girlfriend and me are heading off to college next school year. She just told me that it's probably best for her to not be in the same college as her. My girlfriend is very shy. She says that when I talk to people, she feels like she belongs to ...

My girlfriend is constantly jealous of a girl I once had a crush on.

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28 October 2008 (M) - My girlfriend keeps becoming jealous of a girl that I had a crush on. I previously had a crush on a girl for a span of about a year. My girlfriend used to be "best friends" with this girl that I had a crush on. My girlfriend and my ex-crush, plus ...

Squirting... I need some information please!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Hello, I am 20 years old and I was wondering if anyone could tell me anything about squriting?Every time I have sex I say stop, I have to pee and he says no that's what we're looking for, that's good your not going to pee your gonna cum. I don't kn...

Betrayed, hurt, confused and angry too.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Betrayed hurt confused and angry was my last question. It's been a couple of months since I asked that question. And I'm realising that as much as I want to forgive I'm still at stage 2 anger! And she's taking control! It's killing our relation...

We're on a break but he keeps calling!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4752 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I are now on a break. He was the one who suggested it. But when he suggested it he was crying and crying and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me be for some reason he wanted to be alone at the moment. He NEVER ...

I'm growing increasingly resentful about my boyfriend's daughter!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5619 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - When me and my boyfriend met his baby was 2 months old but because things had turned ugly with the ex he had no contact with his daughter and had only ever seen her twice. One night he broke down to me telling me he cried everynight over it and he ...

My Blackout Ruined Everything!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I met the man of my dreams over a year ago and we became fast friends. We shared everything; our love of creating art, our personal politics, past relationship woes, our taste in music and... our love of alcohol. About a year after meeting, w...

Why is it that guys take longer to admit they are in love with a girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (?) - why is it that guys take longer than others to admit that they are in love with a girl? i was with a guy and we were dating for five months until he told me he loved me and i had boyfriend another time and after only dating for one week. why is ...

Why can't I fall in love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I've never had the fluttery, giddy feelings you get when you love someone, or even just crush on them. Ever. Which is strange because I think the thing I crave the most right now is a serious relationship. I WANT someone to love me, but also to ...

Why is he turning on the only person who wants to help? ME!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I'm really upset. My boyfriend has gotten really depressed lately to explain this I better start from the beginning. We met years ago and stayed friends until we lost contact because I moved away and lost my phone. He moved house and then a year ...

Why don't people realise how wrong and illusive is their supposed sudden love for a past sweetheart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - What's with that epidemic, of ''hooking up with old lover"" on computer. Why people can't see, how wrong is that? It's a trap, you feel unhappy in your marriage, so you look up, your high-school sweet-heart on line, and you think you are in love ...

How do I stop being so possessive and crazy everytime he talks to another girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5575 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two and a half years. The first year and a half of our relationship, everything was great. He was such a sweetheart and I completely trusted him in all aspects of our relationship. This past February ...

Why does he love me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5652 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - my question is: why does he love me? is it the way i look? is it the way i make love to him? could it be my personality? perhalps my faults as a human being.. or maybe the way i brush my hair? my cooking...?? this is the first real relationshi...

My guy friend tongue kissed me...do you think he 'really' likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - well, my guy friend tongue kissed and cuddled one night. now, he said he was sorry for kissing me and that he was sleepy. he also said that he did not want to give me the wrong impression. when we kissed it did not feel like he did it on an ...

Been having sex with my boss for over a year! Confused about how he feels!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My boss and i having been just having sex for over a year but i think he would like more if we both were not married, first he calls me all the time and wants me around him all the time and is trying to inpress my kids somewhat but i'm confused ...

Ladies, how much does physical attractiveness, in a man, mean to you?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I feel so insecure about my body these days, I know I'm not at the peek of physical fitness but I am an active person and feel like I shouldn't have to be the guy rippling with muscles and washboard abs. What I want to know is... Women how much...

I doubt there will be any chance of reconciliation. I need advice to help with this sadness!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I am so terribly depressed. I was on top of the world a week ago but when I found out some truths behind the break up between my ex and I, it has sent me downward emotionally. After a rough patch with my ex, a friend of mine for five years named...

Is he playing with my emotions or what?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5660 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I had this boyfriend a few months ago who i was crazy about. He seemed perfect. He was so sweet and nice and everyone said we were the perfect couple. Then one day out of the blue he broke up with me. I found out later that he had broken up with me ...

Does my ex-boyfriend still have feelings for Me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5575 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - Ok so I walk into the libray where I hang out by myself and when I enter the building I saw my ex-boyfriend for the 2nd time looking around for somebody. I pass by him to get a seat and say "hola!" He soon follows me to my seat and notces my sketch ...

My gf needs time to think as she still misses her ex bf! Do I give her the space?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5662 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - So my girlfriend says she needs time to think about things because she still misses her ex. She says she loves me more than she has loved anyone but she still thinks we can't be together. I just found out that she has been calling him and meeting ...

I hate to think that he stopped loving me altogether..so how do I interpret his text messages?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - My ex and I have started talking again after some very steep ups and downs. It has all been through text messaging so it's hard to interpret. I try to keep things short, sweet and to the point. When I say something that doesn't require an answer ...

Why do some girls go out with losers?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

28 October 2008 (M) - I found out yesterday that this girl I'm in love with likes this total loser, no one really likes him. This happened before too when my ex had history with a loser and got back together with him. I'm a cool guy, I have lots of friends, and I h...

Was he spinning me a yarn saying that he loved me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - I had an affair with a married man on and off for almost a year. He told me that he wasn't leaving his wife for nothing. He told me that he loved me once and never told me again. I fell in love with this man and then with no notice, he told me it ...