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writes:hi, I have been with the same girl for about two years now and like all couples we have had our ups and downs. We lived together for about a year and after I neglected her she started to "act" like she didn't care anymore about us or our relationship so I would go out with with my friends and she would do the same, I must say I went out more than her because she is more reserved than me, after seeing how things were not really working out I decided to tell her I was moving out because I saw that my actions were hurting her. Her reaction was like whatever so I didn't think she had a problem with it but deep inside her she did hurt as she confessed to me later I moved out and we never concluded anything, within a couple of days my friend introduced me to his sister with no intention other than meeting her, we hit it off pretty good and we started dating, my friend did not have anything to do with us except introducing us, well we had sex and our dating lasted about 2 weeks, after that we decided that we should just be friends, we continued as friends for about two more weeks and after a month of moving out my girl called me and told me she missed me and wanted to get back together, I confessed what had happened to her and she seemed to be ok with it, well after seeing that my friend's sister kept calling me she wasn't ok with that so I stopped talking to her Ok now the problem is that now she told me that she doesn't want me going to my friend's and wife's house because she is jealous and thinks that she is going to be there but honest to good she is never there when I come over so now the question is, is it wrong for me to go over my friend's house? and why? should I break off the relationship with my friend? please read carefully and answer with a serious opinion thanks and sorry for telling my life's story but I want you guys to know the whole situation.
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reader, killerek9 +, writes (6 October 2009):
killerek9 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not good with ending relationships and I will go more than out of my way to fix them instead and maybe that's one of my defects and maybe I'm putting her feelings ahead of my own but I know that in order for a "couple" to be happy you must think about your partner before you? maybe I'm just confused
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reader, killerek9 +, writes (4 October 2009):
killerek9 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your imput , I introduced my girl frien to my friend and his wife and they have been nothing but nice to her but after spending one evening with them and onother couple she later told me that she did not feel confortable so is not like I didn't try to include her in our friendship, so just because she doesn't feel confortable I don't see why I should compromise our friendship, and yes every time I go over my friends I ask her to come along.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
Your girlfriend has no reason to stop you from seeing your friend and his wife. You didn't cheat, you were broken up. Clearly if his sister was there, it would make her worried. But she won't be, so there's no real problem. Is there any way that your girlfiend could also meet your friend? That way she could see that there's nothing to be jealous of. If, however, she's still jealous, then you might need to consider this relationship. It's not healthy to allow her to pick and choose your friends, especially when you really haven't done anything wrong. Reassure her, make sure she knows she's loved adn see if there's any way that she could meet your friend.
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