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writes:I have been on and off with my girlfriend for 4 years. Each time we break up feels like the end of the world. 6 months ago I met a woman that has taken my breath away in every way. Now I find myself loving two women. I can not take losing them both, which is inevitable if I keep up the affair. I know I am being selfish but I can't help it. How do I choose between them?
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reader, Fubar108 +, writes (24 April 2009):
Fubar108 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help so far...I still feel stuck. lol..
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reader, Who +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Old joke; Rich man trying to decide which of 3 girlfriends to marry. Gives each one $100,000 to spend any way they want. One invests, one buys the best education possible, and one goes on a world tour to understand all she can about different cultures. Which one does he marry? The one with the biggest tits.Be that as it may, here are a couple of suggestion you may want to try:1. Ask each where they see you two in 1 year, 5 years, rest of your lives. Pick the one closest to you vision (assuming you have one.) Warning: be prepared with what to say when they ask you the same question. 2. See if you can find out which has had the fewer, longer term relationships in her past. She is likely to be in it for the long term in the future. A pattern of a lot of breakups and a long string of boyfriend in the past is likewise likely going to extend into the future. Pick the type to future relationship you want.3. If you are going for long term, see what each woman’s mother is like. Because that is what you are going to end up with.4. Let them decide. Arrange for each to find out about the other by “accident.” Chose the one you are able to make up with. (Danger! This is obviously the high risk option. Only do it is you like things like cliff diving or riding a motorcycle without a helmet.)Best of luck.
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reader, Dinkie  +, writes (23 April 2009):
there is no way you can have both so you need to think about which one is the one you want to be with over all
their must be a reason that you are off and on with your girlfriend, consider what that reason is and if you can stop breaking up. or the other woman why do you love her so much ? and is she someone you can see your self with in a serious relationship ? its all questions and no straight answer with this kind of thing
try to answer the questions quickly and as the longer you take the more likely you are to change your mind... first answers are usually the right ones
also maybe make a list to help
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Stay with your current girlfriend! Do the right thing and ditch this new girl! X
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