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writes:My girlfriend has been hanging around her ex-boyfriend a lot more then usual. She goes to see him a lot when he is practicing sports. She tells me that they are best friends and would want nothing more then that. But, today she admitted that she has gotten feelings for him again! I'm glad that she admitted this to me and it trust her more for that. We both agreed that she should stay away from him for a while. This was fine with me, but it seems as though she is upset with me. She is not answering my texts or my calls. Yet, I still see her talking to her ex-boyfriend/best friend. But, I've noticed that they are not together as much. We are not together as much either, we hardly talk in school and I can tell that she is upset. Is she upset because of the loss of a friend or is there something more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): if i was a boy then i would personally end it with her.
you can't be in a relationship with someone and be happy if you still have feelings for your ex.
ive been in a relationship with someone after i was with my ex for a year.
yes it hurts getting over them but its something you just have to do !
i still love my ex, but the love is different!
i would like to put it : i dont have feelings for him but i have love for him :)
i was happy with the guy after my ex because i was over him.
the number one thing i would say because yet again its happend with me, DO NOT GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP IF YOUR STILL IN LOVE WITH SOME1.
i hope this info' helps and you work it out.
but really i dont think she is worth it because in the end its most likely you who is going to end up hurt, not her. . .
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I agree with kellyxxx.
"My girlfriend has been hanging around her ex-boyfriend a lot more then usual"
This isn't really normal. If someone is hanging out with their ex it's usually because one of them has stronger feelings. Either she still has strong feelings for him or she likes having him around to boost her ego. However, you said it yourself here:
"today she admitted that she has gotten feelings for him again! I'm glad that she admitted this to me and it trust her more for that"
"We both agreed that she should stay away from him for a while"
This is really not the answer at all. She isn't over him and agreeing to stay away from is not a solution. YOU need to stay away from her. Take a break and leave her... She needs space to be on her own and think about what she really wants. As kellyxxx rightly says; in this scenario you are 2nd best... Perhaps a plan B or someone to keep by her side as a fallback.
"This was fine with me, but it seems as though she is upset with me. She is not answering my texts or my calls. Yet, I still see her talking to her ex-boyfriend/best friend"
No surprises there. I say this is not a relationship at all. You're better off concentrating on yourself and who knows maybe she will make her mind up or you'll meet someone who puts you 1st.
In short, she hasn't dealt with the breakup with her ex. I don't think ex's can be true friends. If this is the case then perhaps she wasnt more but is staying close to see what happens.
I have been in a similar situation myself and did the "just friends thing" andit really doesn't work.
In fact I would be quite angry at this. She is showing no respect for you as a person by stringing you along and entertaining her ex at the same time. She is wasting your time. Move on.
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reader, ALONSO80  +, writes (22 April 2009):
nothing good can result when your girl is best friends with her ex. She most likely won't end the "friendship" if you ask her. Leave her alone, it doesn't bode well for you lad
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (22 April 2009):
I agree with the first answer. If she's your girlfriend, she shouldn't be ignoring you and hanging out with her ex. Her feelings are supposed to be for you, Not another guy. It might be hard but you deserve better and should break up with her, you'll find someone who's better than that.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (22 April 2009):
 She likes him and so this is a problem. You can't continue a relationship with someone who likes someone else! You're always going to feel like 2nd best so dump her and move on because you deserve better! X
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