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Dating: Help and advice

He's too immature and inconsiderate! Should I end it?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hello, I have a problem. I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over 7 months. I never really thought I loved him. He never seemed too bothered with spending time together on our own. 4 months ago I cheated on him. We only kissed but I fe...

I always do all the talking. Does she not find me interesting?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5341 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - hey how is everyone i need some more help if you dont mind every time my girlfriend and i talk on the phone she has nothing to say, I'm always talking most of the time its quite and i say i love you to her to brake the silence and because i mean it ...

I've Known Her 5 Years...And I Really Like Her

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20 September 2009 (M) - i have been best friends with this girls for 5 years ( im male and im 16 btw) and when i first met her i was really attracted to her, my feelings for her wnet away eventually but they have came back stronger and i dunno what to do. also latley my ...

Different to Other Boyfriends...He's Not Very Nice to Me

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20 September 2009 (F) - been with my bf for about 2/3 weeks he is not my usual type as previous boyfriends continuously told me they liked me and wanted to be around me. my current boyfriend doesn't and it makes me feel insecure that he doesn't want to be around me i k...

I'm falling in love with my friend's boyfriend... what do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hi my names jemma. My other best friend has got a boyfriend and so have I, we have been with our boyfriends for the same amount of time, 7 months, But here's the thing, im falling out of love with my boy friend, and im falling in love with her bo...

Oral... should I or shouldn't I?

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20 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend wants me to perform oral sex on him but I always refuse. I can tell he really wants me to and we have already had sex. Should I do it or not?...

My Girlfriend is a Control Freak

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5341 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - I am a 46yr old man and have been dating my partner (26) for 7yrs and have a young son. My problem is my girlfriend is so very jealous and insecure. I was married before and have 4 children which my partner flatly refuses me to see, I have done my ...

Do These Signs Mean He Likes Me?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hi Am I right are these the signs if A man fancies you Signs he was giving: Staring eye contact corner of his eye on me Looking at me and holding the glance. I wrote to him saying like Am sorry and that..(Long story) and I put 3 dots a...

We Don't Get To Spend Any Time Together

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20 September 2009 (F) - My man and me have full time jobs. We work so much that we sometimes dont see each other. On the weekends when we are both off we make plans to do something together including the kids. But when that day gets here he acts as though we didnt make ...

Sometimes I feel like walking away even though I really do love him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5337 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - There's probably no way I can post this question without you thinking I'm insecure or irrational. I don't consider myself to be either, in relationships I definately like my space and the biggest problem I have come up against is ex's not giving ...

My Ex Keeps Threatening My Girlfriend

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20 September 2009 (M) - Hello Aunts, Hi got a problem and its i mean shes been bugging me for a while.My X wont leave me alone.We broke up 8 months ago.I have a new girlfriend and i love her to bits but my x keeps threating her.i hate her so much.ive never le...

I'm Stuck In a Messy Love Triangle

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20 September 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Ive liked this guy lets call him Robert. (because i dont want to keep writing the guy i like).Well ive liked Robert for a year and a bit now and recently my best friend told me she also likes him and it left me heartbro...

Why are men so hard to understand!!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5341 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this boy for around 2 months. I'm 17, he's 22 and he has a 4 year old son. He's happy with how things are between us and doesn't want to change it while I can't stand waiting for something that might not even happen! Because of this ...

My hormones way out...Why??

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20 September 2009 (F) - For the last fortnight I feel that my hormones have been out of sync. I am the type of girl that needs to be brought out of her shell in the bedroom with my boyfriend of 6 months but these last few weeks I have been wild and horny a lot, so not like ...

I'm having to lie to my parents, how do I get around this?

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20 September 2009 (F) - This Friday my boyfriend wants me to stay round his, he has the house to himself so his parents don't know. The problem is my parents won't let me sleep round his so I have to make up an excuse I've already said my friend is having a sleepover and ...

How can we compromise on our introvert/extrovert personality traits?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hi there, My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship and have been together five months. I am 25 and was in a long-term relationship for three years before. There is a big problem - he is not interested in integrating with my friends a...

How can I show my long distance girlfriend of 2 months that I love her?

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20 September 2009 (M) - Okay how can I show my long distance girlfriend of 2 months that I love her? She said I'm not allowed to send her antyhing because she's not a materialistic person and there's more to dating than gifts. So any ideas?...

He makes me feel so insecure... do I stay with him? What do I do for the best?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hi my name is Preeti (24) dating a guy (28) for one and a half years. My boyfriend has a really close friend who's a girl and I just feel like I'm no one in his life.... I'm very insecure about him but I love him and he loves me too but I feel he's ...

He won't dump his ex or "put a ring on it", should I move out?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Last year I found out he had been emailing his ex the whole 2 years we had been together. I wouldn't have minded if not for the fact that he made me sever ties with all ex's and male friends from my past. He had been accusing me for months of ...

I still like him...could he like me too?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - okay so i went out with this kid lets name him joe but me and him only went out for 2days becus one of my " bestfriends " at the time told me i should break up with him and i did . but me and him still talked like bf gf calling eachother babe and ...

How can I keep her from blocking me and get her to trust me?

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20 September 2009 (M) - Well here it goes. Im sorry this will be long, ill make it as painless to read as possible. i feel bad for asking, because i never have time to respond to questions anymore but you guys have been the best when it comes to this stuff so im just going ...

Are we falling out of love?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Okay, so I'm going to start this question by saying this... I'm 21, and this is only my second serious relationship ever. Anyway, I started dating a woman (I'm also a woman) in April. We hit it off right away. We were madly in love with each other ...

I have Asperger's and I'm dating a lesbian. Any advice?

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20 September 2009 (M) - Okay, so a couple weeks ago, I met this girl while I was having an anexity attack, and it turned out she had those kinds of issues too. We swapped each others phone numbers, and constantly chatted through text messaging. She seemed really nice, so I ...

I feel guilty for leading him astray. Should I tell?

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20 September 2009 (F) - i'm 14 nearly 15 and i've been talking to this guy i've known for about 6 months we get along really well and i like him and he's said that he really likes me the problem is that he's 20 and i've said to him i'm 17 the proiblem here is that i'm...

He says I'm the love of his life but he wants one last chance to put his family back together?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been friends for 13 years and started dating 6 months ago. It was the first relationship I've ever had that felt right. He's separated and when his estranged wife found out how serious we were she decided she wanted him back. ...

The thought of losing him makes me shudder. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5339 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - When i was younger there was a boy i was always close to, we grew up together and was always best mates, we went out when i was like 10 (he was 4yrs older) but our parents stopped us. A few yrs later when i was 14 we went out again, but it was hard ...

I'm in a wonderful relationship that's lost its spark. He says he doesn't want to marry.

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20 September 2009 (F) - I've been in a wonderful relationship for two yrs having been single for most of my life. I love him dearly and he is very loving in return however, he does not believe in marriage and I want to, I've always wanted to. At the moment I'm finding I'm ...

Can you give me some suggestions on how to speak to a boy?

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20 September 2009 (F) - hey :) i am 15 years old i am a female in an all girls school. My frineds say i am stunnin,buubly,outgoign,funny,georgeou but there is just one thing ! i have never had a boyfreind i know its probably the stupidust (dont know how to sp...

Is snooping ever a good idea?

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20 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have just come through a very difficult time. I dearly want to believe he has changed like he says he has but he has lied to me a lot and the trust has gone. I know it will take time to get this back and im prepared to work at it ...

How could he treat me like that? We've known each other 2 years!

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hello everyone! So there is this guy i worked with for 2 years and he started the same uni as me a week ago. I always had a crush on him and one night we went for a night out. He was quite drunk (or pretented to be) and we ended up in his place ...

My boyfriends best female friend hates me, but he never sticks up for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

20 September 2009 (?) - sorry this is so long but here goes: me and my bf have been together for about 2 months now. he is a senior (18) and im a sophomore (15). we went to six flags together last night. he used his best friends season pass and parking pass so he ...

We fight because I don't like the decisions he makes!

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hey there, i have a problem that i would really like advice on. My bf and i tend to fight alot and i know why i just dont know how i can fix it, and i take blame for the fights. I try to change him into being the perfect bf that i want, but i kn...

Interpreting texts when getting to know each other!

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20 September 2009 (F) - I know one shouldn't analyse texts too much but would love to hear anyones thoughts!!! Met a guy recently and have actually posted other questions on him - it started out as bed mates and I said no to that - so now we are just getting to know ...

How can he just shut off his feelings like that?

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20 September 2009 (F) - I am completely confused...This guy and I were friends for over a year and seemed to develop a strong attraction to one another. So after trying to fight it, we gave into our urges and had sex a few times. It intense and exciting each time. He ...

Where's he getting all these ideas from?

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20 September 2009 (M) - My boyfriend is away and he sends me scenarios sometimes of sex because we're apart and it's to help us and sometimes his stories have a reality to them that he can't make up, but that we have never experienced together. But he was a virgin and lost ...

I want to change my jealous insecure & untrusting ways!

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20 September 2009 (M) - I have been with this girl for about 3 months now. In my previous relationships sometime my actions have got in the way, and pushed my last girlfriend away. I cant decide wether it is a trust, insecurity, jelousy or control issue. The best way for ...

She's trying to sort out things with her ex, doesn't want to hurt him, but where do I fit in?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5338 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - Well i could do with some advice here if possible, Ive been dating a girl for a month or so. So far its been awsome we both look forward to seeing one another, chat on the phone etc. The last date went went on was great until the end of the evening ...

I've never been so drawn to someone!

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20 September 2009 (F) - Not really sure where to begin with this one, but I guess I'll just tell my little story from the start. Basically, I can't get this guy out of my head and I don't know why. From the moment I first saw him in one of my university lecut...

At Uni with a jealous possessive bf calling me, all the time! How do I cope?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Right, this might be a bit long but i have two really big problems. I'm currently in university in Cardiff (my first year)and my boyfriend is in Swansea in his second year. Now i love him to pieces and couldnt imagine living my life without him...

How do I ease the pain of heartache after breaking it off with a guy, I adore?

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20 September 2009 (F) - can anyone please help the pain to ease. I have broke up with someone i adore. I may have been a bit needy recently with heart problems. we see each other at the weekend and lately we have been what i would say quiet with each other, i do get ...

I can't get over my ex girlfriend....any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - I can't get over my first girlfriend. I'm 21 now, and she was my girlfriend when I was 18. She's a year younger than me. She broke up with me on New Year's Eve after four months. It was horrible, i was completely heartbroken. Since then, i ...

Another guy kissed me and I liked it...but I have another bf! Help!

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hi! Well, i went to a party yesterday in a forest with a couple of friends and i met many new people. But one was a boy i never met before and he is a year older than me. We talked for a while and then we went for a walk and he stopped me and kissed ...

He gives me pleasure but doesn't seem to want it from me! What's happening?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5341 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and i hope its true when he tells me lovely things. yesterday he told me that hes fallen for me, and hes not the sort of boy who likes saying i love you etc. But there is one problem... whenever we do ...

My current guy doesn't excite me anymore...what should I do?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hi, I dont know what to do, I am currently in a relationship in which i have been with him for 4years now, I do love him but i dont know if this is enough he does everything for me but the excitment is not there anymore, I have grown feelings for ...

His priorities are all screwed up how can I make him see this?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Hello. I feel kinda silly asking for advice online, but I am confused and in need of the advice so here it goes... I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He just recently moved out into his own place that he shares w...

How do I approach this guy without freaking him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5342 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hey, I feel like a little kid but here it goes... I am still living at home, Just turned 18 BUT there is a guy the same age as me who lives three doors down, everytime i pass him or see him we have this little staring thing going on he will look at ...

Mixed signals/hot and cold

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20 September 2009 (M) - Just want to thank everyone for answering ahead of time. My problem is with this guy I've been talking to. We've only gotten together twice, but he's nothing like anyone I've met before. I'm bi, and I just starting reaching out to guys because I ...

I feel like I should just give up on ever finding that special relationship

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20 September 2009 (M) - So I've only had one girlfriend in my life. We were together for six months then she broke up with me. That was six months ago. I know that her and I are not meant to be. Everyone says that it will get better with time and that I'll find someone ...

I'm worried because she's easily influenced by those around her

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20 September 2009 (M) - Hi People, I've got a relationship question, I really like this girl that I met about 3 months ago. We get along really well and have a great connection and we have hooked up a few times. I've been reluctant to ask her out properly as she ...

How do I communicate with this girl and get to know her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5342 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - well to start off..i know this girl that i really like before..she was my batchmate from highschool and at the same level until graduating to 2007 but we never really had any communication i mean were not even classmates due to the fact that our ...

I want to take a step back but how do I tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5342 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend. The dearest thing to my life. He shares my standards, respects me, loves my family, and puts me first over anything and everything. We never really fight, but we are really serious and we back out at random times. I'm younger ...

What should I send the girl online that I like? I was thinking flowers or a stuffed animal..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5342 days ago

20 September 2009 (M) - I met this girl online and we have been chatting for almost a year now. I really care about her and I want to do something special for her. She lives about half an hour away and we have been planning to meet, but I want to do something before we do. ...

Why didn't he like me? He likes her instead.

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20 September 2009 (F) - Ok i have this problem, ALL my friends who are girls see that this boy "bob" likes me right, he is my best guy mate and i really like him. But my other close guy mate has told me that "bob" likes my friend "emily" , she has told me she doesnt want ...

I need help to gain confidence in my small breasts

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5271 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Ok, this is kind of a stupid question. First of all, I don't live in America nor do I live in Europe. In the country I live in, men are obsessed with big breasts. They are just ideal - real or fake, they're just considered better than small ones. ...

I wish he was more romantic

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20 September 2009 (F) - right, so ive been with my boyfriend a while now, 2 and a half years, and were in love. well I'M in love, and i think he is too, he just doesnt really show it anymore. you know what its like being in a new relationship, you're getting to know eac...

Why do I want my abusive bf to be happy and successful....even "after" he came at me with a knife??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5342 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - I'm having a really hard time because my boyfriend was arrested yesterday for domestic violence. Yes, there's a big long history, but yesterday was really bad because he came at me with a knife which he was then going to turn on himself (this is ...

Help me...I don't want to end up an old spinster!!

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20 September 2009 (F) - Ok. This is really hard for me. I am 28, and I have never had a serious relationship. I have had two boyfriends, neither of which was a sexual relationship. I live at home due to the fact that I am studying for a postgraduate degree, so canno...

I need some tips on anal sex!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5172 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Hi Aunts. I hope no one will be offended by my question. My boyfriend and I would like to try anal sex. I like the idea and am excited about it but I am just secretly worried that there will be p** on him or that it would smell or there might be ...

He said he doesn't feel attached enough to be bothered if another man hits on me?!

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20 September 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for about a month now. Last night I was out with my sister and brother-in-law who happen to be roommates with my ex, so he was out with us. He was trying to hit on me and I turned him down because I am only interested in ...

Why doesn't he call me anymore?

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20 September 2009 (F) - hi, What if a guy called u once every wk, once every other week, to not calling in a month. He messages me online all the time but theres a difference between IMing and calling. I was the last to call hm (3 weeks ago) and I was the last to...

How do I get the boy of my dreams without embarrassing myself?

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20 September 2009 (F) - Ok it would be great if someone could help me :) First i'll tell you a lil bit about me cos it will make it easier to explain, i'm in year 11 and i'm pretty shy.. especially around boys, i havn't had a proper long term relationship and really l...