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writes:I have been dating this guy for about a month now. Last night I was out with my sister and brother-in-law who happen to be roommates with my ex, so he was out with us. He was trying to hit on me and I turned him down because I am only interested in the guy I've been dating. I told my guy about the situation just to let him know nothing happened and to be honest and all that. His response to me was that he doesn't feel attached enough to me to be upset over another guy hitting on me. I was so offended by his comment. I didn't say anything to him about it, but I felt like this relationship was a little more than that. Clearly we don't have the same feelings for each other, and I am pretty much fed up. I'm not going to waste my time on someone who doesn't feel the same way I do or see our relationship as anything of value. I do feel that attached. I'm ready to move on if I am just wasting my time with him. I want something more than that. What do you guys think? Is that the right thing to do? How can this relationship possibly be worth pursuing? Thanks for reading.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Hi there, i agree with oldersister, i'm a little shocked at some of the other aunts comments to be honest. I think after a month you've got every right to be upset. He's sounds very sensitive to me and that was his ego talking, trying to be the hard man. Its not a good idea to mention other guys hitting on you, cos it rarely goes down well. Trust your instinct with this guy. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): A month is a short time but his answer wasn't good at all. Sometimes people really put their foot into it though. I guess you should give him another chance to explain or at least show that he is worth any more of your effort. I don't like the way his comment suggested he didn't want to take on any responsibility and had no plans to move on. It was disrespectful on the other hand he could of been nervous over thought what he should say and came out sounding like an unnchivalrous chicken. Either way it would be a redflag to slow down with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): i wouldn't take too much offense to it if i were you. I think one month is a little early in the relationship (although i'm guilty myself of wanting a serious relationship right off the mark). He probably does feel things toward you, but doesn't want to dive into the deep end just yet. Guys just don't work the same way girls do. My boyfriend has said similar things before early in the relationship too, that he has taken back now (e.g said that if we broke up he would just get over it easy). We've been together 3 years now. Don't give up just yet. Most guys your age won't run into a relationship with a girl thinking of a marriage prospect. Just a bit of fun for the next 4 months or so, then he may settle down.
I have to say though you are pretty quick off the mark to dump this guy for a small thing like that.
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