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Archived questions from: 22 September, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

I need a female's opinion here!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Ok, i've been seeing this girl on and off for about 2 months now. I haven't gotten any clear signals that she wants to date, although she can get frisky when we're out drinking. Last weekend we went out and ended up hooking up and I stayed over at ...

My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do. I've tried almost everything and nothing seems to work. He doesn't feel he has a problem. I'm getting more depressed by the day. All we ever do is sit around and he drinks. I love him with ...

First time sex with my boyfriend...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Heya, I'm 16 and I'm going to have sex with my bf for the very first time!!! *squeals with happiness* As you can probably tell, I am *ahem* more than acceptable about this, and my bf is so lovely and sweet and willing to wait for me although...

Should I break up with my girlfriend or keep things going...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - So i have this gf i been with for 8 months. I love her so much but its scary at the same time. from the begging i never planeed to stay with her this long. I heard she was real easy and yea she was, but i never been able to break up with her. yea ...

When we are together things are great, but when we are apart I feel like he treats me like a fling

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like he doesn't put any effort into our relationship. First off, we have a long distance relationship, we only see each other once or twice a week (I'll spend the night at his place once a ...

I'm self-sufficient and attractive, but only seem to find losers -- why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I have been waiting and waiting for my so to be called bf to commit. spent a fortune on a holiday to be near him. Only saw him for 3 out of 14 days. Decided that was the last straw. Trying to make links with new people via dating agencies ...

How can I get these pictures back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (?) - So I'm almost 16. I'm just under 5'2" about 105lbs. little less at times, really big green eyes and long, naturally straight dark brown hair with black and auburn highlights/lowlights. I usually have pretty high self confidence and carry myself as ...

I dated a girl in the past that she really hates so she broke up with me. How do I get her back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - hi people really hope u can help me out. there's this girl i have been dating for 2 months and she was the only girl that i had ever felt this way about. I loved her with my all and she loves me too. She said i was the greatest and the best boyfrien...

I want to break up for 3 months.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - I don't have the courage to tell my girlfriend that I want a break for 3 months. A good clean break up! I live with her and I still would pay half of all bills. Would writing a letter be a good idea? ...

He broke up with me but still loves me (I think) moving out today!! Will we get back together???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5337 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - So me and my live in boyfriend have been together for roughly a year and a half. He is 29 and I am 25. Me and him were so in love but it seemed that when we moved in with each other (about 6 months ago) our relationship started to crumble. we did ...

Any ideas? How can I last longer in bed?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5251 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Hey guys and dolls, just discovered this site as I'm getting fed up with my sex life. I'm going out with this gorgeous blonde girl for 3 years now and when it comes to sex its over like that a few mins 5 at the very very most, even with foreplay or ...

Confusion...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - I'm 20, have been in a relationship for 3 and a half years and absolutely adore my girlfriend however she is currently having issues and one minute we're on and the next we're off. I am physically being worried sick because I don't want us to break ...

When do you tell your boyfriend he's too controlling?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - When do you tell your boyfriend he's too controlling? I wrote earlier but it was far too long. Why do women, who were at one time strong and fierce, allow men to do these things to them: Demanding to see you on webcam while you are i...

How do I tell him I need that I don't feel special without it turning into an argument?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - How do I tell him I need that I don't feel special without it turning into an argument? I dont understand whats going on with my boyfriend. i love him more than anything but im having serious doubts. He started renovating his house before we ...

Help! What do you think he means when he says he still thinks we have a future together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend had been ignoring me for a few days, he said at first that has been battling depression, and had problems at work and at home (money issues).. I asked him if there was any reason to it, if he was with another girl or if he didn't care ...

I keep hearing stories about him and other girls.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I am a lady aged 26 going out with a man aged 38 (he is divorced and has 2 children). I am in love with this man but the problem is I keep hearing stories about him and other girls. Today my good pal told me that a girl went to her to ask if my man ...

Helppppp!!!! Could I possibly be pregnant?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - dear cupid, I've been on the pill fot 3 months now and I'm on my 7 day break from it, but I have yet to get my peroid. I'm starting again on Thursday and I am starting to worry. I have not had sex in over two months but on Saturday, two da...

We've had a huge argument. How can I sort this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Hello, I'm in need of some help. I have been with a wonderful guy for 6 months and when we started off we saw each other as much as we could and fell in love, problem is i have a job that requires me to work different shift patterns and now...

Do I tell her I saw her asleep, under the covers, with her shirtless (but with trousers on) ex on the top of the covers?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Just before I get started, I known this girl for 9 years, she always wanted me and I wanted her, we date 6 years ago, didnt last cause she was busy with school. Now we are dating again, and Im the first person she fell in love with and I love her...

He hasn't replied to texts for a couple of days, and I don't know what to do!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I met a guy a week ago and we really hit it off. He gave me his no and I texted him a few days later. He replied and we exchanged a few messages. Now though he's not replied for a couple of days and I don't know what to do. We don't stay that close ...

How can I trust a person without honesty?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - My BF and have been together for 7 months. I think he may be cheating. He still talks to his ex and doesn't see a problem with it. Some of the messages and calls between them have been very suggestive, I can feel that his ex is still loves him ...

I would love to have a boyfriend and have sex...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I'm 24 and I still live at home with my parents and brother. I've not had a boyfriend since I was at school and I am still a virgin. I'm very shy and don't go out much. I would like to have a boyfriend and have sex. What should I do?...

A twin thing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Hi, Please help.. I have been in a loving relationship with my girlfriend for a few years, she is completely different to anyone else I have been with, but I cannot help finding an attraction to her twin sister. I have never been someone to c...

Is it right to have sex before marriage or is it better to wait?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Is it good Sex before Marriage? We have seen many questions from teens who loss their virginity in teen age and some boys and girls wait for his/her life partner and enjoy the virginity loss with his/her life partner. So, is it right to have sex ...

Does he think I'm a freak?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - i started throwing up in the middle of the night and intense pains in my abdomen, i started freaking out cus i was alone and started calling pals at 3 in the morning...i also called this i guy id been seeing and know for three months. the next day...

I love him, but what's happening?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - hey, so i met a really fit boy and i fell in love with him, i asked him out and he said yes.i have been dating him for nearly 3 weeks now but i have got very shy and everytime i try to hug him or talk to him i mess up, so i asked my friends for help ...

How do I tell her I'm not interested without making things akward?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - I have been going to collage for a few weeks and there is a woman that has been in my english class. She could very well be as old as my mother or a little younger and she has been looking for me all the time and making passes at me after i helped ...

She shot me down yet went out with some other guy 4 days later! Why would she destroy 13 years of friendship in this way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Well a few days ago i asked a girl that i had liked since before i really had interest in girls out to go see a movie. She shot me down but at the time she almost seemingly sayed yes and basically said that she wasn't over her ex yet and i thought ...

Loving someone with an expiry date hurts!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I fallen for the most beautiful boy in the world, only thing is he's leaving the country. I always knew he wouldn't stay here, but now the date is set i'm shattered. Do I continue to play in the sun and enjoy our time, or stop this heart ache ...

I really want her back but she is seeing her ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - hiya my name is ben im 19 and about two months ago i split up with my first girlfriend i was only with her about 2 weeks but i liked her a lot. im not much of a talkative person and i never really opend up to her as much as would have liked to. we ...

She's so flirtacious with her ex, how should I handle it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - ok, I posted here recently and got some fabulous advice. I'm in a really tough dilemna right now. I've been hanging out with my ex for over a month now. When we hang out, I have the time of my life. We're all over each other and get along so well. ...

I'm looking for some clarification when it comes to dating...can anyone help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I've been out of touch with the dating world for years now. Now I'm completely over my ex and getting out there dating guys, but I'm not quite sure what the usual expectations are when dating. I'd love some clarification on any or all of these ...

Should I tell my boyfriend about the rape? I'm scared I will lose him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Last year i was raped at a city bus stop. My mother and father both know about it, but my new boyfriend dosent. We just started going out 3 weeks ago and i dont no if i should tell him or not. "Rob" tells me everything and i want to to, but i just ...

Confused over two guys...I need help figuring out what I want!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Yes, this is another of those "confused about which guy" questions...but it's not your typical question of based on these few paragraphs, which guy is better for me, who you've also never met... so please read on! I really need to sort this out ...

Should I leave things as they are not totally fulfilled? Or push for more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - i am completely taken with a man who i have known for a little more than 3 years. he has on and off shown attraction to me too and even though our communication is maybe every other week, he will call me after a night of being "with the boys" ...

Is this just some weird 9th grade girl way of flirting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - So, i been hanging out with this girl for a couple weeks, shes really cute and alot of fun, and while i dont mean to gloat, girls do tend to grab at me sometimes, usually my hair (because i got lucky, dark brown hair with a light redhead tint) but ...

Paranoia, delusion, intuition or gut feeling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (?) - Hi, Am I being paranoid, my intuition or gut feeling...my girlfriend love each other a lot and intend to get married one day, but I had this bad thought that something will break us up the other day that we will end up with different people...

How do I nudge him to fall in love with me? Or come clean that he can't?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I know you can't make someone fall in love with you, but does anybody have any tips to move it along? We spend all our free time together, can talk about anything, and never fight. I don't know what the hold up is. I let it slip that I had fallen ...

Am I expecting too much, too fast?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I need a little advice. Maybe I'm expceting to much to fast.I ran into this guy that I use to work with 2 weeks ago. He told me that he was divorced and ask about taking me out to eat. When we worked together he seemed to be a nice guy and he ...

I'm a little obsessed with this one girl so should I ask her out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Okay I'm a 14 year old girl and recently I have found out that I'm a little obsessed with this one girl in my school. Last year I thought it was because I was jealous that she was prettier than me, and this obsession has been there since I first met ...

I'm married but my ex boyfriend who claims he loves me keeps cancelling our dates! Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - i have a complicated story, well my boyfriend and i broke up years ago cause i found out that he cheated on me and got some girl pregnant. i finished the relationship as soon as i found out. He tried to convince me that that it was not his baby but ...

How do I politely say, "I'm a moron!" ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I accidentally dialled a guy that I like. I don’t know how that happened. Seriously. I didn’t mean to go anywhere near his number. Seemingly his number was still on my call logs from weeks back (??!). The situation is awkward because he and I...

How do I accept and tolerate the things I don't like about him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Some of my partner's behaviors are turn offs to me (his porn subscriptions and very rare pot use). He's a great guy who treats me like gold. But, I can't get past these two issues that really bother me. We have talked about it and he offered to ...

He's amazing but registers on dating sites. How do I get through this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - i've been with this guy for over ayear. he totally shows me that he loves me and my kids. i'm totally inlove with him and would marry him. but he recisters on dating sites. that sems to me like he looking for something better. he says its nothing ...

Help!!! Is he losing interest?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - okay..so my boyfriend is the type that needs to talk to me every single day.. and more then once. He always makes sure we communicate one way or another..and he always makes it a point to tell me he loves me everyday. this past week, he was away on ...

I need your opinion here... AM I still a virgin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - AM I still a virgin? Me and my boyfriend tried having sex but when he put it in alil it hurt really bad so i made him stop. But also he's had multiple partners and knew what he was doing. But I wanna know how to make the next time we try not hurt. ...