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writes:i have been best friends with this girls for 5 years ( im male and im 16 btw) and when i first met her i was really attracted to her, my feelings for her wnet away eventually but they have came back stronger and i dunno what to do. also latley my uncle has started dating her mum which doesent help and they are now engaged.....my feelings for her will not go away and its getting beyond me now :( i spend alot of my time with her doing friendy things but this just makes my fellings stronger. what should i do ???x
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Hmm, in these situations it's hard to say whether you've genuinely developed feelings for the best friend.. or whether you think you have simplay because they're so "familiar" to you.
I wouldn't advise you to spend less time with her in order to solve the problem, as she'll most likely get the wrong idea, think she's done something wrong or be offended. So you either grin and bear it, or speak to her.
In my opinion, the best option would be to speak to her. Make it clear that you feel as though you've developed feelings for her that go above a friendship level, and ask her how she feels about it.
You may find that she either feels the same.. or she might think that spending less time together is best.
Though all that said, you have to think about possible consequences. If she did feel the same, and you tried dating, it would have the potential to ruin a great friendship.
Sorry I can't be of more help x
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