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Archived questions from: 21 September, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Should I tell my boyfriend of 3 years about my one-night-stand?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I've just started university and last week was my freshers week. One night I really had too much to drink and ended up leaving the place I was in to go to a guys house and had unprotected sex. Only thing is, I'm in a relationship. I've been with my ...

I don't want to lose him but should we go on break for a month?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been together very nearly 3 years. We went through a very bad patch, involving heavy arguments, often about petty things, but sometimes about my paranoid thoughts regarding him and other women. I'd often get ve...

I can't get into sex anymore. I feel like we're just replicating porn scenes...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5337 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - My partner's porn subscriptions have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But the longer we are together, the more turned off I become. I have sex w/ him to please him and derive no REAL pleasure ...

I don't have the strength for any more rejection. How can I find a guy that really wants to be with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I am writing to all of you because I need a little help diagnosing a problem I think I have. My problem is that I form attachments to men that are in one way or another unattainable and in one way or another make me feel horrible about myself. ...

How do I get over this silly crush and rekindle things with my own guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Quick question: What do you do when you have a crush on one of your boyfriend's friends? Recently, I've been getting a lot of attention from this guy, I think about him a lot, and I'm always excited to see him. I find myself enjoying the atten...

Am I considered too clingy in my LDR?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - Hi, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now and are in a LDR. I don't want her to think I'm to clingy. I ask her to keep me updated what she's doing throughout the day but not every second like what she's eating or anything. I just ...

Should I move back or stay with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - dear cupid, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months, and i believe that i love him a lot, but i went this summer to a city outside of the province to visit my family and my friends. i spent two months there, and made some new friends ...

Is it 'harmless' for him to lie about emailing his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - My first question was about my boyfriend of almost 3 years secretly emailing his ex again : http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-wont-dump-his-ex-or-put-a.html Today I asked him about it. Me- for you to be as "computer-iliterate" as ...

How do I give this new guy a chance? I might still be in love with my ex.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for a month now and i really do care about him. But at the same time I just got out of an relationship not to long ago and I feel as though im not giving this new guy my all because of how my ex treated me. He cheated on ...

My girlfriend is trying to control me and it's getting old.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - Okay, so I have an amazing girlfriend... she is gorgeous, nice, and funny... but there is one thing that really gets on my nerves and I'm about sick of it. She is extremely controlling. I am in college, and she is still in high school and she sounds ...

What is holding me back from committing to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I recently got out of a very unhealthy relationship. It was two years of constantly worrying, no trust, many tears and very rare, but very passionate "good days". Finally I decided to break the cycle, and have since met a great guy who treats me ...

How does a loner get a boyfriend? I need to build more confidence.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - okay, so it's kind of stupid but important to me i guess when i'm with people i go quiet, i'm way too shy and i just stand there like a loner. also when i'm with guys i'm too quiet. I'm not a quiet person usually with friends and family though a...

I'm confused! We haven't had a real conversation for a week.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - okay..so my borfriendd is the type that needs to talk to me every single day..and more then once. He always makes sure we communicate one way or another..and he always makes it a point to tell me he loves me everyday. this past week, he was away on ...

Married almost 20 years and have no experience with building new relationships

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I am a 40 year old Widow with two boys aged 14 and 7. I have been in contact with a man I have known through a sport my husband was involved in. My eldest son still plays and this guy is a coach. We started communicating via emails, then texts ...

Is this girl in my class gay or not? I'm clueless...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - So heres a fairly normal situation for once. I just started college, there's a girl I like in one of my classes. REALLY like. Problem, is she gay or not? skip the intro/context if you want .........................

How can she say that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I was just wondering if you think this is normal. My girlfriend said that if I was to die she knows that she would probably love someone else, and that she would love that person as much as me, but how can she say that ir even imagine that if she ...

Any tips on how to get boys to notice me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - hi, i know this sounds kinda pathetic but here goes im 15 and have never had a boyfriend. i go to an all girls private school so dont get a chance to talk to boys, thats the main reason i have never had a boyfriend. i dont really do any out of sc...

Will he get bored with me when he turns 18?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfreind are getting on really well and have been together for 7 months. But hes a year older than me, and turning 18 soon. Im really worried he will get bored of me, want to go out all the time drinking, and possibly meet other girls at ...

I can't read the signs! Does he like me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Hi long story but to put it simply... I like a guy but am terrible at reading men and "the signs"... so was wondering if you could help me out...? Does this guy like me? Only want one thing? Want anything? Im so confused... A year ago I got with h...

He disappeared on me and now won't speak to me. What's going on??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - The situation is this: I am married (separated), he is not, we were friends,we had a sex a few times,now he never contacts me... ran into him recently, he ignored me but looked uncomfortable, still he stayed close by all night. SO I decided to text ...

How can I be more dominant in my relationship like she wants?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - I asked what my girlfriend liked, and she said she wanted a dominating man. I am pretty dominant in my own life, I run it no one else. But I'm not sure how to be dominant in a relationship. I try to initiate the kisses, I lead in the conversat...

My Boyfriend is Shy and I'm Disappointed

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - This guy confessed to me few months ago. I liked him too but I felt insecure because as friends you feel fine but after romance comes in the awkwardness and shyness might ruin it. We're both from single-sex schools. I'm his first girl. We've only ...

Is he too young for me and how do I ask him out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (?) - I'm 15 and he's 1 and a half years younger than me but I really like him. We've known eachother for like 3 months now and always flirt but i only talk 2 him in afternoon and morning for about half an hour each time coz we get the same bus. He has ...

I'm so confused about my feelings towards her and need advice.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - I'm in a confusion since 8 months regarding whether I love this girl... I dunno from where I should start as a thousand things have messed up badly into each other. In short, I dumped her 5 months back as I wasn't sure about my feelings, I mean I d...

I have a crush on him, what should I do (we are Muslims)?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I have a crush on this guy. He is my best friend. He is always beside me. I know him since the time he's still dating his ex-girlfriend. But, now they are no longer together. We went to a vacation together and enjoy weekends together. We are Muslim, ...

Do you think my boyfriend has a drink problem?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Do you think my bf has a drinking problem? I am quite worried about him for his own health, as well as our relationship because his drinking habits is placing alot of stress on it. We have been in a relationship for 5 months, and I...

Do you think if I lose weight he will think I look better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (?) - My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 months. I'm about to be 16 and he's 18. We have really good sex but I always feel insecure about my body because he is obsessed with porn! Now I'm really small. Only 5'1" 107 lbs. He's 6'4" 225 lbs. ...

Most of my friends have g/f or b/f within our group..what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - In my group of friends almost everyone has got a bf or gf within the group. There are a few of us who are single and i think one of the girls likes me but i only think, not sure. What should i do? Pursue this girl and find out if she does like me...

Bisexual with both girlfriend & boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - Ok... I'm a bisexual guy and though I have a girlfriend, I've also had a boyfriend for the past 4 months. They both knew about and were fine about each other, so that wasn't a problem and so for a while it all worked out well. I really liked ...

Still numb from past, don't know how to go on in the present or future

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - hi im back. ive been on here before. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-lost-and-numb-to-the-massive-pain.html that is my last question and this is a update of sorts. i took everything i got out of that and just bottled it up. now i seem to act ...

My girl is a sex addict

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - HI im 18 years old 6'2" 180 lbs average body size and there is a reason for the specs so keep reading. Theres this girl she is amazing and she wants to start dating but im not sure about it i REALLY like this girl shes beautiful wild and random but ...

Partner has too many friends and it makes me jealous and insecure

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - my partner has so many guy friends she says she knows them she tells me theyre just friends i trust her but im naturally insecure it hurts i want the attention im jealous am i being selfish? am i thinking wrong? what should i be thinking?...

Is it bad to see this man when there isn't something more interesting out there?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I keep dating the man who has said to me in the past that he isn't interesting for a serious relationship. Although we don't discuss this subject quite often i haven't really gotten over this. But i see him sometimes when he arranges that. I don't ...

I'm desperate! I don't want to lose her...

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - I just joined this site, out of desperation. I really need help on this issue. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 years now. I have always been jealous and a bit insecure, because she is very attractive and i'm not all that. Deep inside ...

Why can't you be in love at 17?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I dont get why people on here say you cant be in love at 17 or you cant love two people, not trying to seem too blunt about it, but seriously i just dont get why at 16 or 17 "you cant possibly be in love" ???? or if you have feeling for 2 people ...

She questioned if I liked anyone else/I've probably been clingy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - So I've been dating my girlfriend for about a month. We hit it off right away but then one day during lunch at school i talked about a girl that i previously dated shortly with but many months ago. (Both of them know each other since middle-school.) ...

She won't be with me because of my self destructiveness. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - me n my ex broke up a month ago cuz i become mentally adicted to aerosol cans after awhile we hung out again n we told eachother we loved eachother we had sex a few times and all the feelings came back but her parents hate me and wouldnt let her be ...

Do his comments reflect what he'll think if he sees me naked?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - This is going to sound really silly but here goes. I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and the other day we were bumming around watching tv when a song clip of Rhihanna came on. He made some comment about her having really fat thighs. ...

Can good looking women make men insecure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - Everyone tells me that i am a very beautiful women and i have a good personality. I was in an abusive relationship for many years, but finally got out. My ex even used to worry about other men looking at me whilst we were out shopping! I am not a ...

How come guys are never interested in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I'm really struggling right now with a few things and would really love some impartial advice. I'm a 20 (nearly 21) year old dedicated law student with plenty of friends and a busy and varied lifestyle. I have a LOT of interests and an eclectic ...

How can I make him feel more comfortable around me? He's shy...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I'm dating a very shy guy. At least, he's quite outgoing normally but shy around me. He told me once that he gets really nervous around me and tends to say silly things to me that he normally wouldn't say to anyone. So I'm wondering if there's ...

He keeps cancelling our dates. What's up with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for about 2 months now. We were doing great for a while but now he seems to cancel every other date we have. Two weeks ago I told him that I felt that he isn't really interested in me and tried to end the situation, but ...

We have a phone relationship. Could he like me romantically?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I've recently struck up a relationship with a man over the phone. We've known each other for many years, but he was married and I was married. He'll be divorced in January and I am also separated from my husband. We started talking innocently ...

I have an uncontrollable urge to marry. Am I rushing things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I know this might sound stupid. I've been with my boyfriend 5 months. And I just really want to get married. I've had one long term relationship and several short ones, and I've never, ever felt like this about anyone before. My boyfriend h...

Is he just seeking a friendship or is it more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5341 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I am looking for opinions about the intentions of a guy I am interested in. I cannot tell if we have that special connection or if he just views me as a friend. I met this guy a year ago in the same building I worked in, he was nice, flirty, an...

Is my penis the right size to have sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - hey people im really worried about something ive been going out with this girl for like 3 months now and she wants to have sex im 16 and im really unsure if my penis is the right size it is like 4.4inches and im really worried because in my last ...