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writes:Hello,I have a problem. I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over 7 months. I never really thought I loved him. He never seemed too bothered with spending time together on our own. 4 months ago I cheated on him. We only kissed but I felt terrible I told him and he forgave me. I think I cheated on him as a way out of the relationship. But I just couldn't do it. 3 months on and we are in a much better place. We are both making a great effort. However I still don't love him. We had sex for the first time. I feel as though he preassured me into it. I don't regret doing it but I regret doing it with him. I told him I didn't want to and that the circumstances weren't right. He begged me nd wudn listen to me. It was so uncomfortable and I cudn wait for him to get off me. It's been 3 days since we did it and he hasn't bothered to come see me or do anything with me. I hate wt we did I feel no different towards him I didn't feel closer to him. I don't want to be in this type of relationship anymore. He is too immature for me and never seems to consider my feelings! For instance we were going away with a group of friends. I was running late as he well knew as my car had broken down. He went without me. Even afterwards he cudnt see that he'd done anything wrong!I think losing our vaginity tgether has made this more complicated! Am I imagining this? Do I over reacted?? Please help me
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
No you're not overreacting. But what's happened has happened and you have to be brave and move on. This guy isn't for you, you've more or less said it yourself. So move on from him for a start. Next, never let a guy pressure you into anything. You are your own person, and any good guy will respect that. There are other guys out there who are more mature and caring. Don't dwell upon what can't be undone. Just decide that next time you will wait until YOU are ready, and any guy who doesnt' respect that isn't worth it. Hope that helps.
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reader, Helples  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 No, I don't think you overreacted. He really should have waited for you. Or gone to get you if he knew your car broke down. If you don't want that type of relationship anymore, simply leave it. I don't think you should suffer anymore. If you do decide to break it off with him, tell him why. Mention how he isn't the kind of boyfriend you want.
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