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writes:Is it good Sex before Marriage? We have seen many questions from teens who loss their virginity in teen age and some boys and girls wait for his/her life partner and enjoy the virginity loss with his/her life partner. So, is it right to have sex before marriage or is it better to wait? Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 The problem with premarital sex (I'm Christian, so understand my bias in favor of waiting, but know I've succumbed to temptation and gone to third base multiple times) is that it hurts you, or at least has the potential to.Every time you are sexual with someone, you're giving part of your heart to that person. There's a reason people leave spouses for their lovers after affairs. And even if you really love someone, after sex it's that much harder to move on if you break up (which can happen no matter how ideal the relationship seems at the time. And I should know, my fiancée left me last month after what seemed to me to be three blissful years).Also, it makes it harder to be happy with who you're with. You may be in love with boyfriend Number 4, but thinking about how Number 3 was larger, and Number 2 was better at giving oral, and Number 1 knew just how to touch you. It makes it more difficult to just enjoy the person you DO marry, because the perfect man for you emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually might not be the best lover you've had, and that resentment can be poison to a relationship. If you've been with no one else, you can't be disappointed with him because you won't know any different.Also, there's something to be said for sharing sex as something both of you have saved exclusively for each other, knowing that you lost your virginity at the same time, with each other, and no one else has ever see either of you like that. It's a bond you share, a deeply intimate and personal thing that proves how there's no one else but your spouse that gets this. Premarital sex reduces it from an intimate bond into just some naked pushups (to quote a friend of mine).I've done sexual things (up through third base) with two previous girlfriends, and I regret it. Already, I am worried whether my next girlfriend will live up to what I grew accustomed to with my last girl. It was fun at the time, but to be honest caused more of our arguments than anything else in the relationship.If you do give it up, know that God still loves you. But if you can save it, you're saving yourself some considerable drama, and possibly a deal of pain, at the cost of giving up some fun in the meanwhile.That said, it's also true that unless you take someone for a test drive (to put it bluntly), you will never know how they are in bed, whether they're giving or attentive or just plain clumsy. But if you talk about things, you should be able to get a feel for their desires and habits anyway, I would hope.For as much or as little as my two bits are worth, I say wait.
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reader, mint  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 its bettah to wait it shows that you respect your body and lets yuu hav a lot of self respect.....it might seem hard now buh it will all be worth it aftah yuu get married
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 September 2009):
It's entirely up to you and how you feel. If you want to wait until you're married, then wait. There are people who will share the same beliefs as you and will respect you for it. Take not notice of anyone who doesn't respect how you feel.
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