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Archived questions from: 23 August, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

Should I set aside tradition and family and just go for her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Should I go for her? She's my first girlfriend and the girl I ever truly loved. We broke up about 4yrs back because I didn't want to cause problem in both of our families. She went into about 4 relationships that didn't work out and she is now n...

I'm stuck between 2 rocks!!! HELP!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Hello, I know these 2 wonderful women. I know one girl from one place, the other from another. It hit me the other night that I love both, I was like "WTF!?" I can't choose one for God's sake! I'm confused and don't want to hurt either of them......

Ex is threatening me and my new boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - i am 14, live with my parents and finding it hard to see my boyfreind. my ex is not happy that im moving on with my new boyfriend, and has threatened me and my boyfriend against seeing eachother. i love my boyfriend but dont want him to get hurt by ...

Please don't let me be the next 40 year old virgin!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5360 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I am 16 and a virgin.. my girlfriend is the same age however she has had sex with one person. She said it was a mistake. We have been dating for a little over 2 months. Every thing is perfect except for every time we try to have sex I go limp. We ...

How long before its ok to introduce your bf/gf to your friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - How long when dating someone should you introduce them to your friends...? I've been on a few (3) dates with this particular guy... He is moving this weekend and has friends coming up to see him and spend the weekend with him... then the weekend...

Mum is being judgemental and treating me like a child

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Hey everyone I need some serious help! I'm in my early 20s, going into my last year of university. During the summer months I live at home w/my parents but during the year I live on my own. I've noticed during this summer at home my mom is becoming...

How can I convince my parents that the person I'm dating is a good guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4900 days ago

23 August 2009 (?) - Some of you may remember my first question, about which guy I should choose, and I chose the guy that my parents don't like. We have been secretly dating, but then my parents came home while he was here, and they were furious. How can I convince ...

Is it really worth giving up everything and running away with my girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend had sex and got caught by her parents that night and for the first few weeks her parents were mad at us but still wanted us to be together. but as time went on they completely have changed there minds and now wont let us talk or ...

I've tried being 'just friends', then detaching myself from her completely, but I still love her! What should I do now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Well, this is a long one, so I'll post a quick summary below but if you have the time to read it all I hope you do. There's a girl that I met three years ago in college. She was a beautiful girl that was down to earth and I loved her personality....

I'm falling for someone who doesn't want to be tied down in a relationship. Should I stop seeing him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - i have been seeing this guy for a while, i have really fallin for him , but he doesnt want a relationship with anyone , he says he has been hurt by his last girlfriend and doesnt want to be tied down by having a new girlfrind, he says he just wants ...

What are the signs of a guy liking you, even though he's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5247 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Erm... what are the signs of a guy liking you who right now doesnt want a relationship and wants to be single? The reason i say this is this guy in my class seemed to really like me, the way he looked at me, the tensionn between us and everythin...

I don't want a relationship with him, but I don't wanna be a one night stand either! What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5364 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I've been single for a year now, and enjoy clubbing regularly, At the spot theres a DJ who really has made an impression on me. Hes not even mega anything, Not too cute just handsome enough - Dresses rather nicely though. We'd been making eyes, he'...

Is there a third date rule?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - If girl slept with a guy on the 3rd date does that make her easy....?...

My best friend is dating a loser, I've got to the point where I'm sick of hearing about it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - My best freind has been dating a loser for 4 years. He's addicted to cocaine, is violent towards her and her 5 year old child (both physically and emotionally abusive), walks in and out of her life when he wants and basically treats her like dirt. ...

I love my boyfriend and wouldn't cheat, so why was I tempted?!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend very much, and have never had the need or want to look elsewhere. I'm very monogamous and could never cheat on anyone, nor have I ever done so. He's had to go away for a few weeks, and I've really missed him. I went out last ni...

I want to get with him but I can't tell my parents

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - hello. right basicly. this boy really likes me, and i like him but i cannot go out with him because i'm too embarressed of telling my parents, it makes me feel sick and i go red. what i am supposed to do because it's upsetting me so much :'( i ...

The guy I like is best friends with the guy I used to like

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Hi, Basically I Saw this boy at this convention I been through 3 days I kind of no him But I never spoke to him.He was watching me 3 days blah blah its really long yeah I had 3witnesses watching him and they said Yeah he does preety much Like...

Am I wrong for trying to push my boyfriends "best friend" out of his life?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I hate my boyfriends "best friend" this girl cam out of nowhere in his life. And I can't stand her. Today I got another friend of mine to send her some very hateful messages. And I am glad I did. Hopefully she will get out of his life now. Wh...

We broke up because he was very ill, now we're back together, scared of being hurt

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I dated this guy for 3 months a year ago, last summer. He became very ill after about 6 weeks of us being together and was hospitalised for near on a month. I know 3 months isn't very long in terms of relationships, and even though i...

He's gone on holiday and not really kept in touch, I feel hurt, am I wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend 5 months. It's brilliant, we're very much besotted with each other, no problems. But he's gone on a holiday with his best friend (just the 2 of them, a chilling out holiday, not a clubbing one) which I'm fine with. B...

Women aged 20-29 - please answer this!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5364 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I've been seeing my gf for about 4 mos (I'm 39- shes 25) I know big gap. Anyway, about a month in -- we had "the talk" ---and I found out about her not so innocent past. It made me sick to find out she had slept with 15 other guys before me. ...

I need some advice on giving massages

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I need some advice. It's not really a problem, just something I'd like some advice on. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite a while and we like to try new things. We've recently starting giving each other massages but I'm not very good at ...

Who do I do this to myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice here or if I just wanted to type this out. Hopefully that makes sense, but to me sometimes typing something out for others to see can be as therapeutic as actually telling someone what's on your mind. The ...

Good dating websites in the USA?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - This is a question for American users. Is anyone familiar with any good American Dating sites as I am sick and tored of my so to be called relationship now and have always wanted to start a new life in the US. Any suggestions?...

She wants to seperate and I'm shocked and heartbroken

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - My first marriage ended after 17 years and it was heartbreaking. We had 5 children together and it took me a long time to get over it. Eventually I met my second wife and she was the girl of my dreams. We had 16 great years together, raising her ...

Can I trust him? He's telling other girls he wants to be with them!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I been this relationship for 2yrs now,, in the first couple of months we had some problems or at least i had some problems with him. such as his bm called my phone and then another time a girl called my phone talking bout they been together for ...

I have a crush on my boss, should I tell him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5365 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I have had a huge crush on my boss for the past seven months but have not done anything about it. I joke with him as I do with the other employees at work but I don't flirt with him because I know that a relationship with the boss is not ...

What's the most important thing in a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Pls what is most important in a relationship that would make the best for marriage? is it the time they share together, the shown love or the spending? for i know poverty is not a choice, and also some know how to show love while others dont though ...

Is he interested at all or just playing games?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I kissed this guy a year and a half ago but the following night he said that he was drunk that night. I met him a few times since but nothing ever happened and we just talked. I bumped into him in a bar last weekend and he apologised for what ...

I need help in seeing the right from wrong in my first love

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 17 months. However, he treats me like a door step. He pushes me, he yells so close to my face that I can feel his spit, and he tells me that he is the best guy that I will ever find. I know I sound stupid, ...

Am I losing out on who might be the only one for me or will I meet someone like her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Hi, im having quite a bit of love life trouble. 4 months ago i split up with my girlfriend (who we'll call EMMA) of 2 and a half years. she was my first love and we loved each other very much. the main trouble in the relationship was that she has a ...

I need help in this situation with my online boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - hi,I'm 15 years old,and I have this online boyfriend. We've been "dating" for 2 and a half years now. He's from U.S. and I've never met him before. He's 17 years old,and he will be coming here this year after he graduates from highschool. I've ...

Please help me... We love each other but cant be together, I'm having a breakdown.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5358 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for the last 3 months. We love each other so much it sometimes scares me. She makes me happier than I have ever been in my life. About a month and a half ago we were having some drinks, then a fight started, she pus...

Do I move away and follow my heart?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5179 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - My wife and I got separated in December and we have been apart for 8 months now. We have 3 woderful kids aged 10-16 who we are both unbelievably close with. The kids have handled the separation and impending divorce well. Our relationships have ...

Guys: pretty face? or fit body?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - This question is directed to guys on the site really...but I was just wondering whether guys are more attracted by a pretty face or a fit body? ...Not that it matters eventually when you find love but which is initially more attractive?...

I have a girlfriend but I like another girl

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - me and this girl have been dating for like 3 weeks now and i really like her and she likes me but i dont wanna be with her any more but in a way i do i just dont know wat to do. cuz there is this other girl who is great. see me and my girl friend ...

They don't know it, but I keep going back and forth between 2 girls

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - i am so confused its even got me suffering deppression i hate me so much i am in love with 2 people and i cant work my way around it and they love me 2 but they dont know about each other and i have broken with one and went to the other then i broke ...

Am I wasting my time waiting for this guy to propose?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5365 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for five years now. It was a fairly good relationship, there are arguments however we manage to clear the air eventually after each argument/fight. However, I can't help but become insecure as most of our friends are ...

He likes her but loves me...I think he's confused! Should I break up with him or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - ok i asked my boyfriend to be honest with me and tell the truth, i said "do you like anyone besides me?". he said no but i think sonni(a girl he's liked for awhile) is hot which i understood because im not the only pretty one in the world but 2 ...

Am I wrong to feel like I was lied to?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5368 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I had plans with my boyfriend to cook dinner for him on a Wednesday night. He gets out of school at 5:30 and I called him 2 or 3 times between 6 and 7 when he hadn't shown up. He finally calls me at about ten after seven stating he had been talking ...

We want to date - but the 'kids' think it's too weird, what should we do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5358 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I am interested in having a relationship with my daughter's boyfriend's dad. We like each other and would like to date.We live on opposite ends of the country but communicate each day.We will get together when we can.Here's the problem though, my ...

Her ex is like a Calvin Klein model - how can I stop feeling like I can't compete?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Hi there, i've had something on my mind for a few weeks and its eating at me so i thought i'd post on here and get the general consensus... I have recently got a new girlfriend, and it turns out that her most recent ex partner was into bodybuil...

Why do Men/boys do this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I was waiting for my mother to pick me up from the subway for about an hour...and so this clearly older guy, wearing "young" clothes (they looked to materialistic for his age) approache me. He had the audacity to tell me that he was 28 years old, ...

Which one do I choose? My boyfriend or my soulmate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I recently broke off a 5 year relationship with a guy. But it wasn't just an ordinary break up. During the latter part of the relationship, I kept ignoring thoughts that I was not in love with my boyfriend as much as I was when we were starting ou...

She has a horrible past.. do I look passed it, try to fix it.. tell her parents?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5345 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - There's a girl. She was abused as a small child and after a while being fostered was put up for adoption at the age of 4. This needs to be taken into account I think when you consider that she says she... Lost her virginity (willingly) wh...

She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...

I feel as if I can't stop thinking of her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5367 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Hello, I work as a Navy Seal, and from that domain I know this girl, we were going out before (From that domain couple of years ago.) But then I re-meet with her, she's a fine and good gal, she has personal problems and sticks to me more often, she ...

What can I do? Clash of cultures and family scandal...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5366 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - Basically I am a white woman and for 3 years now, with a break in between I must admit, I have been with my BF who is Asian. He's Pataan and his family is Muslim; he does not share their views but out of respect for his parents, who are quite old ...

I want to ask her to the prom for next year and need some ideas...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 15 and our school's Prom is next year and its made out as a pretty big deal. Everyone is arranging stuff already and starting to ask people and agree with people who they're going with. The girl I want to go with, there is some competition ...

Is there any thing I can say to him to see if he still likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5360 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - i am in LOVE with this boy that went to my bible camp and he likes me too. we went out but we thought we were too young so we broke up. we live about 20 away from each other but i talk to him on IM. is there any trick of words i can use to tell if ...

I'd like to convince her that it was a jealous, weak moment and I can change! Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5368 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I recently started dating the most amazing woman I have ever met. I am 36 yrs old, and in all my years I have never met a woman as precious and unique as her. Problem is, after two months, I ended up showing her a side of me I never knew existed ...