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writes:I had plans with my boyfriend to cook dinner for him on a Wednesday night. He gets out of school at 5:30 and I called him 2 or 3 times between 6 and 7 when he hadn't shown up. He finally calls me at about ten after seven stating he had been talking to his professors and that he wasn't hungry. Then today I find out that he went to a bar on campus and had a beer. I told him that I didn't like being lied to and he gave me this B.S. that he didn't lie ,he just left it out and he doesn't feel like its necessary for him to tell me his every move. So my question is am I wrong to feel like I was lied to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Not at all.If I were you, I'd be angry and looking to sort things out and waiting on him to explain and make things up. I wouldn't waste any more effort on him. If he didn't make it up within a certain time frame I would dump him.
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 August 2009):
 It's not wrong to feel this way. You had plans. The "professor excuse" okay, but could have waited until a time where you two didn't have plans. "Going for a beer???" When he has plans with you, that's not excusable. No, you don't need to know his ever move, but he was not where he said he was going to be, and broke his plans with you for reasons he should not have. In what he did, what was really more important than joining you for dinner? Your right, he's feeding you with BS. I'd be questioning why?
Why make plans with you, but then go drinking instead? I believe he was in the wrong here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I think you were more lied to than you think you were. He never called and never showed up for dinner. He "wasn't hungry" (did he eat already)?
You know, professors have lives too.. they don't sit around for hours talking to students. He "left out" that he had a beer at the bar...
All signs point to.. he's hiding what he did after school that day. He's covering it up by claiming he was just talking to his professors... I believe he did something he doesn't want you to know about. If he had just gone to the bar and had a beer alone, he would've called you on his way, or at the bar to let you know that nothing was going on, he was just tired and gonna have a drink and turn in. But he waited hours. He was in a position that made him ignore your calls and not call back. I'd dig deeper if I were you and get to the bottom of it. Call me paranoid.. but hey... None of my exes have ever gotten away with cheating!
~Sy.
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reader, noname00 +, writes (23 August 2009):
NOT AT ALL! He knew exactly what he was doing, and he totally blew you off. If you have plans you have EVERY right to know where he is! He told you he was going to come but instead went to a bar and satisfied himself there. You have every right to feel lied to.
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