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writes:i am 14, live with my parents and finding it hard to see my boyfreind. my ex is not happy that im moving on with my new boyfriend, and has threatened me and my boyfriend against seeing eachother. i love my boyfriend but dont want him to get hurt by my ex. my ex is unpredictable, on drugs and he is nearly 17. can anyone give me some advice as what to do, or if anyone has been in the same situation please share it with me, hopefully you can help. many thanks x
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 I agree with birdynumnums, Contact the police, tell your parents, your bf's parents, and your ex-bf's parents. This should not be allowed and if it continues your ex-bf could harm you or your bf. Your safety comes first! Good luck!
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom  +, writes (24 August 2009):
People say things all the time and never do it I can't tell you how many times said I'll die before I get home but here I am telling you this. I know you don't want to tell anyone I understand but he will keep on doing it I'd rather worry about my life then a reputation. If he threatens you again tell some one not only would you be helping yourself but your bf too.
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reader, linz09 +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Yes I had an unpredictable aka bonkers ex in the end the quickest and best solution was to tell the police he was harassing me and being threatening...thus he will be cautioned for threatening behaviour towards you and will not be aloud to continue with his behaviour, if he does then tell the police again...he'll get the message and leave both you and your new boyfriend alone...linz(:
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Tell your parents and his parents immediately and make sure that they are both aware of the fact that this older boy is threatening you. This 17 year olds parents should be notified about how he is behaving. Threats should be taken seriously.
If he is also at the same school, you and your families should involve the school and notify them that this boy is threatening both you and your boyfriend. If he does behave in any way that intimidates you or you new boyfriend, then tell your parents and the school to get the police involved.
Abuse shouldn't be tolerated or accepted as normal behavior at any age, and this boy may or may not make good on this threat, but both of your safety has to come first. Don't be intimidated and let him bully you both and take away your security and freedom.
As far as your ex goes, anyone bullying and threatening others at 17 needs a reality check and he HAS to be dealt with, if not by his parents, then by the school or the police. Letting someone continue down this path just encourages abusive behavior.
Speak Up! You are not ratting him out, you are standing up for yourself.
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