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writes:I have been "dating" this guy for two months now. He says that he really likes me but doesn't see the need to label our relationship, at least not yet because he is not ready to be my boyfriend and he hasnt had a girlfriend in 2 years. My friends say we act like a real couple when we are together and I feel the same. My friend (who is also his roomate) told me that he heard him saying that he is not sure if he wants a girlfriend right now but still wants to see what happens with me. I really like him and I want to show him that a relationship would be a lot of fun and I would make a good girlfriend. What can I do to make him change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): You can't change his mind...if you are mean't to be together it will just happen. If he has been dating you for two months and still doesn't know if he wants a "girlfriend", I think that says it all. Sorry to say, start looking ahead for a better relationship with someone who will love and cherish you. But there's no reason to not still date him for the time being, if you are having fun and enjoying his company. Don't get used, beware. It's early days, play it cool, and just go with the flow for now. Don't become obsessive or he will run a mile.
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reader, anitaw4 +, writes (21 April 2009):
Really there is no need to label your relationship before it needs labeling. One thing a man hates is a woman who wants to push for more than he is ready for. When any human being is ready for something or wants something they usually go for it. We are talking about normal, healthy people now that know their minds. Its still very early. The best way to show any man anything is by acting it. Have fun, show him the best side of you, be his friend and let him lead for awhile. If you dont like the way he leads you, talk to him about it and then move on if you need to. Who knows maybe by you being layed back, you will lead him in your direction. You dont want to change his mind cuz then you will always wonder what he would have chose if you werent leading him.
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