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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I found out my fiance was unfaithful. We haven't spoken since. I feel that I need to be told if the whole 8 years we were together was a lie, that when he told me he loved me it was true. I sent him a text explaining that if he ever cared for me he'd tell me the truth about what happened so that I can move on... I cant stop crying, everywhere I look is a memory. He hasn't replied and I don't know how to move on. I need closure.
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reader, fluffyshoes +, writes (28 October 2008):
I am so sorry to hear this and can totally sympathise. The need to know why is such a huge one but frankly I do not know that he could ever give you a satisfactory answer. I know you must feel very hurt right now and want to know why this has happened but he may not be ready or willing to give you his reasons.
The best thing you can do is to say to yourself that you had eight years with him and he was not faithful sadly that relationship was not to be. You need to help yourself to get through this and even if he did give you an answer it might not be one you are ready to hear. Talk to and spend time with friends and family who can support you.
Maybe in time he will be ready to have the conversation you need to finally put the relationship to rest in your mind but until then keep in the company of people who appreciate you for who you are. xxx
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