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writes: Ok...I'm a bisexual guy and though I have a girlfriend, I've also had a boyfriend for the past 4 months. They both knew about and were fine about each other, so that wasn't a problem and so for a while it all worked out well.I really liked being with the guy and everything was great between us until my girlfriend started saying that I liked him more. Also, he seemed to feel quite seriously about me and I wasn't sure about that so I finished with him by e-mail.He didn't reply straight away but when he did he asked me if we could work things out and told me he didn't have anyone else and that he loved me. I told him no, but that we could be friends.But then he said he didn't want to be just my friend and he won't speak to me, blocked me on Messenger etc. I didn't want him out of my life, and I wanted to still be able to talk to him and stuff, but he says he can't do that if we can't have a relationship. I think he's being really stupid and selfish, what does everyone else think? Reply to this Question |
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reader, q1605  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 It's his choice not to settle for less than he wants to have from you. It was your choice to break it off with him. He can't make you love him. You can't make him want to be just friends. He knows it will break his heart to see you, and be around you, knowing you two will never be. So close, but so f'ing far. Time will help, but if his feelings were that intense he may never be able to just hang around. She doesn't sound like she had that big of a problem with him. Think about giving him a chance. He sounds like a nice guy.
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reader, StevenRoss  + ♥, writes (21 September 2009):
it seems like you want it all to be honest mate, and sometimes that isn't possible, we don't live in a perfect world. you had to make a choice and you chose your girl, you have to respect how your ex feels and if he doesn't want anymore to do with you leave it be, as you said he loves/d you so it must be really hard for him.
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reader, bitterblue  + ♥, writes (21 September 2009):
 Break up more gracefully next time if you wish to stay friends with the "dumpee", certainly don't do it by e-mail, it's simply disrespectful, do it face to face. He's in his rights to not want to see you or be friends, maybe he thinks it will be easier for him to move on by setting a no contact rule. There can be problems in the future when forming a family, if you continue to have girlfriends and boyfriends at the same time, some get too used to this lifestyle. If you are unsure which gender you want to be with, then by all means experiment all you wish, be on the safe side and know well what you wish before settling down with one partner, kids, etc.
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