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Dating: Help and advice

He wants to watch dogging or go to a swingers club and I don't know what to do.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - well, im 16 and my boyfriend is 19, basically we've been sleeping together for 4 months of our 7 month relationship and its been good. But lately he has come up to me and asked if he can go to watch dogging or go to a swinggers club. its hard for me ...

What have I done wrong? I don't want to lose him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I'm scared my boyfriend of 8 months will leave me. I'm 16 he's 19. When me and him first got together he was all lovey dovey with me talked 2 me all the time texted me a lot, told me he loves me a lot and he cudnt bear not to be with me. But now ...

Both mentally & physically attracted and just be friends?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - What do you guys think? If a man is extremely attracted to a woman, physically and mentally, can he ever be just friends with her? Whether your answer is a yes or a no, I'd appreciate an explanation as to why you think either way....

Dating a guy but thinking of a girl!

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27 May 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm a bit confused at the moment.I'm a girl Ive been dating this guy for over 2 years now. We have never had sex, since I'm not quite ready yet. I really love him. But lately I've been having sexual thoughts about a girl. I cant get her out of ...

We argue and I may lose my boyfriend!

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27 May 2009 (F) - I am with this guy, we went out for a long time, then he finshed with me, we're going out again now and he tells me he loves me, but the other day he told me we should stop it for now because we always argue. i toldhim we would try not to argue, so ...

I don't want to ask her out and make things awkward with my tutor... but I really like her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Well, I don't know exactly where to start. First thing you may need to know is that I'm French, even though I live in England, and have always been attracted to foreign girls. I needed to brush up on my rusty German because I had a job interview ...

Does it really matter what a relationship is called as long as you're both happy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I've got a bit of a general question for everyone here! When you are little and in high school, going out with someone is a simple case of saying "will you go out with me"? The person either says yes or no, and then you 100% know where you stand ...

Boyfriend left me, will he come back?

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27 May 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend of 4 years. It has been a difficult 4 years. But the times have not been all bad, or else it wouldn't have made it this far. He is younger than I am and I have 2 children from a previous relationship. The past 2 months have been ...

I cheated on my boyfriend, but he still wants to be with me, do I?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship for 2 years and i cheated on my boyfriend.I slept with someone else and i did it thrice.He is an angel and he has accepted me.I confessed my mistake to him and now i want to be very nice and want to love him from all my ...

Boyfriend says I'm a controlling person, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - i have a problem with my boyfriend we've been dating for 3 years and he says that i'm a controlling person and he states that becuase i told him to stop talking to one of his girl friends because she hurted me so many times and we broke off because ...

Ex bf says he will change his behaviour, is it possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex whom I was with for 2.5yrs is begging me for 1 more chance. He was emotional abusive but was always saying things as "jokes" n I told him this is unacceptable but he says he didnt realize it made me this upset til now. He's 26 but is very ...

Overwhelming sexual chemistry...should I do something about it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Is it strange to get in contact with someone you met at work a few months ago and found out they were interested in you but couldn't reciprocate because i was in a relationship at the time? A girl was doing some surveying at my company a couple...

Grilfriend physically cannot give head. Move on, wait, or accept it?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5403 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Hey I have posted this question before but didn't explain enough so the advice I received wasn't particularly relevant. The problem I seem to have is that I am in a 5 month ongoing relationship- we are both 21 and I have never received head to...

Major trust issues from the past

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Ok I have a boyfriend of 7 months, I love him and one day want to marry him. However, he has some seriously deep trust issues from his dad leaving him and being cheated on by all his ex girlfriends. So from this he believes that im going to do the ...

Why did she treat her scumbag ex better than me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Hi, New to these forums, but I guess my answer is straight up is; Why did she treat him better than me? What's he got better than me? So, rewind, The story goes like this... (try to make this short as I can) Ive been with this girl about 6 months...

Attraction to my daughter's teacher

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4870 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I really fancy my daughters teacher I can't stop thinking about her. I am a women so that makes things so difficult, there is chemistry between us most definitely what do I do? ...

He says he loves me but I'm not sure if he is just trying to get me into bed

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is a couple of years older than me, he's gone all the way with girls before, but i havent gone that far yet, he keeps tryin to push me into having sex and i dont know what to do. should i have sex with him? or keep sayin no? but what if ...

I want to make this a night to remember!

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27 May 2009 (F) - Heyy. well i havent seen my boyfriend in a while (examss. great things that they are!) and hes coming over to spend the evening with me tonight, just the two of us and no-one else will be home. So i thought i would ask for some idea's on how...

New lover doesn't use deodorant....any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I have new lover who i seriously want to keep. i am terrified of offending him. He is smartly dressed and clean in appearance, however, i noticed that he does not use a deodrant and has a tendency to sweat a lot. How can i possibly tell him, withou...

Why is he acting this way?

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27 May 2009 (F) - Ok so I met this guy a month and a half ago!!!! The weird part is I met him at church with mutual family and friends sitting all together after mass. I noticed he liked me b/c he said hi to me twice!!!!! After a week or so he kept on calling my mo...

Irresistable urge to contact my first love!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - ok--16 years ago and counting, i still think about the first boy i was ever in love with. i was 13. i think we would have dated, but i wasn't allowed to go to his house when he invited me over, so at school we held hands and put our arms around e...

He is withdrawing from me and I am worried it is because of my weight

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - So, I have a great relationship with my boyfriend. However, lately he has not been talking much with my. I feel like he is withdrawimg from me. He is going through a lot of stress, due to his mom being sick. SO i dont press the fact that he isnt ...

How do I hug/kiss my boyfriend on our second date?

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27 May 2009 (F) - Hi! I've been going out with my bf for 2 weeks exactly and we are going to the park with my friend and her bf and i want 2 kiss him and give him a nice warm hug but we are both kinda shy... we havent even held hands coz when we went 2 the cinema I...

Afraid to tell him that I'm into him again

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27 May 2009 (F) - I'm really getting upset about this. I really really dig this guy. Were pretty decent friends. Ice liked him for about 7 months, but only this much for 3 months at the begining and 2 months now. In between we weren't really talking a lot so it ...

How can I help my boyfriend with his OCD?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend suffers from OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.)i love him so much but sometimes it gets really difficult between us. Take two nights ago, for example, he called me saying that he doesn't deserve me, that he's a loser and that the ...

Is it wrong for me to be texting other guys when my ex is still in the picture?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My ex want me back but until he proves to me he changed im not sure. Deep down he prob wont and i kind of no this. Anyway do u think it wrong 4 me to be texting and possible other men that could possibly give me what i want. I dont know why i feel ...

I get turned on too easily!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - My problem is I get turned on too fast and easily. When with my girlfriend and we start kissing I get an erection almost straight away and before I know it I feel like I'm going to ejaculate. It completely blows my chance for sex and it's reall...

Is it unreasonable for me to have such a serious expectation from a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - I realli need advice. Ive been with my gf for 4 months now and we are very busy with final year of schooling, so we get like once or twice a week where we talk on the phone, and once to be together on the weekend. I find Im puttin all the effort i...

I was just about to tell him how I felt but he went and got a new girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I have a problem. I really like this guy called Will. he is 15 and i am 14. I have liked him for a year-ish and at first he knew because my friends told him but we didnt really talk too much so nothing developed and i think he sort of got creeped o...

Feeling guilty about our relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - [Moderator's note: some content removed that was innapropriate for publication] hello I joined my school in year 7 (like most kids) and i live in the next town and get the train in the mornings and afternoons. I am pretty mucked up - my asber...

We were so good together but he cant cut off ties with his ex!

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27 May 2009 (F) - I thought we could make this into a great relationship but hes turned around and said he doesnt know if he can cut ties off with his ex who he has kids with, saying i might get hurt in the long run as hes not sure how he feels about her, im so upset ...

I'm sure we are both straight but everyone tells us we act like a couple!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - We've been best friends since high school and now we are in our last year at 6th form, getting ready to leave for uni. All our friends say we flirt with each other way too much and act like we are a couple. Even though we or so i think are both ...

I wasn't ready! Why did I have sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I feel awafull, I am almost 30, and a single mum, have met a man on a dating site, he is 34, we just met once, that went ok, chatted a little online, and send a 1 or 2 text messages, and than, yesterday he invited me over for dinner. I went, but I ...

He says I'm a cheat and I will cheat on him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Im 22 and Ive been seeing this guy for a month now, even though i have a boyfriend, even though we both know its wrong, im willing to end it with my boyfriend for him, i know this has to be done as its not fair on him, then the new bloke went weird ...

I told him the truth did he want me to lie?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Good Morning all. well here it goes last night i met up with a guy we'd been texting and talking to eachother alot recently and i ended up really liking him and he did me. so we met up last night and went for a drive the thing was i am quite s...

Is it wrong for a girl to tell a guy she likes him or to ask him out?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - i like this guy named Pedro and I think he likes me also..The problem is that he is shy I noticed that when he talks to me he gets nervous. I know he won't make the first move because he is shy..So I'm thinking about asking him out.OR just telling ...

I am leading on all the guys I am dating, just so I can break their hearts!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I have issues... I am a love at first sight type of person. I have only really like two people and both of which are love at sight. I barely knew them yet I really liked them. Anyhow, none of those really developed into anything, I was ...

He seems genuine, but my friends think he is just after sex! Tell me what you think.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Let me apologize in advance for the long posting. I met a guy through some mutual friends about a year ago. We were paired up in their wedding. That was the first time we had met in person. He seemed like a nice guy. We talked for a while at the ...

Do I walk away from this jerk??

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...

How can I pull off this surprise?

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27 May 2009 (F) - so my boyfriends birthday is coming up at the end of june, we are madly in love with each other, and i really wanted to do something special for him, since it is his 18th birthday.. i bought us tickets to go to mayhem tour, which is about 2 weeks ...

Does she really care more about him than me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Basically, my girlfriend of nearly eight months has been talking to this guy over the internet for about four years. She says they used to be, sort of together, long distance but then she broke with him (she says). Thing is, she always wants to ...

My mother doesn't approve, but he loves me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - im 16. my boyfriend is 18. he knows how i feel about sex and he is able to wait until im ready. im still a virgin. we've been together 3months. just recently him and my mom got into a huge arguement.. about how she is overprotective. she got pissed ...

Do I have subconcious feelings for him? Why do I feel used?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Recently, I've started living with a guy friend from school. We've been really good friends for a long time, and although we used to be attracted to one another romantically, we've been platonic for the past two years. In the evenings we usually ...

I don't see a future with him. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - im with this guy and ive been with him for 8 months and i have alot of feelings for him but i just dont see the relationship going to far or i dont see a future with him in it...what does it mean? and what am i suppose to do...

I feel used and abused emotionally...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - This started a week back. I had asked a guy who worked at my school if her drop me off at my bf house because i wanted to see him. When i was aking my bf how do i get to where he live, he asked me who was bringing me and i said a friend. He then ...

Opinions please. Am I doing the right thing?

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27 May 2009 (M) - I am in love with a girl who was once divorced. I am single..i love her so much that i can't stay without her. I hid this fact from my family that she had an ex. I am planning to get married to her. But i feel sometimes that she gets sad when she ...

Is there a way I can induce lactation (without pregnancy)?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3046 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Okay.. I dont know if this sounds silly or not but is there a way to induce lactation without pregnancy? BACK STORY Im 18 years old with my boyfriend of 1 year 5 months. My boyfriend loves to suck my boobs and fantasizes about me being pregnant....

How can I deal with these overwhelming feelings?

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27 May 2009 (F) - Hey guys, i need a bit of advice. When i fall for guys (there's only ever been 3) I fall really hard, and it is so frustrating because i'm not going out with them. One of them was shy and at the time, so was I; we barely knew each other yet sa...

Should I send him a letter?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Its our 4th month anniversary, I was thinking about writing a letter, and in it saying how i cry for joy knowing im with one of God's own archetypes. Weve already exchanged letters before, so its not like its new. what you think?...

Why does she mean so much to me?

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27 May 2009 (M) - im 15 and i have a girlfriend who i care about very much and i think i love her. i know im young but i just know it. okay well we got into a fight yesterday. she blew things way outta proportion. but i still took the blame. i always do. i apologized ...

How do I win back my boyfriend?

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27 May 2009 (F) - Hi. after over a year of dating and talks of marriage, my boyfriend breaks up with me. We had had a huge argument that we never seemed to get over and things fell apart from there. Well, in the first few weeks I tried to win him back but he was ...

I feel as if he was "the one". How can I get him back?

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27 May 2009 (M) - So, I am a little lost. My ex boyfriend and I, who were together for 5 years. 3 months ago we broke up. I need advice on what to do. He tells me constantly that he doesn't want me back at all. That he is not interested in being back with me. But he ...

He never seems to "finish"!!!!! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Is there any condition or anything that makes it really hard for a guy to - finish- , i'm asking cause i just cant get my bf to finish, i would give him a hand job and he would pre cum and then a little fluid but doesnt finish, stays hard, we dont ...

Help with better self esteem without therapy!?!?

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27 May 2009 (F) - Please do NOT judge me. Okay, so I know I have an eating disorder- not like anorexia- but I won't eat in front of anyone (including my parents) except my sister. I mainly eat infront of her because she was anorexic and I'll do anything to keep her ...