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Attraction to my daughter's teacher

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Question - (27 May 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 2 January 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I really fancy my daughters teacher I can't stop thinking about her. I am a women so that makes things so difficult, there is chemistry between us most definitely what do I do?

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A female reader, Drat001 United Kingdom +, writes (2 January 2011):

There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with your daughter's teacher. In my school there are two teachers who are married, and their daughter is a student here. Does that make them wrong for having a relationship with their daughter's teacher? LOL. Of course not. The only thing that matters is that your daughter doesn't get any prefferential treatment.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009):

damn. go for it!

who cares if she's your daughter's teacher? who cares about what the whole school would think? it's your happiness, not theirs.life is too short babe. just be discreet and if things work out, talk to your daughter. she needs to respect that

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A female reader, summerslady21 United States +, writes (27 May 2009):

First thing I think that you should talk to your daughter! How old is your little girl? This is something she MUST be comfortable with no matter how tempting it is! Second is do you have any idea of how the teacher is? I mean is she gay or what? Anyhow the way I see it is if your daughter is ok with it and depending how much longer she has in this teachers class I would say follow your heart! The reason I say how long your child is this class is the teacher may get into some trouble or your daughter may get treated differet by her and the classmates! Keep in touch honey if you'd like to talk you can mail me! Best of luck to you!

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A male reader, mytwocents United States +, writes (27 May 2009):

mytwocents agony auntI say you GO FOR IT! If you do it strategically, you run a low risk for a potentially big pay off. Who cares if she’s your daughter’s teacher? She won’t be her teacher forever. All you have tell your daughter is that you and her teacher have become friends. And, just BE DISCREET. No big deal. People hide things way more difficult than this.

Here’s my strategy. (I say this as a former teacher myself.)

Schedule a teacher’s conference to discuss your “daughter’s progress” one afternoon (plan for your daughter not being there). Say you came from “running errands,” and dress up really cute (but not obvious). Bring a grocery bag, as if you came from the grocery store, and have some dark chocolate and other “adult” refreshments in there. Sit casually, close by, and act conversational--not like you’re in a summit meeting. That way, it’ll be easier to transition away from the topic at hand. Talk about your daughter for a while, make up some non-serious concerns about her, and about discuss some area that she needs “work in.” Then segue into more interesting, personal things. Say “I hope you don’t mind, I didn’t eat lunch today,” and crack out some of the treats from the bag. Offer up some chocolate, get a little flirty, "let your hair down," and turn up the heat little by little. Build up as much tension as you can.

If you already have some chemistry with her, she won’t be able to resist the subtle overture. Teachers are suckers for a well-laid plan. If nothing’s there, you’ll just seem like a friendly parent. It’s a win-win situation!

If things go pretty well, you’ll easily be able to ask her out. Just say you're really glad you got to know to her and that you two should get together outside of school, and pick a night or activity. If things go REALLY well, you can pet her and move in for a short kiss. Leave her wanting more.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009):

Listen,

Your crush is going to ruin your daughters life :O

Belive me i am a kid myself, think of how your baby girl will feel.

Not only that the kids at school wont find it romantic your child will be a laughing stock belive me

Your best idea would be go on a dating websight because if anything does happen you will loose your daughter and i dont mean for a short period of time

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A female reader, Loopy14 United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2009):

Loopy14 agony auntDon't even go there, no matter how tempting it seems. This is your daughters teacher, can you imagine the trouble it could cause your daughter and her education? There is nothing you can gain from telling the teacher how you feel, a teacher/parent relationship is highly unprofessional. On a lighter note, theres nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality, just keep it seperate from your childs education.

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