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Dating: Help and advice

How can I make the kiss better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - hiya, me and my boyfriend have kissed 4 times, hugged 4 times and we snogged 2 times. how can i make the kiss better if feels as im making it really bad? but he keeps wanting to kiss so he musn't think that, but what could i do to make it better? ...

Is he at it with me or is he telling the truth?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I'm heartbroken, I've driven the man I cherish away, we have been together nearly 2 years, he told me he was seperated, i thought it was strange he never wanted me to meet his family and he always hid my things when his friends came to stay, he said ...

Why can't I get him to communicate with me to at least try to work it out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Hi, well like many others my boyfriend of a year dumped me, a day before our one year anniversary. I don't think it was a commitment thing cuz he always was asking for me to move in and such . But I was on a lease and couldn't at the time . But ...

Whenever I try to talk about him coming to the doctors with me for a pregnacy test he just changes the subject to sex! What gives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is acting really odd. It all started when I told him I missed two periods and told him about it. For then on all he talks about is sex and not just normal things he talks about how he pees on himself and licks his own cum. Hes nev...

My boyfriend is practically being held hostage in his own home! help.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Hey everyone! Well i have posted questions on here before and youve always been really great help. This isnt really a huge problem, not compared to others and i guess this is kind of silly. Well im sitting my A levels and so ive now off...

How do I approach him about trying swinging or introducing another in the bedroom?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Hi there! Well, I am in a 2 year relationship and things are just great. However time went by and sex just isn t the same but I'm a very creative person, so I have always lots of kinky ideas and games. My bf is a dear, really good looking and so n...

Spying fiance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I have been spying on my live in boyfriend for two years. I use the computer software but I have recently purchsed a gps for the car. He has been talking marriage I am in love with him but after spying I have caught him talking to his client in an ...

Don't know if I can trust her...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Sorry it's long Ok I love this girl very much but I don’t know how to trust her after so many lies we have been together for 9 mouths. and it has gone great. but there was another guy before me. and I have had to deal with this is guy for a long ...

I'm in love with someone I've never even spoken to! :(

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5212 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - hi, well bassicaly this is quite funny! but i swear im in love with someone ive never even spooken to!,its getting so bad i cant stop thinking about this boy 3 and the thing is i dont know if he likes me too but someway i think he does kinda, as ...

Help! I really want to go but I don't know how to tell my mum, and what their reaction will be...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Ok.. well I really need help, I'm gay, my parents know and all they're not happy but they cope with it... Anyway I met some boy online and he asked me on a date, I really want to go but I don't know how to tell my mum, and what their reaction will ...

She says she'll wait 2 years but she cheated when we were apart over a weekend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - my and this girl have been together for about 9 months. i love this girl but i've got into some trouble now im getting sent away till im 18. i'll be leaving 2 hours away from her an im 15 alomst 16. in 2 years i can come back to be with her. she ...

How can I force my girlfriend into dropping some weight?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Ive been dating my girlfriend off and on for two years. We are both in our 40's and she is a couple of years older than me and has two grown up kids. We get on really great and spend a lot of time together, although we don't live together. She is a...

Can a relationship work if you are not sexually attracted to your partner?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Can a relationship work if your not sexually attracted to your partner?...

Are accidental burps/farts a turn off to guys?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - a bit of a strange question i know, but is it completely off putting for a guy when your girlfriend accidentally burps/farts while they're with them? and i dont mean on a regular basis, just a once off thing where its just loud and undeniably came ...

Do you think he gets a kick out of treating me badly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Ok.. so this situation has been going on for a year now, i used to be really best friends with this guy who has been blowing HOT and cold with me for a whole year now. ive cried many times over it.. he would act weird and say horrible things t...

Should I still be expecting him to make a bit of an effort after we have been together so long?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Recently I feel as though my boyfriend doesn't care enough about our relationship, and I'm not sure what I can do. When we first started going out, my boyfriend effectively did all the chasing, he made such an effort and did everything he co...

Hard break-up, should I keep any hope of getting him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I am in the deepest pain I have ever been in my life, deeper even than when I lost a very close relative. My boyfriend of 8 amazing months broke up with me on Monday because of something I said. For a bit over 3 months, he was gone on his study ab...

Part of me is craving being single, and the other part loves my perfect girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - So, I've been going out with long-term girlfriends for the past five years, since I was 15. There's never been much of a gap between long-term relationships. The first turned out to be a compulsive liar and screwed with my head quite badly, the ...

I left my ex to be with my new man and now he thinks I will do the same to him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - The man im with now, i met him while i was in a 4 year relationship, i broke up with my ex to be with this new man....but now hes worried im going to do the same to him....im so confused as i cant change the past what can i do? Do you think it ruin ...

She told me about her past and I just can't get over it...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Been with my girlfriend around a year and a bit she is much older than me which for me was not a problem as she has a fun personality and i barely felt the difference at the start i am in love with her and she is my first true love i didnt have a ...

He didn't try to kiss me at the end of our date... why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I went on a blind date with a guy last night. We're both in our mid 20s. The date seemed to go pretty well. We talked and laughed, not really any awkward silences. It wasn't the best date I've been on, but it was fun and I would definitely go out ...

Finding it hard to stand up for myself without making the argument worse!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been friends for four years and dating for 1, and this is really starting to bug me. We'll get into these stupid ridiculous fights and he'll accuse me of really dumb things (ei. my friend that doesn't like him: he thinks that ...

He doesn't want me to go back home with him....could this mean he is still with the mother of his children?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Ive met this guy hes 29 im 22, we have been on 4 dates and email and text everyday, they were great dates and were so attracted to each other lots of kissing...he lives about a hour away from me ive now asked twice to go back home with him, hes said ...

If he wanted a fling you would think he would choose a girl he has less history with!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - *answers from guys REALLY appreciated* Hi, I'm female, 21yrs old. My best friend (male) has been confusing me. At my 21st bday he kissed me now he acts like it never happened. (I posted a different question about the same guy a while back http:...

How soon into a relationship is it acceptable to stay the night?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Hi all I am in a bit of a quandry. I am 25 years old, and have recently got back into dating after a long spell of being in a LTR and then single getting over it. I have met a lovely man, someone who shares many many of my ideas, loves, ha...

I'm afraid that if I wait to long then we will never be together!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - My heart says that I fancy this guy, yet my head says that nothing will happen between us. I'm 16 and there is a three yr gap between us. He makes me laugh and I enjoy being around him, and he does tease me - sometimes I retort back, sometimes ...

Could my crush find out the email came from my computer?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - My friend sent an email to a guy I like (telling him someone "liked" him). She created a special gmail account to send it using my macbook at my house. She used a fake name to create the account. She sent the email from another computer, but she ...

The great porn debate

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - p /> Please check out this post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-could-he-hurt-me-by-watching-pornography.html I was trawling through the site the other day and found the question above. Everyone congratulated this girl jessica on ...

She's older, should I go for it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - should i make a move? There a girl across the road from me a few years older, anyway she's proper fit and i well fancy her, she's really nice and whenever she seems me she's smiling and says hi.. should i tell her i like her and see what she thi...

Single and ageing

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - is being female of 30 years old + bad thing and being single because i dont i'll ever get a boyfriend i live in a rural town where is absoulty nothing going on but the weather.i feel past sell by date.i feel there is no body there for me.i find when ...

She said she wants to take a break but to continue hanging out together!! This is all so confusing!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - hey everybody well today i was talking to my girlfriend and out of nowhere she tells me that she would rather take some time off from being with me because she wants to make sure that im the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with. I told ...

How do I go about this situation with my boyfriend of 2 months?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5462 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - i saw my boyfriend yesterday at uni, he seemed very down and he told me he was tired and stressed about uni work. i dont really know what is going on, usually we hold hands walking around campus, we did, but it was loosely held. we sat on the benc...

Sperm donation from a friend or go to the Doctors?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - ive been wit my gurlfriend for 3-years.we live together an we want to have a baby.what should i do.i love her so much.so i go to the dr and try it that way.or should i find a frind that will give the sperm?...

Are my chances of dating him doomed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Hello. The other night I slept with this guy who I have known for roughly 5 years, but we very seldom saw each other. We finally hung out the other night and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I am not like that at all, and have ...

10 reasons its her fault the relationship didnt work

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5429 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - Here are the top 10 reasons that it's HER fault the relationship didn't work. Reason 1: You aren't cool enough. Guys love cool girls, its probably our favorite characteristic for a girl we want to keep around longer than 2 hours. The problem...

I love her but do I stand a chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - ok, im 14 and in eighth grade, I met this girl in 4th grade and fell in love the day I met her, she stayed single until 6th grade when her first boyfriend was one of my best friends, they stayed 2gthr for around 4 months, 2 year ltr I confessed to ...

People stop to watch us because I am a black female with a white male!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Black Female with a White Male. Everywhere we go people stop to watch us, like they have never seen this before. I notice when its a Black Male and White Female no one talks. What is the problem here? Don't White men: date and marry Black women?...

Asked by my lover to visit him in Turkey....is it safe to go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I am American Black female who is in Love with a Turkish Man. We meet while working together, he was on a visa working in the States for a year. He has invited me to come and visit Turkey. I have never left home and would like to know if it is safe ...

Does he like me or is he just being friendly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Does he like me? Okay this is gonna be long so brace yourself. There is this guy that I have a crush on. Sometimes I think he likes me and sometimes I'm not so sure. He is the brother of one of my friends on my soccer team. He is also my soccer c...

Want to be a dad but too young, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - ok im only 15 but i love this girl with all my heart. we dated once dint work cuz im 2 hours away now im moving with my causins so i can live only 3 miles away from her. i'll be ther in a week an were going to try to date again an i know this time ...

He spends the night at his ex's home, and tells me to deal with it. Not sure that I want to?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I started seeing my bf about 2yrs ago, after getting comfortable in the relationship he confides in me that he and his ex-wife were swingers. Not only were they swingers but he had sex with almost every cousin she had (she was involved in the acts ...

It distrubs me very much that he masturbates over pictures of other women, am I wrong to feel this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - I was wondering what people think of fantasising and masturbating over other people when you're in a relationship? I have no problems with my significant other masturbating when he's not with me (i live in a different city) IF he's not thinkin...

He has major trust issues with everyone, any hints as to how I can help him to overcome this problem?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5462 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - how can i show my man that i am trustworthy, he has been betrayed in every possible way by family and friends, ex girlfriends as well. he dont trust anyone how do i show him i am trustworthy?...

He's mean and I am tired of his behavior, how do I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - so my ex and i have always had an up and down relationship after our break up. cause he was really mean to me. but he like he told me he was very sorry and would chnage and he did change for like 2 weeks and was really sweet being the guy i always ...

Should I bow out, until he decides who he wants to be with?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Ok so here it is. I met a guy and I started to like him alot. I am older than he is by 4 years. I am 29, he is 23 going on 24. It took him awhile to figure out that I liked him. I finally had to tell him. We were just friends for about a month until ...

Should I go out with a player?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - This guy asked me out, but he's a real player. but i have seen him be really sweet and nice, i'm just afraid he might cheat. should i say yes?...

Do good relationships come easy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

21 May 2009 (M) - i've not been in many myself, but my friend and his girl keep having argements and getting back then the smallest thing pops up, i wanna look out for him, cos that what we do, but i dont wanna see him sad cos he likes this one, when he asks for ...