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Archived questions from: 4 May, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

He won't come with me for regular STI checkups...why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hello, I am a 23 year-old female and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. The thing is I like to go for a health (STI) check every once a while but the problem is he has always refused to come along with me. At first I thought maybe he...

I left Uni for this guy and he's treating me like I'm an idiot!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Well, where do I start? I need some advice. i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year and I love him so much and I know he loves me for he tells me every day, several times a day but lately that flair has disappeared. We're supposed to be moving in ...

Best sex positions?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4993 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - Hi this question is mainly for women but any male posts would be great well im just wondrin which sex position is best for both partners wanna give my gf a night to remember thanks ...

Is this a case of practice makes perfect or not?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hello! I am female and 18 years old. So last night, me and my boyfriend lost our virginity to each other. Yes I am on the contraceptive pill and he used a condom, which as far as we are aware, did not break. Anyway, even though we both orgasm-ed, ...

Should I buy his mom something for mothers day?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Just curious.. Going on a 4 month relationship with this guy. His mom and I do small talk but that's it. The relationship is not a bad one. Anyways, I was thinking... Mother's Day is just around the corner. But she's not my Mother. So, am I ob...

My friend, dating my personal girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - Hi guys, I have a little problem, one of my friends wants to date my personal girlfriend! Please, I need advice on what to do. Please reply as soon as you can. Do I let him?...

He wants to do "cam to cam..."

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hi i'm going out with this amazing guy and i would like to go the full way with him, of course not now but maybe in six months time or so, but he wants to do cam to cam and i'm willing to do it but i'm extremly worried about my pubes. What should i ...

I am in a new relationship. Please Helppppp!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I am in a new relationship, I've known this guy since high school and he's changed so much. When we were together in high school he was so touchy feely and always happy but now six years later he's gotten a whole lot quieter and distant and I don't ...

I can be extremely jealous and controlling...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now and I am extremely jealous and controlling. I was hurt in the past and he used to cheat on girls and has a really bad past but he told all of them about it when it happened and has told me ...

Opinions needed. Why do I feel this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - I have some insecurities as we all do i guess. However the girl im seeing seems to be hiding things from me. for example we went out last week with her friend and i happend to see a picture on her friends camera of a guy kissing her on the cheek. ...

He likes to call me names like whore, bitch and slut. Is this normal for a person in love to call his girlfriend these names in bed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend likes to either be dominanted or be dominant in bed. I have figured out what turns him on. I on the other hand like it without the role playing every time. He either wants to pretend that I'm raping him or that I'm this naughty girl ...

He has pictures of his ex girlfriend hidden on his computer (but I found them).

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating 10 months now, and he broke it off with his ex approximately 2 years ago. One day, when left alone at his house with his computer, curiousity took the best of me and I ventured on to see what he looks at when...

He says I'm perfect and wants to go one holiday... but then says we are not going out!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hi all, I have been seeing a man for 6 weeks now, I have known him for years and together we have had the best times recently and spending oodles of time together, laughing, dating and we just gell together so well. He is going through a divorce ...

I can't afford to chuck him out but I'm getting sick of him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I am a currently looking for part time work however its hard right now (dont know if its the recession or not) me and my boyfriend goes half on the bills in the house(my only income is my daughter child support which is 316.00). he pays the light ...

She's doing my head in! What's going on with this girl?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - hey, i am not sure if am doing this for advice or just to get it off my chest. i met this girl a while back. we dated for a short time before she said it wasnt going to work. she never gave me a reason why. i was crushed when she said it cos it w...

I'm unsure...does he like me or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (?) - Hello, there is this boy who is in a lot of my classes at school. I think he is really hot but I'm not sure if he likes me or not. I kind of get the impression that he does for example, I catch him looking at me a lot of the time, and when I see him ...

Help...I had unprotected sex and missed a period!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hey every1 i need sum advice urgently...so im only 13 and im goin out with a guy who is 2 years older than me. my boyfrend started pressuring me into sex but i told him no and i kept saying no and now he has finally understood my answer. But anyway ...

How do I convince her that I won't hurt her as bad as her ex bf did?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - Please help me, i'm in love with this very special girl. Only problem is she got out of a long term relationship about 6 months back that destroyed her, she is so scared of being hurt like she was again. This has caused her to be very scared of ...

I'm shy--how can I ask him to take our relationship to the next step?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hello there i want to ask am in a relationship with this man and i am very shy becouse i am in love with him and and i dont know how to tell him and i want to move to the next step with him too and he never have the time for me at all but in the ...

I feel like I love my boyfriend more than he loves me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5005 days ago

4 May 2009 (?) - Hey! I was just wondering what people suggest doing in a relationship in which they don't feel the feelings are even between the parties. I feel like I love my bf more than he loves me and I try harder than he does. I'm not really that bothered, b...

How can I start a conversation without turning all red?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hi! I'm 15 and I was hoping you help me because I got a problem. I really love this boy let's call him 'wb' I saw him staring at me many times and even my friends did, he tried to talk 2 me because he knows 1 of my friends but every time he co...

Does he need time? Or is he fooling himself?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5478 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I'm sorry this is long but I needed to say it all.. please help and answer only if you read it all. Thanks so much :) After 2 years of a wonderful relationship my boyfriend broke up with me because he felt we needed space and time to figure out wh...

He can't get close to anyone... Does he do this because he is insecure about holding down a decent relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5477 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend well lets just say has a very womanising past! He has slept wiv nearly 100 people. He was single for a long time and has only had one serious relationship of 5 years! He quite honestly says hes fucked up cos of something that happen in ...

We don't make love any more...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - I need some advice here. My girlfriend and I don't have sex any more. Well, maybe once a month or so. I've been with her for over a year and a half now. For the first 10 months or so, we had sex frequently, and both put a lot of effort in to ple...

He's a year younger..should I date him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hey everyone,i am 18 years old.. i met this guy through a common friend.. he actually goes to the same school as me,but he is 1 year younger than me.. i like him,but i think he's too young.. should i go for it?? thanks in advance.....

My bf left me, and I have 6 kids! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - i woke up this morning and my boyfriend has left me.we had a big argument last night and i said things i didnt mean. He wanted to sort things out and said he didnt mean the things he said but i just went to bed. I've just got up and hes gone. He's ...

Can't stop thinking about my bf's friend! Is this fair to my bf-should we break up??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5476 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I'm 20 years old. I have been with my partner for 4 years and have two children with him. and i do love him. but since i was at school i have liked one of his friends. and all of a sudden this friend is spending a lot of time with our family and i ...

I guess our dating is a secret..when do people go public?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hello I have been seeing a guy for the past 6 weeks and have spent loads of really good times together - lots of dates and fun times. He split up with his wife last July after she cheated many times and they have 2 children together, I know he ...

Married your 1st love or were dating at 18?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hello. Im just wondering, how many of the uncles and aunts on this site married their first love, or the person they were dating at 18? I hear of stories about people who married the person they dated at 18, but how often does this actual happ...

Was I being disloyal to my boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - My bf and I were invited over to his brother's house for a bbq. His bro likes my potato salad so much, he asked me to make a lot of it so he could have some leftovers. Ok, no problem, I did. When we were over there, towards the end of the ...

Two and 1/2 years and I want more than kissing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - hey i have been with my boy friend for 2 and a half yrs now. and i keep giving clues for over a month that i want more then just kissing. i want to go futher as i want to have sex with him. but he isnt getting the message and i dnt want t...

He already has a kid

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - So Im 17 years old. I met this guy. He's really sweet. Kinda seems like the player type though. So he tells me he has a gf. But she lives in l.a and I guess its not working out between them. So I kind of try to hold my distance until they're done. ...

What to do about the old crush?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (?) - well when i used to have a crush on him i told him and at the beginning we got on fine and i don't know if he liked me back or not but then it sort of changed and i went off him and now he is being so annoying and whenever he sees me he always tries ...

My 13 year old friend is dating a 19 year old guy is this going to end well?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5041 days ago

4 May 2009 (?) - My friend(Girl 13) is dating a 19 year old boy and they have already like planned getting married and she wants to move in with him because she hates life at home. I don't think it seems like a good idea but they said it was love at first sight.Th...

Is it normal that two people in a relationship do not talk to each other everyday?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I need help. my current bf has been a weird individual since the beginning. By beginning I meant to say 3 months ago. We've been together for 1 month. He never gives me good morning/night calls; never texts me during the day, he only...

I am a virgin, my girlfriend is not, any tips on performance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - hey. My gf is not a virgin, but i am. I want to be a good sexual partner, but I'm not really sure how to be one. First of all, is there any way to make sex more pleasurable the first time? How can I go for longer? Anything else would help. Thanks....

Dating over two years, left without a word, should I let him go or find out why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - What does it mean when a guy you been dating for 2 years and couple of weeks left without saying goodbye? Should i let him go or find out?...

Will he make an effort to see me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Me and this guy were texting back and forth all week last week. On Friday he asked me if I wanted to hang out sometime and on Saturday I told him that that would be okay. He asked me what I was doing today (Sunday), and I told him that I was working ...

My boyfriend is obsessed with the "World of Warcraft", it is afecting our relationship, any advice that can help me deal with this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5174 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 6 months now. He's sweet, intelligent, funny, and all around, a terrific guy. But like everyone else, he has his problems. Recently, he is becoming more and more involved in World of Warcraft. Whi...

My long distance girlfriend is having problems at work and I can't seem to give her good advice, should I call her less often?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. I have moved to another country which is very far from my gf. It isn't permanent but will for a long time due to work. We keep in touch by chatting and phone. Recently, she is having problem with her work. There are people k...

He swept me off my feet, then revealed a temper that was scary, should I even consider being with him, he said it was over?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - Two months ago I met a man and we have spent almost every day together. He swept me off my feet and was so amazing to me. He wanted me to move away with him within four weeks but i told him we were moving too fast. One month after this we went ...

We have a child together, he has been in prison, should I be concerned about what people think if we date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - When I was 16 I started dating the most popular guy in my school, He was captain of the rugby and soccer team, one of the top 5 students in our graduation class. We thought we would be the power couple, in 2006 we were 22 and in college. One nigth ...

We dated, made out to a point, he now seems disinterested, what do you think?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I posted about this situation before but now more things have happened and I’m trying to get over it but I’m doubting myself big time. I started seeing a guy who was two weeks earlier dumped by his girlfriend (she’d found someone else and was che...

What do YOU guys do???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - Exams are coming up soon and i study at uni from mornin til late night. currently i dont have a girlfriend and i see quite a few really nice girls in the library. i get nervous jus to go up to talk to a girl. once when i was walkin up a flig...

My girl friend and I broke up... I miss her but I don't know how to cope

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5093 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I just broke up and we were going out for over a year. It started out great and we had many rough spots. She would get depressed a lot because of school issues and friends etc... and I would be her main support force. My friends ...

30 year old guy has never dated.. how do I get started?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - I am 30 years old and have very rarely dated. I am a brain tumor survivor and had to have all my hormones replaced artificially so I went through puberty late. Of course, I have never had sex, never even been in a romantic situation yet. How do I ...

I've only ever heard of LDRs ending badly. Can it work or is it best to end things on a good note?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - So, I've been seeing a guy for about 8 months or so and it's been sort of on/off but at the moment it's great. However I've been offered some work overseas and I'm worrying about what will happen to our relationship if I go, especially since I don't ...