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Archived questions from: 12 May, 2009 (see latest in Dating category)

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Dating: Help and advice

How can I keep my friend and my boyfriend apart?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I've had this crush on this guy for 4 years and when he asked me out, I was so thrilled. We have been dating for 5 mouths now. But 3 of those months have been on the rocky side. I was getting a feeling that my boyfriend had a crush (huge one) on my ...

Need advice

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I've recently got my first boyfriend at 15. I am a bit nervous and unsure of what to do. for a start there is an age difference of 3 years. My friends think I have been moving a bit fast and I had no idea! I didn't know what was acceptable and what ...

I really don't know what to do...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I really don't know what to do... ive been with my boyfriend for only 8 months, and i love him so much... its that kind of love that isnt exiting but its always there kind of love. like youde do anything for them... almost everything. but about 10...

I've never had a BF and I'm sick of hearing "it will happen someday"... help me NOW!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm 18 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Never even been asked out. Not that I don't get attention from guys. It's just that I only seem to get the wrong sort of attention, like guys in clubs who are just looking for a one night stand and ...

How can I win back the control with my fella?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - For the past couple of months i feel as though i have lost control in my relationship and now all i do is hang on to my partners every word. i want to feel in control again! i seem more keen than him these days, and when we argue i am always the ...

Do I really have to let her go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Reality check... Do I really have to let her go. My ex girlfriend have split now for over 5 months and I'm still finding it very difficult to move on. We were together for 3 and a half years and most of the time it really was the best time of our...

I like her, but don't want to go out until my exams are over with!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - thers a girl at my school who i really like. i talk to her via email/text and i found out that she likes someone, but she doesn't think that it is workin out. she doesn't really go out with him and she doesn't like him that much but i have my gcse's ...

Update: He is overly protective of his email and workplace

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hi I was on here before about my boyfriend being over protective of his email and Blackberry. He viciously protects his office and the vicinity and wants me nowhere close. This is an update. He found that question here on DC, plus your a...

Should I keep our baby? Please help me...

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I'm almost 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I just recently found out i am pregnant, my boyfriend says he doesn't feel he's ready to be a dad and feels i should abort but says it's my decision, he'll be there no matter ...

I can't seem to compare to his ex. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my bf/finace for a year but we met a few years before that. When we met all those years ago, he had just come out of a relationship with a girl. From what I have been told (by him), she was the first girl that he was very serious...

My boyfriend prefers to have sex with his computer rather that having sex with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I have a problem. I am living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and our sex life has decreased a lot. We are only 24 years old. We pretty much don't have sex anymore. I been dealing with this for about a year. It seems to me like if he dont feel ...

Am I a stalker as she says I am?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Would anyone here consider it like stalking if the person your with says they're somewhere and you drive by to really see if there are where they say? Especially if they've lied before? it blew up today with the girl i was seeing she said she was at ...

I don't get it...why the sudden change in him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - So me and this guy have been bestfriends for about 4 years, there was never connection between us. Not as far as I was aware. One of my friends, who used to be his too, told me that he used to say I was pretty and wants to kiss me, you get the ...

He got another woman pregnant...what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I need some help. Last summer i was seeing this lad who is 4 years older than me for a few months, we got together, but because of the age gap it never went anywhere and we stopped talking. This January we got together properly, our relationship...

When is an appropriate time to take it to the next level?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Ok, so i've been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks. Last week, I went to his house and things got a bit steamy. We were kissing and our hands were all over each other and he went 'down there' with his hand and I was literally soaking. Is this a turn ...

Should I just give up on this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I broke up with my ex for almost a month now. but i can't get my mind off of him. He's everywhere. Whenever I do anything or when I look at anything, it reminds me of him. I miss him so much. We were together for 2.5 years. He cares for me and loves ...

What's proper protocol on who says "I love you" first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Is he already in love with me but not saying those three words? After a few weeks of dating he said, 'I think I'm falling for you.' Weeks later he said, 'You know you love me.' I played it off and said, 'No, you love me.' We both laughed at lef...

He cheated on me and then he gave me an STD! Keep him or move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Ive been with my boyfriend for three years. Hes always been the love of my life, until about a week ago i found out that he had cheated on me. Due to his dumb actions i now have an STD. He knows he messed up, and has apologized. I truely believe he ...

I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do? They're currently LDR, but he's planning on coming to live here. Well, the thing is that he's 32 or 33 and she's 22. He's so annioying. He may be old, but he is so immature. He doesn't work, he's looking ...

Sexy but romantic birthday treat?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - It's my boyfriends birthday next week and I really want to make it a memorable one for him. The only thing is I don't know what to do. I want it to be something quite sexy but I want it to be something romantic as well. And the other thing is I...

Just friends or is there something more there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Hello, i have a problem. I am 26 years old and about 3 years ago i started going back to college. About 2 years ago I took a drawing class with this girl in it, she is 19 years old. I noticed her right away, she was very attractive. I ev...

Can't stop thinking about girlfriends past

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5419 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - I cannot stop thinking about my girlfriend's sexual past. I have asked about it and regret doing so because I can't stop thinking about it and have found out she has had sex with more people than I have but she hasn't said how many and won't. She ...

I havent seen him in 12 years but I still have feelings for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hi. I got together with a wonderful man 12 years ago. It didnt last long,maybe 2 months but it was blissfull. Sadly though I listened to my well meaning friends and left him. He had a bad track record with women and had been to prison for driving ...

Question about race and dating.....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hello there. I am hoping my question does not come off as offensive or racist at all. It's just that I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now; he is caucasian (blonde hair, blue eyes) while I am asian. This has always made me a bit self ...

Dating an older guy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - hello, i am now dating this guy and i am really getting serious with him. if he would ask me to marry him, i think i would say yes. but our age gap is 22 years. i am 23 and he is 45. i am worried what would it like to have an older husband. what are ...

I feel down...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Hi, I have been dating a girl for 3 months up to february and she asked to seperate for a while. We have met a few times as friends, but I have just found that she has found someone else and I feel really upset. I don't know what to do to make me...

What can my married lover do for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Dear cupid i am in love with a married man not because I wanted that but we were met each other with his reason, he is married and have 3 children but not happy in his marriage they were divorced many times but children was the reason to be together ...

She is my destiny and I want her back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I was in a lesbian relationship for 7 months. My girlfriend and i did argue a lot but still loved one another. Now shes dumped me saying it will not work and shes convinced herself it wont work out. She texts me to ask if im ok but i still love her ...

Fuzzy feeling with my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Hi, I am implicitly going nuts over my friend. I met this girl about a year and 6 months and we have been very good friends. I wanted to ask her out but I was scared of loosing her as my friend. Eventually I did because I just could'nt shake th...

Is he still in love with me or is it her he wants?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - my ex broke up with me 7 mothns ago during the duration of the breakup weve slept togther on a few occasions... to him it was a friends with benifits situation but to me it always felt like more .. at times i think he doesnt really know what he ...

Bad patch is over...so why am I still in touch with this new man?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Im 22 and I have a boyfriend of 4 years, we had a bad patch and i met another man gave him my number been emailing alot etc, hes a great laugh we have not done anything we just have the same personality, things got better with my boyfriend but im ...

Getting over a girl I can never have

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Hi, Sorry for the essay but it must be said. K i have really strong feelings for this girl at work, id say she's pretty much the most the amazing girl ive ever met, id probably say that even if i didnt love her. Anyways we see each other about...

Working on reuniting with my boyfriend of 4 years

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - i am working on reuniting with my boyfriend of 4 years. he has joined other singles groups and has reunited with old female friends. he is have a party at his home in a few weeks and i am not invited and am feeling very badly about this. does this ...

How can I make my boyfriend stop talking to other women?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hi I have been with my boyfriend for the past almost 7 months. He has proposed to me twice already and I have told him that I think its too soon. I met him through my ex as they both played hockey together. After my ex dumped me I became even clo...

Frightened of my boyfriend and possibly pregnant

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hi I am 16years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been going out for a little over a year a recently he has been getting angry towards me such as when i have been text ed by a friend he will ask me who it is and if i do not say then he will squ...

Should I be worried or go with the flow?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - I am Bi and my gf is straight. We have been dating now for some time, and things are going really well. We are both kinky and enjoy the occasional addition of an extra guy. I know you must be thinking so here we go...Well we have had extra guy ...

My boyfriend is reluctant to go on holiday because of what I did whilst we were on a break!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5471 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - my boyfriends mom wants him to go to Moscow for 2 weeks with her! i think its a great thing to do..i told him i wanted him to go! a couple months ago we took a break and i messed around with another guy he found out (before i got a chance to tell ...

Money issues in our long distance relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5469 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Dear agony aunts I have started a long distance relationship. I am in it for two months and I have already spent a 4 day long weekend with my new boyfriend. He came to visit me... the problem is that the financial issue have arisen... I have...

I'm scared to have sex with my boyfriend who is 11 years older than me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm 19 year old and since i've been 14 im attracted to older man. My first boyfriend that lasted 2 years and half was 28 and i was 14, he was the best he used to take me out to eat, picked me up at school, took me out ect. We kissed, hugged and ...

An old friend that ruined my life is moving in on the guy I love!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I am very much head over heels for this guy lets call him Troy. Troy is my ex-BF and we broke up because i was pushing him away because after my last Bf and every other male in my life i find it very hard to trust guys. But when i started to trust ...

Keep it casual or a long term thing

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm in a casual dating relationship with a guy. He recently asked me if I wanted to "keep it casual or make it a long term thing". If he asked that, does it mean he wants more or is he just curious to know what I think?...

How important are those butterflies?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I am wondering if I should marry my boyfriend... We have been dating for almost a year, and I really enjoy his company. He is kind, thoughtful, fun, and we have very similar backgrounds and ideas on life. However, I have never had those "butterf...

Dating but ex has popped back into my life and I don't know what to do

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12 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend for 4 years. We just moved into a condo together. My ex from a few years ago just popped back into my life. Things with my current boyfriend are not great. We fight a lot, and we seem not to agree on anything ...

No sex with me but looking at porn

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - Hi. I've never done this before, but then again...I've never had the sort of problem that I have now. I am 26, and have a bf that is 28. When things started out, they were good. My bf seemed really into me. Lately, (and we've been together a ...

Boyfriend is nothing but a pothead!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5462 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is nothing but a pothead. I can't stand it. He's stuck in a dead end minimum wage job because he can't pass a drug test. He never follows through with anything at all. All he does is get high then eat everything in the house. The ...

I destroyed any chances of being with him again

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I'm going to apologize first because this is long but I am very desperate now so please help me. My ex and I were together for one month. That one month was amazing. We connected at first site. Long story short it was special. It was a short but ...

What is the most reasonable approach in choosing which guy to date?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5416 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - First I would like to thank anybody who is kind enough to read this and give me some advice. Now here is the story, I have a friend that I've know for a long time of which I kind of dated (not officially) for little while, but lost interest be...

Dating but have no feelings for him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month now. We've been in a difficult situation together because before we went out, he went out out with my ex-best friend (who was my "best friend" at the time) and she played with his feelings a lot, and ...

Kiss Me dot com?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5457 days ago

12 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is 50, a widower from his second marriage. I'm 48, never married. We met through an online dating service, matching 22 of 22 categories. We have been going out for over a month. We have a great time together. I feel as though he is ...

Telling a girl you want to be in a serious relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - how do you tell a girl you want to be in a serious relationship with her? she told me that she likes me, and she kissed me when we were together last, but she also said that she's never had a serious boyfriend, that she's always been used (i don't ...