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36-40,
anonymous
writes:heyi have been with my boy friend for 2 and a half yrs now. and i keep giving clues for over a month that i want more then just kissing. i want to go futher as i want to have sex with him. but he isnt getting the message and i dnt want to ask him straight out, i want it to be romantic when we do it, but not forced.what should i do?????
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reader, calabarguy  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 If you talk to him explicitly about sex...he may even suspect you. Let everything be spontaneous.
Maybe the guy is a virgin...you don't need to make him all shy. When you say your man doesn't see the signs you give him, believe me, he sees all.
Got an idea! Make him touch a sensitive part near the abdomen, and the man will explode. Men will always be men!
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 Have you two not done the deed because of views on marriage? At your age, even 2 months seems like a while to be in a relationship with someone without having sex.
Honestly, you need to talk to him. There is obviously some reason why he hasn't made a move. Why haven't you made a move and been more up front with him? Whatever your reason is, it could also be his.
Also, just because you tell him you are ready for sex doesn't mean that you have to strip down right there. You can talk to him, let him know you are ready to take things to the next level, and that way he can actually try to plan for a romantic night with you. But if he is holding back for whatever reason, now is the time to make your feelings known.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 Seems a bit strange. What is the situation with your relationship? Do you think you will get engaged? Does he ever talk about sex? I think either he has strong views on sex before marriage, or he is worried because he has some sexual hang-up (eg, maybe worried he isn't 'big' enough, or can't do it, or is a virgin, or something!), or he is gay.
You need to talk to him! He is holding back for some reason.
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