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writes:Two months ago I met a man and we have spent almost every day together. He swept me off my feet and was so amazing to me. He wanted me to move away with him within four weeks but i told him we were moving too fast. One month after this we went away and he was a completely different person. His temper came out, he got mad at me for talking to another man, and he made terrible comments about my friends we were traveling with. I did not confront him on the trip because of his temper. When we got home I called him and told him how mad I was about everything that happened. He went off on me and refuses to talk to me now and told me we were done. How does someone go from being so great to so mean? Is this relationship worth investing any more time into? I just don't get why he refuses to talk to me about this considering he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I was with a guy exactly the same, it happened over and over again with me having to apologise and accept it was all my fault just to keep the piece. He was controlling, a mental bully and emotionally immature. Oh yes he could be nice, lovely infact and absolutely stunning to look at. But boy did he have issues. The things he said about my friends and family were unforgiveable. He would storm out, sulk, silent treatment, cry and then it would start all over again a couple weeks later. Walk away and dont look back, he wont ever change, trust me. x
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reader, Full moon temptress1  +, writes (4 May 2009):
P{lease please walk away.I was involved with someone like this.They are charming and he will reel you in,when hes got you,they change.It took me ages to get out of the relationship,as i was madly in love and scared.PPlease be carefull.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 May 2009):
It's easy to pretend to be perfect, but after a few weeks the true you will always come out.
He's shown you what he's really like.
I bet most of his previous girls will have given him chances and he'll be sat there waiting for you to come and apologise for having a go at him. This is what happens. They yell at you, give you the silent treatment and wait for you to come grovelling back saying sorry.
Then you'll firmly know your place.
When you don't call he'll probably come after you and cry a bit but do not fall for this either.
Walk away and congratulations on being strong and clever enough to be able to do that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Well, you know what most companies do. They give you a 90-day probation period, and by then if you're still good, then you're hired as an official employee.
So yeah, I guess this guy's true colors came out. He sounds very jealous...and very immature. Probably has some issues to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): No!!! Don't even considerate! walk away now. You have seen his true colors...be grateful that you didn't pack up and move away with him.
If I were you, I truly would not pursue this! Once a man gets away with that...he will always turn his anger on you!
I read a great statement on this site earlier today...you can't be treated as a doormat if you don't lay down! Don't lay down for this guy!
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