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*iket389
writes:I have some insecurities as we all do i guess. However the girl im seeing seems to be hiding things from me. for example we went out last week with her friend and i happend to see a picture on her friends camera of a guy kissing her on the cheek. Not really a big deal in my book but when i was diddling with the camera she became nervous and said theres a picture of my friends boobs and took the camera. when i came back from the bathroom the camera was there and there were multiple pictures gone. she said the guy was a friend of hers and nothing more. but why delete the pictures and more than just one..even if it was a boob picture? To get to the point shes tried to reassure me that im the only one she wants to be with and that she just has a lot of guy friends. shes also verrry protective of her phone. i don't grab it or anything but she guards it with her life.. Were not dating so she can do whatever but i just can't get passed these feelings i have that shes hiding things and its really bringing me down. weve talked about it but i just think about it again later... I don't know what to do.. any help on suppressing the negative thoughts?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Find someone you can trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): If you're "not dating and she can do whatever" then she probably is doing whatever with whoever.
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reader, CupidLover  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Alright,Miket believe it or not...i was in the EXACT situation as you..except this was with my ex bf.
When we 1st started dating he was acting the very same way the girl ur dating is acting.
He used to guard his phone with his life,make sure there was a lock code on it,lies, etc etc.
Now,u said "suppress the negative thoughts" why suppress when ur gut feeling is just louder than your mind?
You seem like nice guy,do u really want to continue walking around constantly thinking and wondering what she's hiding?
Theres obviously no trust,and since theres no trust why go on? I don't want to tell you what to do,but this ex of mine later on admitted to having multiple girls on the side while i was with him,and silly me i stayed with him for 3 n a half years and ended up getting badly hurt in the end.
Please make a wise choice...and goodluck!
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