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Just friends or is there something more there?

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Question - (12 May 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2009)
A male United States age 36-40, *ealin writes:

Hello, i have a problem.

I am 26 years old and about 3 years ago i started going back to college. About 2 years ago I took a drawing class with this girl in it, she is 19 years old. I noticed her right away, she was very attractive. I eventually got the courage to start talking to her and we became friends, not really close friends but friends none the less. I quickly realized she had a boyfriend, I was dissapointed but I really wasnt that upset because i really didnt have alot of feelings towards her, YET.

Anyway, we would talk during class and we would walk to our cars together after class. Slowly I began to like her after getting to know her, we have a lot in common. I never really got my hopes about anything happening because she always had a boyfriend and they had been together for over 2 years. And to be honest i kinda felt weird about our ages, but now it really doesnt bother me,(should it).

Fast Forward to the present situation. Me and her and another friend started to hang out after class, going places and hanging out, but it was never just the 2 of us, i guess because she was still dating her boyfriend she couldnt just hang out with me alone. But one night Me and her and another friend was suppose to go to a movie, I show up to meet them to go to the movie and I find out that the other friend couldnt go so it was just going to be us 2. Which i was cool with and she was to. So we went, turns out the boyfriend found out and went crazy and pretty much they broke up over the situation. I felt very guilty because the boyfriend was accusing us of having "something between us" which i knew i wanted, but i didnt know about her. And i kinda feel she might like me because she could have easily said we could go to the movie another night when the other friend could go, but she didnt, and i dont know if she wanted to go because it was with me or what.

After that happened I have been thinking of her non stop, every time we see each other we both light up and smile, but i dont know if she likes me the way i like her, it is so hard to tell. We have never communicated over the internet but ever since she broke up with him, we have been talking alot on the internet. and we are suppose to go to the movies again but i felt i had to ask the other friend to camouflage my feelings towards her, bad move maybe, but she did ask me to pick her up so we could ride together, is that a sign that she wants to be alone with me, she could have just as easily asked the other friend to pick her up. We have became good friends and i dont want to ruin the relationship, Should i tell her how i feel, or not. I feel like if i dont she might get back together with her boyfriend. What should I do???? i cant get her out of my mind and i hope she feels the same way.

and for the ladies, do you think she likes me??

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A male reader, dealin United States +, writes (13 May 2009):

dealin is verified as being by the original poster of the question

found out that she is already back with her boyfriend, knew it was going to happen.

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A male reader, calabarguy Nigeria +, writes (12 May 2009):

calabarguy agony auntSlow down man. Fine girls always attract emotions from men over the long haul. What's best? Friendship or relationship? U decide that, and keep the emotions to the backwaters for some more time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009):

shes the one that actually ended it with him. He got mad over her going to the movies with me then 2 days later he acted like nothing was wrong , so she was over his jealousy, so she ended it. But she gives me such mixed signals. Like the other day i asked her to hang out and she said she had to go out to eat with her mom, then she was free. I never heard from her. Then she said she forgot, i wouldnt have forgotten if i wanted to spend time with her.but other stuff makes me think she does like me.

Thanks for your response

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A female reader, bellaaddison United States +, writes (12 May 2009):

I'd say she likes you... She didn't try to plead with her boyfriend when he broke up with her over you?? C'mon, clearly it's because she does have feelings for you! She could have fought for her current relationship (especially after investing 2 years) but she chose not to and now she is spending more time communicating with you? She definitely has an interest and wants to see where this could lead.

Take it slow, but definitely make a move. She's waiting.

Good Luck!

Bella

xoxo

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