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I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do?

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Question - (12 May 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do? They're currently LDR, but he's planning on coming to live here. Well, the thing is that he's 32 or 33 and she's 22. He's so annioying. He may be old, but he is so immature. He doesn't work, he's looking for a job, and he's so... I don't know how to say it... but he's the kind of guy that comes home for the first time and grabs things from the fridge, stays here all day, etc.

I've had it! Today he returned from his hometown and he came at .m. for breakfast! Then he stayed home while everyone was ouyt so he could have a shower. What?! My mom hates him too, but she's away now, and so my dad allowed my sister to let him do this. I hate it, I feel no privacy at home and I feel like he takes advantage of us. When he's here, he's in my house ALL DAY, we have to give him food because he has no money and my sister and him make me sick with all their love-talk. Ugh, can't I have privacy in my own home?

I can't complain about this because if I do, my sister will be hurt, and my dad will get angry. My dad dislikes him also, but he's afraid that if he forbids my sister from seeing him so much, she'll run away with him (she's obsessed with him).

My sister changes so much when she's around him, it's like nothing else in the world matters and he's her priority. She has missed class to be with him, etc. I hate what she's become! Her previous boyfriends were much nicer.

I have a boyfriend but our relationship isn't like this, we've been together for 3 years and he's very respectful, he still always asks if he wants something and he never stays here all day, to respect my family's privacy.

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A male reader, CommonSpencer United States +, writes (13 May 2009):

You could always leave roller skates at the top of the stairs when he's the only one there... Just kidding, but not really. How about you think of a plan to put your sister in a position where she needs to depend on him in some way and when he's not there for her she will realize he is not mr. right?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009):

i'm the op...

Ok, female anon I may not eb buying such things and I can't look for my own apt. because I don't live in the US and here things are much harder economically. I'm still in college, that's why I live with my parents, and so is my sister. What I don't get is why he seems to be more important o my family than me. And I think I'm more important to them than any guy I or my sister dates!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (12 May 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntI have two sisters and one of them had a husband who was the most obnoxious person on earth, so I can relate to what you are going through. However my sister finally wised up and divorced his stupid ass so maybe you can only hope your sister does what mine did and dumps the guy. However, in the mean time maybe you could start looking for a place of your own, you are old enough judging by your age bracket.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009):

Are you buying the groceries that he gets out of the fridge? No, your parents are. Do you own the house that he hangs out at? No, your parents do. You are an adult, if you want privacy, go rent an apartment.

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (12 May 2009):

kellyxxx agony aunt

You will just have to deal with it!

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