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writes:Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his soulmate, I was the first girl he introduced to his parents, and he told me his future was with me. I completely felt the same.Anyway, he's ridiculously insecure and paranoid and was convinced that I was always cheating on him which couldn't be further from the truth. I was totally loyal and devoted to him. I admit though that when we broke up, after about a week he said he didn't love me anymore, and the next night I kissed another guy and my ex saw. It devastated him. However, he was still adamant that I was the girl for him and he wanted to fix things. His mom also told me the same thing in private.He ended things again in the heat of the moment last week which made me really nad cos we were supposed to be working on things and we had not spoken in a week. Another ex of mine, who is now a very good friend,and who has been trying to help me through all this and has been giving me advice on how to gey my recent ex back, was out last night, and my more recent ex came over to talk to him (my recent ex does not know that I have been chatting to my other ex..we are purely friends though and I would have no problem in anyone knowing we were chatting again).Anyway, he began to say really horrible stuff about me to my ex/friend, like he didn't trust me, that I was cheating on him and that he never loved me. My friend/ex told me everything today and I was gutted because a big part of me still felt like we could fix things. I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?:(
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 You've only been together six months. That's still the honeymoon period. Count your blessings that you got away from him before his insecurity and paranoia got worse!
If you go back to him you're going to go through this drama all the time. All the time. Life is too short for that mess.
Good luck.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Try to get him to go to some kind of couples' councilor with you or try to get someone who you are both friends with to be a mediator in conversations that you have with each other on this subject. he must trust you for this relationship to work. if you could gently suggest therapy to him it sounds like he has a real problem with jealousy. Tell him you don't think he's crazy, just unrealistic. Don't give up! good luck, and dont b kissin anyone where he might c u!lol
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reader, IamSoConfused  +, writes (31 July 2009):
He is obviously a nasty person and you should try and get over him. Don't contact him or speak to him and see if he changes and tries to contact you instead.
You don't need such a person in your life that would say nasty things behind your back after you split up and while you are trying to sort things out.
Good luck :)
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