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female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Most of my boyfriends have been really nice, my current bofriend is no exception. He's the best by far and wouldn't ever hurt me. When we first got together, we had conversations about our future; moving in together, children and marriage. When discussing these in the beginning had no issues whatsoever, but now i can't stand the thought of it all. I know he'd be perfect for all those kinds of things, but i'm really not ready. It feels like the relationship has come too soon, i feel as though i'm too young to make any big plans and although he isn't forcing me to do anything, i've just finished university and i know he'd like to move in together.At the moment i'm not really sure what to do, he's a little older than me and obviously wants all these big things within the next few years. I'm chickening out, i hate the thought of being tied down and i'm curious about what else is out there. Should we break up? If so will i ever be ready for big commitments? or am i just getting cold feet?
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reader, QuirkLady + ♥, writes (1 August 2009):
 How long have you been together?
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (1 August 2009):
 Should you break up now to spare yourself (and him) pain later?
Why ruin a good thing?
Women have far more options than we did many years ago and many of us are delaying marriage and children to pursue them. You're hardly alone in your thinking.
If you feel pressured to make a big committment, whether it's self imposed or from an outside source, intentional or otherwise, it's understandable that you feel inclined to resist it.
There is no rush, no deadline and not wanting one NOW doesn't mean you'll never want one.
You're normal. Relax.
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