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Dating: Help and advice

My friends at uni are "scoring" and I'm not. It's starting to affect my confidence. Can you help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Hi. I'm in my first year of university. I'm quite enjoying my time here, but there is something troubling me. I keep hearing all these stories of my friends going out and "scoring" with women. I'm quite an outgoing person, but I've been out ...

Should I hold on to her? Even if our relationship time is limited?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - I just need advice. Ok, so here's what's going on. I'm pretty much in my first real relationship, the girl I'm going with is great. But recently, she told me she plans on keeping her virginity until she's married which is a bit of a bummer because...

Why wont he and how can I get him to?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - dear cupid, my fiance and i have been together for three years now and he has only perform oral on me three times whereas i lose track of how many times i heve gave him oral.i have asked why he wont do it and all he says is i just dont want to.im ...

My ex boyfriend and I... advice as I'm going nuts here!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up almost 3 months ago We had a crazy break up- hate eachother one minute/ love the next. He eventually asked me to be friends so I agree after much hesitation. So we hung out, had sex- sleepovers. That eventually stoped, ...

I recently found out that my boyfriend slept with his ex girlfriend...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - hey guys I really need everyones opinion on this please im realllllly confused atm... I recently found out that my boyfriend slept with his ex girlfriend 3 months into out 10 month relationship... it was a funny way we started the relationship... ...

Her parents are making her break up with me, help!!!!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 15 and my gf is 14, we've been going out for 4 and a half months now, I really love her and she really really really really loves me, her parents just found out about us, and they're making her break up with me in front of them!!!!! What do ...

Should I contact her and let her know what her fiance has been doing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I was in a relationship for about a year with a man from another country. I just found out that he has a fiance waiting for him there. I had no idea, and now we are not seeing each other (obviously). Initially, he gave me her contact informat...

My boyfriend hardly kisses me and is always making excuses for it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5558 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about a 1 year but we hardly kiss. The weird thing is that when we talk about the things we like doing with each other, he says that he loves kissing my lips because they are so soft. We can go for months without ...

Your opinions needed... What is wrong with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - We have been going out for a year. We both love each other. I am suspecting that he is cheating on me with this other girl.. The other day he told me that he hasn't been talking to her recently and told me that she has a boyfriend anyhow. I still ...

Did I overreact since we aren't in a committed relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months now we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but we a understanding that we arent seeing other people he just isnt ready for a committed relationship and I respect that but the other day he f...

Why didn't he ask her to marry him after 9 years?

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16 February 2009 (F) - Dear All, I planned to forward this question coz I'm kinda worried about this cousin of mine. She has been seeing this guy for about 9 years now. But she told me that he has never touched her or asked her sexually, except "the kissing" thing. Right ...

Did he change his mind about his feelings or was he being shy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - hi guys, basically i have gotten to know this guy through friends and we have started getting to know each other better. basically we exchanged numbers etc and text continuously like everyday! anyway, valentines day, he texts me asking me to be...

Why is it soooo hard for guys to express their feelings?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Ok, so this V-Day started off great with my boyfriend! But ended in a disaster. :-( We've been dating for almost a month. We watched a live sports game. Afterwards, he had planned for us to go to a hotel, with jacuzzi, and have a little wine. I j...

I don't have any faith in myself anymore!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I have very low self esteem. Im 20 years old and i have no boobs what so ever. I cant come for the life of me. I feel completely defective as a woman. My boyfriend used to read porn before he came with me, but he stopped after starting a ...

My new b/f is obsessed with making out and I'm only 13!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - my new boy friend is obbsesed with making out and im only 13 so ive never made out with a guy. i really want to make out with him but idk and i really like you but will it be wierd? hes also had alot of experiance so what if he expects me to be ...

Shall I dump my b/f and get back with Bryan or not...?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - A few months ago i started goin into a chatroom for the first time. I met a guy in there(Bryan)and he was very kind and caring. After a few weeks of just being frends i started to develop emotions for him. I didnt want to tell Bryan how i felt ...

I'm 13 and my boyfriend (15) wants to have sex with me!

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4515 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I need you advice. My boyfriend (15) wants to have sex with me, but I think I am too young. What do you say? I really would like to have sexual intercourse, but I'm not sure whether I am old enough to decide that....

He was all sweetness one minute then the next says he's not IN love with me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5558 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Dear cupid, I wrote you a month ago. My boyfriend said he loved me but is not in love with me. I stayed with him for a month after that. He said his feelings might change. I don't know what happened, he was so nice and sweet and then one day he s...

I'm not sure now if I did the right thing... advice needed!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Hey guys, I'm 18 and just dumped my bf of 2 years. He's spoilt and full of pride. When I dumped him I was kind of hoping he would beg me not to. Instead he just said ok! It hurt so bad and I really don't know what to do......

I have a boyfriend but have a crush on someone else...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I'm a 13 year old girl who has had a crush on a guy 2 years older than me for a few months now. At the same time I still feel strongly about my boyfriend. Unfortunately I'm not sure if he feels the same anymore. If things are to die with my curr...

Been together 10 years but he said he'll NEVER tie the knot...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I am a 25 year old female. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We have a 8 year old daughter together. When we first meet we began shopping for wedding rings. He told me he wants me to have the best. Now later down the line he has said ...

Why am I turned off by boyfriend's attention (or lack thereof) to my breasts?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - When my BF and I started dating, we talked a lot about sex, what we liked, what we didn't ,etc. I made it clear how much I liked my breasts to be touched, etc and he happily complied (or so I thought). Although he says he's not a Breast Man, but he ...

We're ready to move our relationship up a notch... how is this usually done?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Hey... I'm 18 and I have very little experience with the whole "dating" thing. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months, and I think we are ready to move up a notch in our relationship (I'm talking physically here)... Ok, I should say I ...

Childish behaviour?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly two months now and we had our first proper argument the other day. At an inappropriate time I mentioned how sometimes she can be selfish in always doing the things she wants to do. We soon made up ...

What a guy wants...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - This is a question to be answered by the fellas. It seems it is so confusing what you guys want. You all want sex and you want to sleep with a girl early on in a relationship. But, if a girl does sleep with you early on, then she is too easy and ...

He never wants to spend quality time with me and I'm beginning to distrust him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I am a 25 year old black girl dating a 50 year old white guy, we've been dating for a year now. He told me that he separated with his wife but my corncern is he only sees me during weekends and he told me that he will make love to me if only I get ...

Her ex popped up just as I was leaving. I find this difficult to handle.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5557 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - I recently spent the night with my girlfriend to celebrate valentines. The next morning I left to go home and an ex she had intimate relations with dropped by to use the restroom. I had a real issue with it and he knew she was seeing someone. So she ...

How can I keep the noise down during sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - This is a little daft asking I think but here goes... I live in uni halls, a block of 16, and our walls are very thin. Last time my boyfriend came over to stay the night my next door neighbour made a joke about being able to hear everything through ...

I couldn't get an erection because I was too nervous, how can I relax more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Hey I'm 15 and the other day I went to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time (my first time ever), but I couldn't get an erection. I already posted a question on why this was and people said it was because of nerves, if this is the case...

Should we slow it right down and just date for a while and see what happens? Someone help!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - I came out of a long term relationship and after 5 weeks I met Lucy. She had come out of a 9 year marriage just 4 months before. Her husband walked out on her and her son. We hit it off straight away and the chemistry was electric. We did...

B/f can't focus beyond where his brain stops processing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - My b/f is not very experienced in the sex department. Although he seems to know what he is doing, he is still very unsure of a lot. Especially for his age. :o( So here's the thing. I've told him a few times that my fav. thing is to be fingered. ...

My b/f is so unromantic!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - this is now getting 2 my nerves,my boyfriend is soo unromantic,like on valentines,he didnt get me anything,i feel so sad and jealousy when i see how other gals r treated special. what can i do to change him and upgrade him because this sometime...

My room mate also happens to be my ex husband and my boyfriend finds that difficult...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5546 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I have an interesting situation in my life, and not sure how to help my boyfriend understand it. I have a roommate - who also happens to be my ex hubby. I AM divorced from him. We have been the best of friends since we were 16 (both in our mid to ...

I don’t think he’s had time too heal... what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I’m confused. I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year; I love him a lot and care for him. He has a child of 3 with another woman... A few days ago she called and they ended up arguing. He was really upset, he said when she broke up with hi...

I must be the world's worst girlfriend...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I've always had a problem with commitment and very rarely do I get past 3 months with a guy. It normally gets to a point where sex stops, I don't get in the mood for it, any little things that they do really irritate me... but it's not them, I know ...

I am not happy with her double standards!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend of over 4 years. She has 2 kids (18 and 20) due to her request of no sex or sleeping over while the kids were in the house, until they were 18 years old. This request was made years ago. Now that they are both of age I told her ...

My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex, is it too much to ask? It's his mess after all? All my previous boyfriend's were happy to do it....

Am I too scared to commit?

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16 February 2009 (?) - I am going to cut the self pity part and simplify it- I have so far had 4 serious bf's and one serious hook-up. (by serious I mean, I really really REALLY liked them) 3 of them cheated on me. One even had sx with another girl while i was on a trip, ...

End of a long relationship! I'm only 15! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Hi, I really need help. My ex boyfriend left me after a 1 year and 4 month relationship and I cannot cope at all... Throughout our relationship he always said these things exactly: "I promise that I love you and only you" "I promise that W...

I like him, he's not over her! Is there something more between us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5559 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - im newly single. left my ex to live a life. around new years i met this guy, lets call him j. when i first met him i told him i didnt want anything because i just got out of my engagement... well, we hit it off pretty well, and i ended up sleepin ...

Met him at a wedding, I don't know what to think, does he feel the connection as I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - this is my story its really long though,please answer my question it would mean the world to me...i'm 15 and the guy i like is 19..we live far from each other,he lives in milwakee and i live in az so we dont see each other..i went to milwakee to a ...

Why does he ignore me for so long but then acts like he loves me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - ive been "together" with this guy for about a year now. hes never made a real commitment to me and we dont consider each other our boyfriend or girlfriend. i just turned 18 and hes 21 so its hard for us to hangout on weekends and stuff bc im at p...

She's worried she will called a whore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Hello! I really need some help! So theres this girl I really like. Shes hasn't lasted more then 3 days with out dating someone until now. Shes dated 3 people since shes has moved here to my town. Shes looking for a good relationship. So...

Why would he not respond?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Why would a guy initiate contact with you via text, and then just not respond to you after that? This guy that I've kind of seen a couple times called me after not talking in a while, but I didn't pick up because I didn't want to seem too availab...

How can he be so interested and then poof? Gone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Okay, so I met this guy back in Jan and we got together twice, and talked on the phone every day or every other day, then he went away on business. While he was gone we would still talk over the phone every day or every other day and he would even ...

He says we should just livein the moment

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (?) - I am confused. I am leaving my country beginning of June. Me and my Bf have ben together for three months. he says he loves me, and that we should not think of that moment (when i leave). But if i am leaving that soon, he can't really love me can h...

Short girl tall guy?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3751 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - How do tall guys 6'3/6'4 feel about short girls? I'm 5'1 and I've been feeling really insecure about it lately b/c the guy I like is around 6'3-6'4 hes a giant..how can I kiss him? is it strange to u guys if you were with a short girl? how do u ...

My b/f? Or my good friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I have no idea what to do! I mean i'm only 14 and i have a boyfriend in Nicaragua who told me he loves me (which i doubt sometimes) and a really good friend...and he told me he loved me...i have no idea what to do! I have a feeling that i love them ...

When will I ever be attracted to another guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I had been seeing a man for 2 years, he had a girlfriend, but i was very much in love with him and believed we would end up together. I thought I would give him time to work out his life and if it was me he wanted to be with - but I wasnt. He is now ...

Call me a bitch or a whore but you know I'm right.

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - I really laid it on thick with this guy who already had a girlfriend. I even made made him cheat on his girlfriend by having sex with him while they were together. They were together for two years and broke up two months ago after she caught us ...

Will having anal sex hurt me or will I feel pleasure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been toghether for 2 years. Our relationship got physical a while ago but he says he wants to try anal. I am really scared of doing it because it will be the first time I have done that but I don't know whether to let him ...

Should I tell my boyfriend I let his friend finger me???

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5554 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - Hey, One day I was at my boyfriends and he introduced me to his best friend. At first I wasn't attracted to him but as time went on I started to like him more and more. A few weeks later we were all under a blanket watching a film and he held my ...

Why does my ex ask if I'm dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5560 days ago

16 February 2009 (M) - Why does my ex girlfriend who I have a child with consistently ask if I am dating? She is the one who left the relationship and is now dating someone and I never ask her. Please advise. ...

Dating cousins.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5548 days ago

16 February 2009 (F) - My sister confided in me last night that her and our cousin have been dating. His great, great, grandfather married my great, great, grandmother and they had kids and those kids had his mom. Therefore, he is blood. As my sister told me about them ...