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writes:My b/f is not very experienced in the sex department. Although he seems to know what he is doing, he is still very unsure of a lot. Especially for his age. :o(So here's the thing. I've told him a few times that my fav. thing is to be fingered. So the other night when he was over, I was so tired...I started falling asleep on him. He was ok with this. However, I was just starting to fall into a deep sleep, and through my fog could feel his hand going below my waist line. I asked him what he was doing - he says "Just trying to make you feel good". I asked him..."while I'm falling asleep??" He comes back with "well you told me you love being fingered!" I said " yes I do, but there is a time and a place for everything while I'm asleep/falling asleep is not one of them" He comes back with " But!....you told me you love being fingered?!?!?" It's like he can only focus on what he's being told, and not the common sense surrounding it, if everyone understands what I mean...??? So, how do I get him to focus on not being soooo ...ummm literal??? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (16 February 2009):
bless him, he just needs you to train him a little. men sometimes need a little help with making a woman feel good. you need to tell him when you like to be touched, such as when you are both making out, not falling asleep. remember if you touched him when he was falling asleep he would probably love it, as he is a guy! just direct him in the right direction. he will learn soon enough.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (16 February 2009):
 You sound like a very likeable person with a good sense of humour, judging by your posting. Despite being frustrated by your man, you still see the funny side of it by asking him "and you do this now why??" LOL
Like Penguin64 said, you need to "train" him on how to "read" you (and vice versa of course). That way he'll be quick to pick up the signs!
Lots of luck!
Cat
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reader, penguin64 +, writes (16 February 2009):
 just sounds like he's being a bit thick. i think its one of those things where after time of being told no! he will learn the times when you want it and when you dont. then it should be ok. maybe you should explain that its more something like foreplay.xx
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